What is a bridal shower for?

Question

i know this is dumb, but what is a bridal shower for anyway?

Answer 1

I think PugMom and the other ladies have pretty much hit the nail on the head... but in addition, shower gifts tend to be those things that the bride and groom register for that they might want to use during their wedding--- for instance: toasting flutes, the cake cutter, the cake topper, etc. :)

Hope this helps! ;)

Answer 2

A bridal shower is a gift giving party given for a bride before her wedding. The custom originated in the United States, although the first stories about these events have been known to originate in Brussels, Belgium around 1860. It remains a primarily US and Canadian practice. Showers are usually coordinated by the bridesmaids, who invite guests to offer gifts for the home of the bride and groom.

The custom of the bridal shower is said to have grown out of earlier dowry practices when a poor woman's family might not have the money to provide a dowry for her, or when a father refused to give his daughter her dowry because he did not approve of the marriage. In such situations, friends of the woman would gather together and bring gifts that would compensate for the dowry and allow her to marry the man of her choice. A frequently quoted legend traces the origin of this practice to sixteenth or seventeenth century the Netherlands. However there are also parallels with many dowry practices and the US Colonial or hope chest (trousseau) custom.[1]

In the United States bridal showers started in urban areas in the 1890s, mainly among the upper middle classes. By the 1930s bridal showers had spread to rural America.[2]

The earliest use of this sense of the word in print may be in the Grand Rapids Michigan Evening Press 22 June 4, 1904: "The ‘shower parties’ that through mistaken hospitality the wedded couple are forced to attend..." And may derive from the custom in Victorian times for the presents to be put inside a parasol, which when opened would "shower" the bride-to-be with gifts.[3]

[edit] Bridal shower etiquette

Many different customs have developed in different regions and social groups. But the basic format has been relatively unchanged for generations, and emphasizes traditional gender roles. Sociologists like Beth Montemurro note that the ritual of the bridal shower "socializes women into the hyper-feminized traditional wife role", with its emphasis on the future role of the bride-to-be as family cook, homemaker and sexual partner. But this role is more of a homage to the mothers and grandmothers than a reflection of how the bride-to-be will actually behave in the marriage.

Although the format has remained relatively consistent, there have been some significant changes. An etiquette guide from the 1920s suggested showers should be "purely spontaneous and informal", with guests arriving unannounced at the bride-to-be's home, while a planning guide from the 1950s suggests more complex themes and games.[4]

Traditionally, hosting the bridal shower falls on the Maid of honor. Because gifts are required of those who attend the shower, some communities consider it rude for a relative of the bride to host it, but relative-hosted showers are a common and accepted occurrence in other communities. The shower normally takes place four to six weeks before the wedding.

The number of guests and their relationship to the bride varies widely. In Canada among some immigrant communities parties in community halls with upwards of 300 guests were normal, while other cultures emphasized intimate parties with only close friends and relatives

Answer 3

It's a chance for a) family and friends to start the couple off with the things they're going to need in their home (wedding gifts do this too, but it's one more chance, and it's a more personal celebration). b) the family to celebrate with the couple (or the bride's girlfriends to celebrate with her)

Answer 4

A Bridal Shower is an event where the bride's female friends and family gather to shower her with gifts from her registry.  The purpose of the party is go give the bride these gifts so she can use them in setting up her new, married household.   The registry is usually at a store like Bed, Bath and Beyond, Macy's or Target.  

Answer 5

A bridal shower gives your girlfriends and female family members a chance to celebrate with you, offer ideas and encourage you as the time gets closer to the big day. When you get married you will have less time for your girlfriends and female family members to get together this way and if you have children there will be even less time. It's a great time for your female friends and family to offer gifts and blessings to you - that's why you don't throw one for yourself - it's supposed to be like a gift from them to you.