What is a good marriage to you?

Question

Someone give me some solid advice on what to have.

Answer 1

A relationship where you feel at ease and where you can be yourself because you know you are accepted and loved for what you really are;  where you can talk openly and are never afraid to express your thoughts and/or feelings; and where you and your spouse are the priority and want to make each other happy.  

Answer 2

Don't settle but be reasonable. You don't have to have every thing in common but you should have some common interests. Trust comes first then love. Without trust there can be no healthy relationship. A marriage needs all that and tons more it depends are who you are how you grow up and what you expect out of life. Make a semi-flexable list of what you desire in the perfect person (ps no such thing) and find someone who fits it as closely as possible that loves you for you and won't try to change you. If you change for the better because of her influence then that's great but if she tries to do it you will only resent her for it. Have a wonderful life and be patient ever lasting love is out there and will come when you least expect it. (haha that's sounded like a fortune teller....sorry) Take care I hope I helped

Answer 3

A good marriage is:

~one in which love deepens over time and ages like a fine wine - getting richer year after year

~one in which both partners feel loved, valued, appreciated

~communication is such that there is always interesting conversation, genuine sharing, and each feels heard and understood

~conflict is resolved by negotiating, seeking constructive solutions and being creative and open to what works for both

~dreams, goals are shared so instead of just one person working to achieve them, there are two

~there is genuine, open affection, attraction and joy in being together

~each partner is responsible and accountable to the other

~essential needs are taken seriously (financial, emotional, sexual, social, etc.)

~each takes care of the other and feels taken care of

~each puts the other first and stands up for them

~romance is a value for both

~there is mutual respect and each admires the other

~there are no off-limits subjects

~there is honesty and openness

~there is empathy and compassion

~there is 100% loyalty each to each

~each respects what is important to the other; each honors the  other highest values because they share them

~partners don't judge and criticize each other

~partners don't make selfish demands on each other

~you are never half of a couple; you are always a whole individual who is now blessed with the power of two on your side

~you have someone who believes in you...even when you don't

~you feel the joy of sharing your life with another and feel the honor of participating fully in someone else's life

~you create things of inspiring beauty together (children, home, family)

~in a good marriage, when things get rough love is all you have because if you don't have that, you won't pull through.

...just to list a few things off the top of my head (no particular order)

And the most important thing of all in a good marriage (or any relationship for that matter) is this:

When you give your word, keep your word. Your word is all you have - it says not just who and what you are, but who and what you commit to being. So consider your marriage vows very, very seriously. These words are the promises that you make for the rest of your life.

All the best to you! A good marriage is the greatest blessing you will ever know! I wish you that!

Answer 4

I personally want someone who is open and honest, and hides nothing from me. I don't need to know gory details, just know that there's not some agendas in the shadows...

I also want someone who understands Grace, Mercy and Charity in relationships. I want someone who will always work with me, rule the roost by my side, not try to take the reighns and control, but a partner who is devoted to the institution of marriage and staying in it forever together...not a pipe dreamer though.

Someone who can admit when they're wrong, and yet not have to be right.

Life's way too short, we should enjoy each other like flannel jammies on a cool winter night, or the stars hanging in the sky on a warm summers eve.

Ok, where's Ms Right...I want her NOW!!

Wally

Answer 5

Whats considered now is where you keep your cheating lives to your self, and you each do your part around the house.

The ideal marriage is where you both trust and enjoy each others company and you communicate: you know what bugged them, what their fav. movie is, ect. If you don't know their fav. choc. bar you guys need to know each other better.

Answer 6

something I will never have...

1.  communication

2.  respect

3.  wonderful s*x

4.  Love 4 ever

Answer 7

a good marriage is when you can tell him anything even if you think it might make him mad and he will understand and you can cry on his shoulder and he will wait until you are ready to do anything and he understands alll of your fears. and he would offer to give you a transplant to save ur life... and u do the same 4 him.

i dont know. lol. im not married yet but this is how i want my marriage to be like.

Answer 8

The ability to listen, tolerate and negotiate.

An ability to appreciate each other.

A true and long-lasting desire to keep the other person content.

Sexual compatibility.

Supportive life goals (i.e. they don't have to match, but they must not be totally in opposition).

Answer 9

Marriage is the best and the most thing ever in the life. . . .

