What is acceptable? ?

Question

Actually, I never said that no one was invited to the WEDDING. We just aren't having a reception at the same time. It's going to be held later, after we have more money and can afford it. (Not to mention that the cousin I referred to and his new wife come from families that can AFFORD a $10,000 reception.)

Answer 1

If you are going to vegas, do not put the annoucement in the paper.

If you are going to go with the small friends and family route, small in the church, you can put an announcement in the paper.

Mostly its your friends and family members who throw you the showers, they will approach you about it! Don't expect anything to happen simply because you are getting married. The only way you forgo these is by running off and eloping....  

Answer 2

I do not recall that everyone has a "right" to a bachelor/ette party and showers...

your family will chose to have a shower for the new couple before or after..

what we have heard regarding the "bachelor/ette" parties, neither myself nor my husband would have anything to do with such a thing before we got married...

Answer 3

People who were INVITED and IN the wedding throw showers and bachelorette parties. No one who was not even invited is going to look in the paper and say, "Oh, look who's getting married! Let's plan an expensive party for them at our own cost, and buy $100.00 presents, even though they have not invited us to the ceremony!"

Answer 4

Don't expect anything! If no one does anything special for you you will be disappointed. (I know I was....) Just expect it to be a small affair, being that it's what you are planning anyway.

However, if someone does throw you a party, it will be a super surprise!

Answer 5

We went away (just us) and got married. I had no headaches only fun.  I wanted it to be about us noone else.  I did not expect/want/need any parties/gifts.  

Answer 6

I think that if your friends and family don't see you making a fuss over the wedding they will not feel the need to make a fuss over showers or parties.  

Answer 7

Do for you and if your relatives don't like it, well then they don't have to come.