What is a nice way to go about this?

Question

My son is spending the day with some friends of ours tomorrow. My family and I are "far vegetarians", which means that we do not eat beef or pork (just turkey, fish, and chicken). Our friends are very well aware of this. But one time when we sent our boy over there to play, they fed him a beef hot dog. It wasn't lunch or dinner time. I guess it was supposed to be a snack. He was sick for the rest of the night from it. He is supposed to go over to their house to play this week and I am worried this will happen again. I am thinking of sending lunch and snacks over there with him so that there will be no excuse for them to feed him something like that again. What is a nice way for me to tell them this without sounding insulting?

Answer 1

That's not rude, he's your kid, they should have respected your wishes in the first place.  Just tell them nicely that he isn't allowed to eat certain things.  No big deal.  It would be rude of them to think you're rude.

Answer 2

Very nicely tell your friends, Since you know we are vegatarians, I thought I would send my sons meals over, so that you do not have to prepare something different for him to eat.

Answer 3

Why don't use just let them know that he was sick the last time he had a hot dog.  Tell them his system is not use to meat and that he needs to eat what you have brought them.  If they try it again, they are no friends for sure.  They should not be insulted, they should be concerned with your child's welfare while being taken care of by them.

Answer 4

If you don't want your son to eat what THEY have in THEIR home don't send him over there...unless there are golden arches over the roof of their house then you can make your order.  I do suggest that you send him with fully prepared (including cooked) meals for him...that way all they have to do is pop his meals into the microwave.  They shouldn't be expected to make up a complete meal for him.  

I and my children are vegetarians...no meat at all, although we do eat dairy and eggs on occasion.  My parents are not and when I send my kids to my parent's farm I send along recipies for meatless meals because they have their own garden and my oldest knows how to prepare the meals for herself and her sisters.  They are also allowed meat when they are in other's homes and they have never gotten sick.

Answer 5

I think you should just come out and tell the other child's parents.  Be nice about it of course, and just tell them that your son doesn't eat beef or pork.  Then, tell them what happened last time.  I'm sure the parents will be more than willing to make sure they feed him properly.  Besides, if there is ever something that their son can't have, I'm sure they'll be up front about it with you.

Answer 6

just be like- okay here is his lunch and snacks so that yall will not have to worry about accidentally feeding him beef or pork. thanks!

good luck and hope this helps!