What is a good age gap between kids?

Question

My daughter is 7 months old. And we are thinking of trying for another one next year. So by time I give birth to the second kid my first kid would be 2 years old. Is that a good age gap? What is the perfect age gap between kids?

Answer 1

Yeah, I'd say 2-3 years is the ideal gap... however they'll probably be much closer when they're older if they're between 5-7 years apart.

Answer 2

I think that 2-3 is a good age gap so that the kids would have something in common to talk about and not live in a totally different generation, y'know what I mean?

Answer 3

I say between 2 & 3 yrs apart is good. This way the older one is old enough to help out somewhat with the new baby. I have a year and a half year old and and am 11 weeks pregnant which will turn out perfect with the age difference!

Answer 4

I'm only 17 years old but I'm going to tell you what I think.

I am 5 years apart from my sister and we are at each other throats constantly. I don't know why I just can't stand her.

My little brother on the other hand is 11 years younger than me. We are like two peas in a pod. We get along so well.

I think children that are 1-2 years a part would get along for the most part, and they would be going through the same changes in their lives at about the same time. (which might make it easier for you)

I hope this helps. Good Luck! :]

Answer 5

Two years is a decent amount of time...although it depends on your work schedule and several other factors.

And as for what the person above my answer said- it doesn't matter the s*x- there will always be competition. Or the ages.

Answer 6

Yes, two years is a good age gap

Answer 7

two years should be good but if they're the same s*x there might be competition.

Answer 8

i went to both extremes. my daughter is 12 and my boys are 4 and 5. there are only 9 1/2 months between the 2 boys.

Answer 9

lol I asked this question yesterday and got about 13 answers. All but one said 2 to 3 years is a good age gap. I think I agree with them.

Answer 10

2.5 - 3 years is good I think.

Answer 11

3 1/2 years is great. Time it so your children are actually 4 school years apart. That way, you won't have two going to college at the same time. Always thinking ahead....

3 1/2 years difference helps children to have their own friendship group without competition from a sibling. They are close enough to enjoy family vacations together, but parents don't tend to compare the children so easily when they are this far apart.

When you have children further apart, you have to do mental gymnastics all the time. Believe me, I know!  My first two were 3 1/2 years apart...perfect!!  Then, along came our surprise package 11 years later. It's like having two seperate families. Most couples don't have our situation, but even 5 years is enough to make a parent do mental gymnastics between two levels of development.

Answer 12

2 years is perfect

Answer 13

I don' think there is a "perfect formula" for this.  Some kids who are two years apart are best friends for life.  Some hate each other.  You can't manufacture chemistry just by spacing, birth order, etc!  Do it when it feels right to you and your husband - physically, emotionally, etc.  Be the best parents you can be and encourage and nurture a good relationship between siblings and your unique family will be as happy as they possibly can be!  

My husband and I want to wait a little longer so that we can enjoy our time with our first child more before changing the family dynamic (in a good way, but a change none the less) with baby #2.  But we know lots of couples that wanted to get pregnant right away with #2 (or 3, 4, etc).  Don't worry about perfect timing, it is all a myth and it is different for everyone.  Do what feels right for your family, and it will be the right decision.