What is a good way to deal with a woman who just leeches off you for free drinks?

Question

im at a bar, and the girl starts to talk to you. and you dont have any interest in her. she gets all touchy feely and then says "so you gonna buy me a shot."

im sorry but money does not grow on trees. maybe $4.50 for a shot is something i am not willing to do for you.

the way i handled it was i said to her "nah, that's ok." and yes, that was rude.

is there a better way i should have handled it?

Answer 1

Tell her to buy the first shot...then when you've downed yours....leave her at the bar...

Answer 2

I liked your response to her.

If you're too nice to leechers it gives them the idea that they have a foot in the door .... then they pester you until you have to be down right rude to them!

Answer 3

Throw one at her.

Answer 4

If you don't want to buy someone a drink then don't. It was rude of her to ask in the first place.

Answer 5

Well if she's already drunk, it doesn't matter what you say, she probably won't remember tomorrow.

If she's sober and she's mooching off you, again, there's no need for respect if she's gonna act cheap.

Maybe that's a bit harsh. I dunno.

Answer 6

You did just fine.

Answer 7

I think you handled it quite well. What else can you possibly say? I can't stand people who do that.

Answer 8

The BEST way to avoid this situation is to not hang out in bars.  When people have booze in them, they act stupid.  What do you expect from an intoxicated person?  Etiquette and sophistication?  When someone asks for you to buy them a drink, just say "No thanks" and turn away from them.  It's quite simple. That's what I do when men ask if they can BUY me a drink.  That's been a mating ritual for a long time and men have traditionally "bought" something for women as a way to "buy" her attention/affection, a custom that hails from recent times when men locked women out of self-sufficiency and women then judged men as meal-tickets based on how well they could support women.  That was the "system".  I don't follow or respect those kind of courtship rituals or the morons who think "buying" me a drink impresses a women of any class these days or "entitles" them to anything in return from me, which it traditionally meant.  It's funny, too, and ironic how morons like that attract the "leeches".  They're playing the same game and deserve each other.

Answer 9

That used to happen to me many moons ago.  I think that was fine what you said.  Maybe you can say "you are beautiful/cute but I'm waiting for someone."  Or something like that.

Answer 10

Sounds as though she may be too use to Free Drinks on(Ladies Night) and expects that any time it occurs to her to go out that drinks are FREE as well. The "bar fly"  spends way too much time there. In no way do I think you were impolite to her. Although, you say she got " touchy feely". I am wondering...... was she telling you  in her own way  she would lay down for a drink.  Priceless

Answer 11

Be honest with this money grubbing drink hustler.  Tell her you don't buy random girls drinks.

End of story.

Answer 12

No, are you kidding? Girls like that are trashy bar flies. You don't owe anybody anything, and she was incredibly rude for asking.

I think that the way the way you handled it was just fine, except I would have thrown in a "And get your hands off of me. I don't know you."

Try that next time.

Answer 13

No.  How rude of her to ask for a drink...she asked?!?  I think you were very polite compared to what you could have been.  I think a "I don't buy drinks for girls who w***e themselves out and think rubbing on a guy deserves a drink" would be more appropriate.

Answer 14

No, you handled it perfectly.  What kind of woman asks someone to buy her a drink?  That's rude!   I have never asked a man to buy me a drink.

Answer 15

No. I don't think there is a good way to handle it. If you aren't interested, I think you  handled it as well as anyone else would who wasn't attracted to someone.

I sure don't miss going to bars.

Answer 16

Tell her to f*ck off.

Answer 17

Man, what!?! You're supposed to open the conversation at that point, then after you 'display higher value '(dhv) you say something like " well I gotta see if your worth buying a drink for". Keep playing it smooth and talking and what not, eventually you pick the drink - YOU PICK THE DRINK-  after you've sufficiently played around with her and kept her on ice for a few minutes in the process.

Answer 18

Tell her you borrowed the 4.50 to get yours and she'll disappear INSTANTLY.

Answer 19

no, that wasn't rude, that was truthful.  nothing wrong with the way you handled it.

Answer 20

I would just refuse.....say "No".......no explanation, just NO.