What information do I need to find my birth mother?

Question

I'm 18 and can't get non-id info until I'm 21. Can I still find my birth mother?

Answer 1

It depends on what state you were born in and adopted in. You can contact me through my profile and I can put you in touch with people who can help. I found my original family 3 years ago and have had a very positive experience.

Answer 2

You might be able to find her or another birth relative by registering with adoption registries.  Google them and register with as many as possible, you never know where you might find her.

I wish you all the best!

Answer 3

Why don't you have access being 18? You should, I believe. My parents went to court over custody of me and my dad wasn't allowed custody, in return he also didn't have to pay support - but I was allowed to contact him when I was 18 and there was nothing anyone could do. It was my right. (My parents were young, unmarried, he just returned from Viet Nam and was a mess emotionally).

If you have her name, start searching phone directories. You might want to contact the adoption agency too and find out as much as you can.

Be prepared for everything emotionally - are you looking for her to fill something missing inside you? She might not do that - it's a hard thing for a person to do for another. People are people and they behave as they will. She might be nice, she might not want to be bothered. Take a very hard realistic look at everything before contacting her if you do find her.

I contacted my dad, for the most part, it's been great - but there are things I still don't have answers for - which I wanted. I have 2 brothers on his side - one has NOTHING to do with me (pretty painful to deal with at first), his wife was not welcoming for 7+ years (I wasn't looking for a step-mom, so I didn't really care - but I still had to deal with her interferance). I made sure I was in a place emotionally that I could handle total rejection without thinking it was MY fault and blaming myself. That's my advice to you. Know that you were adopted, chosen! You are loved by your family now and whatever you find in her, take it for what it is. Don't go looking for her with expectations because it may or may not happen.

Best Wishes!!!

Answer 4

You can if she is searching for you already.  Enter your information at a registries in your state of birth and do a google search including your date of birth and the agency you believe the adoption was done through.

Don't feel badly if you don't find information right away. Even women who want to search don't always start listing information  the moment the child turns 18.  Also, it helps to find others who have searched in your state. They can give you tips that you wouldn't otherwise know about.

Answer 5

Do you know her first and last name? also were your adoption took place (town,province)? If she is looking or you the CAS that you were in when you were born should tell you some info. I 'm adopted but I'm also 39 yrs. old and I found my birth mom and met her 5 yrs. ago . Good luck!

Answer 6

Try the adoption registry for the state that you were born in.  Most birthmothers register on there for free when they sign the consent forms for adoption.  It is free and you can go on it when you are 18.  Good luck.

Answer 7

First ask yourself why you want to know? Are you in a bad situation and you think they will make it better. Did you just find out you were adopted Or are you happy but wondering where you came from?

Second, have you talked to your adoptive parents about this? Sometimes this information is made available to the parents while going through the adoption process.

Answer 8

I just found by birth mother this past February. It took some standing on peoples' desks on my part but the actual process was straight forward. Mind you, this pertains to Ohio adoptions between like 65 and 93 or some such time frame. I filed a petition for release of my record with the probate court in the county that my adoption took place in. As part of that petition, I had to give date of birth and location. I also had to pay a fee to file. The hard part was next, I had to wait. I would call the court every so often particularly near the end, 30 days from the date the court notifies the adoption agency of the petition, to check and see what was found. Well the date came and went so I started calling about once a week. I was using the "squeaky wheel gets the grease" approach. We I eventual found out that my birth mother had file a release with the agency, and I made contact shortly there after.

To answer your question, it depends on your state. At 18 you are considered an adult and should be able to get all information regarding your adoption based on your state's laws. It maybe that you need to file a petition with the court that finalized your adoption. You can check with the actual agency. That is what lead me to the court in the first place. Good luck and I hope that you find what you are looking for.

Answer 9

ask ur adoptive parents. They may know something

Answer 10

first name and last name   is good.look her up on the white pages.

Answer 11

In Kansas, all I had to do was request a copy of my original pre-adoption birth certificate from the state. That gave me her name at the time of my birth. You can search public records to find out if she has been married, etc. I ended up being lucky enough to find one of her next door neighbors from her childhood online. You might want to start at your local courthouse to find out the specific laws in your state. Best of luck to you!

Answer 12

at the age of 18 you should be entitled to review the records of your adoption from the place you were adopted from..there are also some places in the u.s. that will help you .check with yellow pages dot com in the city of your birth and good luck. don't expect a lot that way you won't be disappointed and keep in mind that 18 years have gone by in your birth parents lives so they won't be the same people they were when you were born. good luck honey