But by my experience, Good marriage is what when life partner must be one who loves you very much . . . . who really loves you. . . .then you will really enjoy marriage life time.. . . .please don't think that what will be the result when you don't love him/her very much. . . .. . . .In this world due to environment of fashion, every one wants actress/actor-like partner, but they don't know it's only an imaginary world.. . .think about any successful marriage. . .like marriage of Amitabh Bacchan. . .he is the superstar, . .even he could marry more beautiful

Answer 10

Honesty, loyalty, trust and commitment.

Answer 11

a good marriage in one built on trust and honesty and also a sharing of life's ups and downs as well as the chores of he household one in which both parties want to make a strong union  

Answer 12

Loyalty, trust, loving and honest. Giving would be an important one too and one marriage that is financially stable.  

Answer 13

The one and only answer is... GOD, without Him things are impossible.

Believe me I tried to do it on my own and failed every time, put God in your marriage and it will prosper in love, communication, trust, honesty, s*x, and in everything else because He will and is the only One who can give you the desires of your heart.

Answer 14

I agree with Long Island Gal...in that order. And if she's single and close to western Suffolk, I'd be interested in hearing from her.  

Answer 15

COMMUNICATION.  If you never talk about anything you'll just be wandering around in the woods by yourself.  Not fun.  It is the key to every issue in your marriage.  From doing dishes to s*x.  Always talk & always be honest.

Answer 16

A good relationship is about trust, honesty, and respect, also compromise, and lifting 1 another up when the other 1 is down, its a give and take world, talking about each other negatively dont do nothing but put a wrench in the relationship, and just enjoy each other company

Answer 17

Respect, open lines of communication, love beyond lust, acceptance of human frailties, understanding that you will not change him/her.

Answer 18

A good marriage is TRUST, COMMUNICATION, SINCERE LOVE. Is to be able to feel as much as in love as the first time you met. To be able to talk with your partner as if you were best friends. Making sure you work everyday to keep the same spark of fire that makes you desire your loved one every time he/she passes by next to you.

Answer 19

compromise

Answer 20

loyalty and committment, plus some tolerance thrown in.

Answer 21

I think the following qualities are what make a good marriage:

-Always put one another first.

-Your spouse must ALWAYS be the single most important person in your life, even if you have children.

-Forsake all others.

-Be honest, 100% -- that means no intentionally not mentioning things, because that's lying too.

-No friends of the opposite s*x unless they are friends of both of you as a couple.

-Continue to go on dates with one another.

-Respect one another.

-Don't yell.  Once you begin yelling, the conversation is already out of control.

-Make love often, and be intimate WITHOUT having s*x often.

-Show one another attention, and always do half the chores. :)

Good luck!

Answer 22

honesty, financial responsibility (you'd be surprised how many fights money can start), humor, commitment, putting eachother before yourself, sharing values, beliefs, and morals... and most of all LOVE!!!

Answer 23

".in sickness and in health..."

all that stuff

if you actually mean it when you say "I DO"

and no lies and communication  

Answer 24

A good marriage is where two people truly love each other.  Two people who are extremely forgiving.  You can totally be yourself and feel comfortable because the other person loves who you are.  You share joys and face challenges together.  Like in a raft on a river rapid, even though you want to get off the raft at the most treacherous part of the ride you know that if you just hang on you'll eventually reach calm waters, and you eventually do...If it's a good marriage.

Answer 25

respect. Treat your spouse better then you would like to be treated.

Make your spouse smile and happy.

Answer 26

honesty talking openly to each other it is give and take relationship.surprising each other leaving love notes around the house

Answer 27

Honesty,Fairness,Kindness,Real Love and Great s*x!

Answer 28

Lots and lots and lots of s*x.

Answer 29

Marriage is a commitment where you can fight with each other but still make up, where you can set aside pride and you can be you without worrying if the other will reject you for it. You can talk to each other in total honesty and help build each other up. With God's blessing. Hope you're doing well.

Answer 30

Honest communication. It's very simple (yet not so simple), EVERYONE makes mistakes. So, the question isn't, 'will there be mistakes and problems?' The question is, 'Will we be honest and communicate, when problems arise?'

So, the answer? Honesty and Communication. Holding it in and/or holding a grudge will destroy a marriage.

Answer 31

A good marriage is built on mutual respect and support. Honesty is very important, too. Throw in some fun times and you've got it all! ^_^