What is an abortion like?

Question

I'm not religious so please don't tell me about god. I have never thought abortions were ok either. But, now I find myself in a situation where I am considering one. I'm leaving my husband who is a very abusive man. I'll have to start all over again...no money....on welfare until I can get a job. I already have three kids. The baby is not his. I'm 3 weeks along and the father wants me to have one. I'm not sure what to do. My head tells me it's the most logical. My heart tells me it's a baby.

Answer 1

in the end no one can tell you what is the best thing to do but yourself,

i would think  you will be okay either way however abortion is a difficult thing ,but if that is your choice , i feel sorry for you having to go through this,i am sure you will make the best decision whatever you decide  

Answer 2

Well it depends ,if you go now it's a pill it's not a big procedure. If you wait much longer then it is a surgery and it's a bit more intensive. It feels different for everyone. It's your choice. Remember there are emotional issues that come with abortions. There is a 24 hour wait law so if you go to get an abortion they talk you through what's going to happen then you come back 24 hours later and have an abortion.

Kudos to you for leaving an abusive relationship. I wish you the best with which ever choice you make.

Answer 3

Maybe have the baby and give it up for adoption (possibly an open adoption) because just by reading this I can tell your the kind of person who couldnt do any harm to your child, fetus or actual child. Try to find any other option besides an abortion, because it will probably haunt you.

Answer 4

i would abort.... cus i wouldnt want to bring a child into an unstable family...

getting rid of it now, it will never feel or anything, so it wont know. but, if u dont, it may be miserable for all of its childhood.

anyway its up to u, thats just my opinion. good luck!

ps. congrats on getting away from the abusive hubby.  

Answer 5

its probably sad.

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Answer 6

ask some family if u can stay with them while u find a job but don't abort

Answer 7

It sounds like the most important thing for you at the moment is to protect your family and your body. Well done for leaving your husband, I was in an abusive relationship for a long time and its really hard to do it but you can start a whole new life.

This new life could be with a new baby, or it could be time spent enjoying your life and being in control.

I have never had an abortion but I think you have a balanced view upon it and you should trust your ow judgement. Nobody can make the decision for you but you can make your options a little opener by going to talk to a doctor, and trying to book an appointment at a clinic, you can always cancel and that way you don't need to worry about leaving it too late if you decide to abort.

The main thing right now is to look after yourself if you choose to have the baby, protect yourself and your children from your husband. I imagine if your he finds out about the pregnancy things will get much worse. I made an anonymous call to my local police station about my boyfriend because i couldn't bring myself to report his violence in person. They were caring and helpful and gave me more options if stuff got bad.

Confide in friends or family who know your situation better and they will help you decide. Don't let 'pro-life' propaganda confuse you, it is your life and your body, abortions are legal for a reason and it is your right to have one if you choose to.

Good luck with everything

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Answer 8

I never thought abortions were ok either...but about 4 years ago I was in a slightly similar situation! I had 2 kids at the time and was pregnant by a man that I had been with for several years.  The relationship became pretty volatile/abusive and I left. I was only 3 weeks at the time and went back and forth  trying to decide what to do. I was broke and a stay at home mom all that time so I felt like I couldn't have another child on my own. to make a long story short I went through with the abortion and it nearly destroyed me. I think about it with such pain in my heart almost every day.  that said...It is totally up to you, but just think hard about can you really do this and be o.k. with yourself afterwards.  I regret my choice, but a lot of women don't and that is o.k. too. Just follow your heart and make a solid, well thought out decision!  

Answer 9

Please think hard about this, it is your child.  Having an abortion will not change the situation about your abusive husband or that you have other children.  One of the favorite questions the pro-aborts ask is how many pro-life people adopt, well I am making the offer, that if you choose my husband and I feel very blessed to adopt your baby,  I have made this offer to every woman I have ever known who considered abortion.

Answer 10

Do what you want to do...

If this influences your choice, you would murder a baby.

Oh, and don't have unprotected s*x unless you want a baby. :(

Answer 11

My abortion experience was nothing spectacular.  There was some cramping, the process lasted about 20 minutes.  Then I went home and slept for the rest of the day.  (I took the surgical route rather than the pill)  It wasn't a bad experience and I felt perfectly fine by that evening.

This is definitely a decision you want to think through and not take lightly, but don't not get an abortion because you are scared of the procedure.  It isn't the scary, damaging, scarring experience that a lot of pro-lifers want you to think it  

Answer 12

Its horrible,  look it up on www.youtube.com

You'll have to live with your decision.

Answer 13

WOW that spkymonk girl sounds like a complete ***** and an idiot. Don't listen to her. Apparently she is VERY selfish and lives in her own little world and doesn't give a **** about anybody elses feelings. I guess she can't imagine what abusive relationships are like and how hard it is to get a divorce and not have any financial resources to help with the process. It always amazes me the c**p that comes out of some peoples mouths. WELL enough about her. I don't know what the answer is. The one thing I can say is that your only three weeks along. At that point they are just a blob of cells nothing even resembling a little alien in there. So, if you are going to have one you should have it soon before it starts to develop more. The more it is developed I think the worse you will feel if you chose to have one. Good Luck.

Answer 14

An abortion is about as painful as heavy cramping feels.  It doesn't hurt your body as much as it will hurt your heart later.  Don't know you, but I had two as a young woman and truly regret them now.  Can you open up to any family members about your situation and get the support you need now? You need to not be alone during this problem.  Abortion is never the answer. There can be serious health consequences or risk of infection. Think about your three children you have now, and how much they will need you in their life. Good luck and I'll be praying for you.

Answer 15

I was once in an abusive marriage,we have 4 kids. I left broke no job no money no car! But I have made a new life for myself and am with a  wonderful husband.I had to decide if I wanted my kids to have a mom alive or them not have a mom at all. I believe there is a God who loves that baby that is forming on the inside of you.And He loves everything He has created,including you.Have you ever seen any pictures of a murdered baby?With the body parts all cut up into pieces,the arm or leg,or it's little head? This is something that the ones doing this don't like to reveal. Maybe you can go check out a web site that has pics that shows the reality of what really happens,and then try to make your choice.  

I just came back from visiting the website I listed,and I am lost,crying,angry,and disgusted with what I have just seen.

I dare any of you that has had an abortion,or thinking of it to please go check out this website.