What is a good incentive program for good behavior with kids?

Question

I want to positively motivate my kids to behave well, not fight with their siblings, do chores, homework, etc. I'm not expecting perfect kids, but just looking for some type of positive way of incenting them or motivating them to action.

Answer 1

We have a sticker board on the fridge.  Each day they go without fighting it is a sticker, chores done another one and listening and doing what told is another one.  At the end of the month they get a quarter for each sticker they have on their board for the month and they can spend it how they choose.  If today they get all of the stickers and tomorrow they act like a brat then they loose a sticker from the previous day plus do not get a new one.

Answer 2

a sticker chart, the more stickers they get the bigger reward they get at the ened of the week, if one child has more than the other, the other child will learn that it is good to be a good kid xo

Answer 3

praise and encouragement

Answer 4

I have a sticker chart.  If I know they really want something I set a limit of for instance, if you have 30 stickers we will get you that item.  However if there is bad behaviour stickers can be lost too.  For my kids this works like a charm.  Good Luck!!

Answer 5

Well it really depends on what is available to you.

If my kids are good all week, they get to go rent a movie on the week end,  or go to the theater to watch a movie,  our school allows open swim.  or they may choose to go out for dinner they can pick only one.

Usually one picks swimming, and the other picks the movie so they get two really but neither one costs much so no big deal.  Besides it is a great way to spend some time as a family so it is win win.  you get good kids, and  you get to have fun.

Answer 6

OK this is what I did. I went out to the store and bought some marbles and four clear jars.  (i have two children i do this with) you can label the jars like happy and sad or put a star on one to basically be able to tell them apart. you need too jars per child.  so at the beginning of the week the kids have no marbles in there "happy jar" they can earn them though out the week . like by doing extra chores, being nice sharing etc.  each marble is worth ten cents (i make it so that each kid can only earn up to five dollars a week)  so if they are doing the right thing they can add marbles to the happy jar...but if they misbehave in some way they must move a marble to the sad jar.  at the end of the week (sat for us) they get to count up their marbles and cash in for their money.  they may not make any money or they may make 5 bucks or somewhere in between.  then we start all over. my kids are almost 4 and almost 8 and they love seeing if hey have marbles in the happy jar, plus counting then every week is helping with their money skills .  Hope this all makes sense !!

Answer 7

This is what we do in our house.

We have two children(ages 6 and 2), so I will tell you from that point.

We have two charts in our living room. One with each child's name on it. Then next to it, we have a packet of stickers. When we see our child behaving(helping clean-up, not getting angry, putting away toys...) we give them a sticker. When they reach 10 stickers(usuallay in about a month) we take them out and buy them a toy under $20. It works real well for us, and we intend to use it on our third child when he is older. It really only works from ages 2 and up. That is when we started with both our children. Good luck!!

Answer 8

This really works: Do the work and you won't beat them with your belt!

Answer 9

ALL kids fight with their siblings, it's a natural phenomenen.  As for DISCIPLINING your children I found that accentuating their positive behavior, lots of praise when they did what they were supposed to do as opposed to giving attention to negative behavior, plus rules and privliges where they have to EARN certain things (television, video game time, computer time and telephone time) Works very well.

Answer 10

Well, as long as it doesn't involve a lot of junk food or large amounts of money at a time you should be fine.

My family has the Sticker deal: when you do something, you get a sticker, and after so many stickers you can redeem them for a special treat of your choice, or you can save up as vouchers to get a toy you really want.

Answer 11

dont give money for everything , it is not the answer , try something like,, set up a chore chart , give a set amount of money for each chore what ever u think is fair

for example i do

homework 50cents

bath 25cents

make bed 25 cents

but if a chore is not done they lose that amount also

and put the money in a jar or something give it to them daily

so they can watch it grow but also if the bad happens make them remove it and give u the amount for the " crime "

i get chore charts from www.dltk-cards.com/chart

u can pick pictures and set up custom chores ( fill in the blanks then print)

i use an outing for good behavior like feed the ducks or go to the park to play , movie nite  we rent a movie and fix popcorn and special smoothies homemade cookies and watch 2 movies , we do this  1 nite every week our kids look forward to it and now the fight is about who's turn it is to pick the movie so there is a chart for that too now

Answer 12

Give them privileges when they do what they are supposed to do.   (Watch TV, rent a movie, have a friend over etc)

Answer 13

Money always works

Answer 14

lblack eyed peas / jellybean

Use to coffee cans for this. make sure there is no lid. every time ur kids do a good deed they get to put a black eyed pea in the jar. at the end of the month whoever has the most black eyed peas gets the amount of jellybeans (black eyed pea jar 1+#2= jellybeans)    thi is fun

Answer 15

hold a competition each week for best child. this will make them try to out do each other. the winner will get some sort of little prize eg chocolate/ money.

this should work unless they gang up on you and just steal the chocolate or money : )

Answer 16

The chore chart worked like a charm in our house.  Ours has Velcro so that I can move the chores around daily.  I have also posted what is expected for each chore.  Having the visualization and ability to reference the information makes it a lot easier for the kids.  And I think there is something satisfy for them about taking down the chore when they are finished.  We then keep an index card with each child's name on it for each chore they complete they get one punch.  After a preset number of punches, the child gets to pick a family activity to do together.  It works out really well but you may want to put a dollar limit on the family activity.

Answer 17

if your kids are old enough to play on computer use it as a tool my oldest 2 boys are 9 and 5 they get 30 min a day computer time they can loose it or add to it any extra time added is played on the weekends

Answer 18

Make charts with phrases or pictures to represent each expectation you have for your children. Every time the task is successfully completed, mark the square with a sticker or star. After a predetermined amount of time (like a week) count the marks and provide an agreed-upon reward if the goal is met (trip to McD's, CEC's, movie night, etc.). If not met, try again next week.

This was very successful for us because it visualized our expectations for our daughter. She could look at it and see what was expected and she was always eager to see the stickers go up! Good luck and stay sane!

Answer 19

My daughter uses the star system, we went out and purchased a blank chart. At the end of each week, we go over her schoolwork, and she gets a star for each day that she brought home good grades on her work, and did her chores.  If she did not get an A that day, or didn't do her chores, no star. At the end of the week she should have 5 stars (mon-fri). If she has 5 stars, on Saturday she can either redeem them for 50 cents each star, or a treat such as an ice cream, or a movie rental at blockbuster. Gives her an incentive to stay on track, because if she doesn't have 5 stars, she gets nothing.