What is a normal amount of arguing...?

Question

...in a marriage?

and side note...why are we being overloaded with an influx of dating questions? lol

Answer 1

There is no "normal" for this. Some couples thrive on the heat and ups and downs of arguing, others prefer and maintain a very peace existence. Marriages are as individual as the people in them.

Answer 2

That depends on the couple and how their relationship is with each other

My husband and i get along great and rarely fight.

Answer 3

I don't know the answer to your first question because I've argued so much with my husband over the years that my perception of normal of off.

As far as the second question, I was wondering that myself but then I realized by looking at the dating/single section for clues, that many are young over there and a more mature response if received here. I don't normally answer the dating questions because I have very little experience in that department. However, if someone over here is willing to help them then more power to them!

Answer 4

It differs between couples, but as long as it's productive and you get things done, any amount is okay.

And I don't know why all the dating.  People are tired of little kids on dating and singles and want more mature answers.

Answer 5

the is not a real answer to this question cause everyone is different . my hubby and i dont agree all the time. we agree afair amount of time but we dont ever let go on for too long  

Answer 6

I think it greatly depends on the relationship. I think what matters is not how much you exactly argue, it's if problems get solved, if you two make the effort to work out your issues and can sit down and plan and compromise together.

Really, if you can effectively argue and solve your problems, you won't argue as much. People who can't do that find themselves arguing everyday about the same issues over and over again because nothing ever progresses. It takes compromise and effort, you're always going to disagree about something, some more than others. You're two different people, you're bound to hit a bump but what you do once you hit that bump is what counts. ;]

Answer 7

Perhaps it is time to watch the Notebook again.  :)  Abraham Lincoln sums it up when he once said:  " Cats fight a lot, but there sure are a lot of kittens in the world."  

Answer 8

Please don't type lol - it is trite.

No amount of arguing is normal. You and your spouse need to learn to communicate on a different level. Arguing usually produces nothing  - except ill will. It's not healthy and not productive.

Try a dialog or a discussion. Try simply having conversations. Try using your underlying love as a means of gaining trust, developing understanding and reaching consensus.

Answer 9

It varies from couple to couple. Arguing is not always a barometer of the relationship. My friend and her partner always argue, everywhere: in front of strangers, friends, and she told me when they are alone. A lot of people would think they are unhappy but it's fine with them, they can't leave without each other. Some couples never fight but that doesn't mean they are happy.

People ask dating questions here because they want adult opinions.