What is a good way to get adult children who live at home still to work?

Question

What is a good way to get adult childern to find a job. They still live at home, have graduated from high school ages 19, and 18??? The 19 year old seems to think that she needs a break or something. I don't want to sound mean or too critical while telling her she needs to find a job. Could it be that she is needing a break? when she was 18 she moved out and was working full time. Now she has moved back home and doesn't seem to have any energy.

Answer 1

I would tell them they either go to school or get a job. If they dont like that, they probably should find somewhere else to live.

Answer 2

maybe try beating her. that works good. oh wait u know that already.or would u beat her.is this ur daughter,your blood? or a step? cause u beat ur step kids.

Answer 3

My mother and father told me that I could get a job, go to school or move out.  I had two weeks to decide.  I have done all of them.  Be supportive they are still young and want to have fun.  Suggest a server or hostess position, those are fun jobs and you can make really good money .

I know you are giving them money so STOP!!!

no more gas money, no more hanging money, they will learn

Good Luck

Answer 4

It sounds like you need to charge them rent. Even if you do not need the money. Then they will have to figure something out. If you feel bad about taking their money, you could always put the money in a savings account (and not tell them) and then when they do decide to move out for good, then you can give it back and they will have something to start out with. Just an idea. And if your daughter seems tired all the time, she may need to get her thyroid tested. If her levels are low, it could leave her feeling exhausted.

Answer 5

"Vacation is over. Get a job or get out."

Answer 6

Tell them if they're going to live at home they need to get a job.

Answer 7

My brother moved back into my parents house several times. Just let them know that they are adults and need to be working if they are going to live at home. Everyone in the house who is an adult, need to have a job.

Answer 8

I think you should use the old "if your going to live under my roof, you need to have a job" technique. My parents did that to me, when I became unemployed, I had to help with chores such as dishes, vaccuming, running errands, picking up my brother and etc. Other good helpful hints, would be to get the classifieds and circle a few jobs they can do. Finally, they'll

get the drift. Worse case scenario: kick them out, thus they have to find a job, in order to eat and have a place to live.

Answer 9

Sorry, but I would certainly consider kicking her out if she is just being lazy.  Then she would be forced to fend for herself.  Is she planning on going to college?  What is she planning for her future?

Something has changed her.  Maybe reality???

Answer 10

There are actually a wide variety of work at home jobs.  Don't expect pay like a doctor but they can be very easy and in some cases interesting.  We currently have a position open and please by all means feel free to contact us.  There is a screening process to make sure you are eligible but as long as you can use a computer and are internet savvy there shouldn't be a problem.

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Answer 11

Simply tell them since they are no longer in school you don't have to support them. Let them know it'll be nice if they got a job and paid their way or at least offered.

Answer 12

tell them like it is.

my mom said i can have a weeks worth of a break.

but after that, i needed to find a job.

Just keep in mind, while you have a pretty anchored job, the economy is really bad right now, so it's going to be harder to find a job now than it was 2 years ago.

Just keep telling her to try, she will come across much rejection, but it only will make her stronger.

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Answer 13

Well, frankly, it doesn't matter if she needs a "break"...shes an adult and has to be forced to act that way.  Give both of these people 2 weeks, they need to find a job or enroll in community college, or they need to move out.  They will never start to act like adults if you are going to support them.

Answer 14

Tell her that at this point in her life, there is no "free lunch" and if she wants to live at home, she is expected to  help out with household expenses.