What is considered a physical abuse? my bf after some argument hit me slightly on my head,it was not painful,?

Question

it was humilating,so i answered back and THEN he hit me stronger! My question is -should I have ignored his 1st "slight hit" and not "answering him back"? Did I provoke him for the next "strong hit"? What are my actions in such situation? I did told some things ,i was jelous,so he became angry,but I guess he schould never hit,he could talk...

Answer 1

Any psyhical contact done with intent to cause pain would be classified as abuse.

Answer 2

My Ex boyfriend was violent towards me to . It started of as simple things he wouldn't clean up after himself i got fed up told him and he would push pass me.I didn't think much of this but it got worse and worse. Dump your b/f he's not worth it no guy is if he hit you once he'll hit you again because he knows he can do it.

Answer 3

This is abuse, physical and mental. I agree with the other posters. GET OUT NOW!

Answer 4

here is the problem. Its not what he did (which is abuse) its how you reacted to it. The first thing is you are blaming yourself for what your BF did to you. By saying did I provoke him is a way of accepting the blame here. Its a way for you to make excuses for him. Women who put up with abuse make all sorts of excuses and try to justify why it is happening to them. Is that what you are going to do. Thankfully this is just the begining but what are you prepared to put up with in your relationship from here and now onwards. The moment you say "but I love him" is the moment you have lost all self respect. Be careful what you decide. He may never hit you again but that will depend largely on how you deal with him from now.

Answer 5

You take that very seriously a man hitting on you whether is hard or not is definitely abusive and it will get worst, you tell him next time he disrespect you in that way you are living and no questions ask Abuse is never OK..

Answer 6

Most men don't hit women exept when provoked beyond endurance by provocative behaviour and language.

Were you provoking him? A lot of women do this on purpose to get their own way, no matter what the argument was about.

Besides, how can you say you are equal and then say he is a coward for hitting someone who is weaker?  

Answer 7

i think you know the answer to this and you now what you need to do . good luke

Answer 8

dump him NOW, It may only be a slight smack from him but it sure as h*** will turn to a beating in months to come . Surely you can see that or are one of those women that thinks you can change him? the answer to that is No !

He will only get worse as he certainly cant respect you if he even raises his fist to you . Dump,Dump,Dump

Answer 9

Classic abuser-abusee pattern.  He hits you, you assume you may have provoked him.

Real men never hit women.  Yes, what he did is classed as an assault.  If some stranger walked up to you on the street and did this, you'd call the police, and wouldn't make excuses for him.  Nor would you want that stranger to be around you ever again. That's the healthiest way to face this situation.  

He's crossed a line.  Now, you need to walk away, because the stats aren't in your favour.  Sure, he may apologise, and you'll probably fall for it, and all will go quiet for a while, but your ACTION of staying implies CONSENT.  In other words,  you let him get away with it ONCE and don't seek to preserve yourself by removing yourself from the situation permanently, and he will see you as someone who basically has no problem with being hit and bearing the blame for it.  So, don't be surprised when he hits you again during another argument.  

Don't believe me?  Go look up some websites on domestic violence and read the stories.  They are all fundamentally the same and they all start with a push, a slap, a kick, or a punch, followed by a supposed apology and the victim taking the blame or trying to fit herself around the guy in some way so that it doesn't happen again.  It's a universal pattern.  

You and he have stepped onto a slippery slope.  You need to step off it.

Answer 10

Why should you change your actions - he needs to change his. Sounds like he has already got into your head and you are making excuses for him: "it wasn't very hard"  "I shouldn't have answered back"

Get out before it gets worse.

Answer 11

your just his pet groover and every now and then when you get out of place he has to knock you up side your freckin head to keep you in your place. that is normally what some master do to their dogs.

Answer 12

Dump him. By letting him hit you you've given him permission to do it over and over again.

How can it possibly be down to you? that's what ALL bullies would like you to think.

Answer 13

Yes this is physical abuse, get away from this man immediately before the abuse gets even worse. I know it may be hard to, but do.

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Answer 14

That is physical abuse. Anything that physically harms you, hitting, biting, slapping. He has also got you into some mental abuse, you are not being able to speak your mind. GET OUT NOW! It will only get worse. People like this never change, and he may apologize but dont fall for it!

Answer 15

You already know what your actions should be in this situation.  Leave.  No man has the right to lay his hands on a woman to be harmful.  Why would you stay with anyone who hit you twice?  And you did NOTHING to provoke this... If you stay with this man, expect more of the same for certain.  It's called "physical abuse"... get out while you can.