What is a reasonable curfew for an 18 year old?

Question

Just curious. I'm not a rebellious teen- i have very few people i actually hang out with (in fact, i have very few friends these days), and when i do i'm just usually at their house watching a movie. I'm a first year college student living in my parents house, they never pay much attention to me which is a disappointment but when it comes to being home at midnight- there are never any exceptions, even if i'm just around the corner and want to finish up a movie or something.

it's not that big of a deal, i'm okay with the 12 o clock curfew but i just wish they would be a bit more lenient. i'm never up to any trouble and it's a known fact in my family that i'm not the social butterfly right now.

i just want to see what everyone elses opinions are.

thank you :)

Answer 1

Whatever time the bars close in your town.

Answer 2

If I was your mom I would say you don't have curfew.  Come in when you want but if it is late be quiet and don't wake up the rest of the house.  But I am not your mom.  I so think it is important to respect the rules of the house.  You are an adult, which also means they don't have to let you stay.

Ask them to talk with you about it.  Calmly tell them why you think 12:00 is not late enough for an 18 year old college freshman.  Listen to what they have to say also.  Try to find a compromise.  Perhaps they would agree to something later for Fridays and Saturdays.

If they won't budge try to keep your cool.  If you get sarcastic or mad it will just reinforce the idea that you aren't ready to make your own rules.  Tell them that you respect the rules of the house and that you will abide by them but that you would really like for them to reconsider and that you hope that you can talk to them about it again in the a few weeks.  You might be surprised, sometimes a mature response from the child (you in this case, even though you are an adult child) will get you what you want.  Good Luck.

Answer 3

You live in a house rent free with free food and clothing and your bitching. I suggest you shut up and suck it up. You don't like it leave.

Answer 4

If you're 18 than you are of the age of legal consent. So by law you have no curfew.

I'm 16 and I've stayed out till 3 am and my parents didn't even care.

Answer 5

You're 18 you don't really need a curfew unless you want one on yourself which is totally fine.  I think you should stay out as late as you want, let your parents know in advance that you will be late nothing after 3AM i would say but i don't know.  You're a college student come on now!

Answer 6

I think it's a bit ridiculous that they set a curfew. However, you're under their roof so it's their rules. You're legally considered an adult and you're in college. You could be doing a lot worse. I think your parents should just drop the curfew. My parents put a lot of trust in me. When I was in high school I never had a curfew. Given that we lived in the country there wasn't much trouble to be found.

Tell your parents you're an adult and you're trying to get your education. You appreciate the fact they provide a place for you to live but they need to realize you're not a child anymore.  

Answer 7

I had a 12 oclock curfew at 18, which sucked, but I respected the fact that I lived in my parents home, and those were their wishes.  When I was 19, they really didn't care anymore, because I was responsible the year before and always came home when I was supposed to.

Answer 8

If they are still at home 2. if its a school night 12.

Answer 9

I guess if they are helping you pay for college then they have the right to ask you to be in at a decent hour. Students (Even college students) need to get their sleep so their studies are not suffering. I think it is ridiculous for them not to be flexible, however. I would just call and say "Hey, I'm around the corner and the movie won't be over for another hour, then I'll be right home."

Answer 10

As an adult you have the right to stay out as long as you want.

However, your parents also have the right to tell you to hit the road.

Personally, when my 17 year old starts college next year, if he comes sauntering in at 4 am, I'll show him where the trailer park is down the street. But so long as he's showing a little respect for the other members of his household, 1:00 am is fine with me.

EDIT: You know, I'm going to qualify my statement.

On any given day, 1 am. If there's a special reason, or they got held up and then call me, I'd clearly make an exception.

Answer 11

A professor of mine in college once said "Nothing good ever happens after midnight."  SO I think a midnight curfew is very reasonable for you at your age.  If you want it to change, you really need to bring something to the table.  Ask your parents if they will adjust it to 1am, if you make a 3.0 or higher this semester.  

The thing is- they are just looking out for your best interest.  And you say they do not pay much attention to you, but they must have done something right if you turned out to be a decent and respectable kid.  

Answer 12

if your pay rent then none.

when i was 17 i came whenever and i was living in san francisco! but i was an A student nevr did rugs or drink. i guess my dad trusted me.

Answer 13

As a 18 year old college student...I don't believe it's fair to enforce a curfew,unless of course, you do not have your own house key. If this is the case, then your curfew should be before your parents turn in so you don't get locked out.  But quite honestly, even though it is their home, you are an adult and should be allowed to live your life accordingly.

Answer 14

You are 18, you don't need a curfew.

But if you are living in your parents house, don't get in so late that you disturb them.

Answer 15

Their roof, their rules.

Answer 16

when i was 18 at home, my kerfew was midnight too. if i got caught up or needed more time-my parents were negotiable, after a while, but not at first. i showed them that i was capable of doing what they asked.

my parents actually worked late and were worry warts and me being out past midnight, scared them to death. they would be laying in bed awake until i got home. after a while i was able to call them and tell them i would be home a little later, don't wait up, this is what im doing, ill see you tomorrow. you are an adult now, so act like one in their eyes and you will be treated like one. if you are open, like telling them where you are or what you want to do as the reason for staying out later, they should start to ease up.

it is mainly worry.if your parents care enough to give you a cerfew at the age of 18, then i would safely assume it is becuase they don't like to wonder where you are.  

Answer 17

I believe as long as you are responsible and stay out of trouble you should be able to come home when you please. That is how it was with my mom and step-dad. I could come home whenever I wanted as long as they knew where I was and that I was safe.  

Answer 18

your an adult now so technically you don't have to have a curfew but if you want one then I say 12 nothing good happens after midnight

Answer 19

None, 18 = adult for 2 years.

Answer 20

You're 18, you shouldn't really have a curfew but since you do live at home, you should be home at a respectable time like 1:30 or 2:00 AM.