What is foreplay mean to you..what do you require?

Question

for me it's just me thinking of him all day long...

Answer 1

I see it as a very bad thing because to me it means to try and dominate the other and that is a major source that leads to pain, suffering and separation in the end.

Answer 2

Treating this philosophically, let’s try a rough definition and see where it leads.

Foreplay is an act, pleasurable in itself, done in anticipation of pleasures yet to come.

It has to be pleasurable in itself, as otherwise nobody would do it. It has to be done in anticipation of something else or it wouldn’t count as foreplay.

By this definition there are many sorts of foreplay: the overture before an opera, the cheerleaders before a football game, the business dinner before the signing of a contract, the Olympics opening ceremony.

I guess the definition is missing something, as I suspect there needs to be a degree of mutuality – solitary anticipation isn’t the same thing. What I’m getting at is the foreplay needs to be between the same people as the main event – it is sort of a downpayment on the main event.

Functionally, of course, this means that foreplay enhances choice. You can run away from the opera if you don’t like the overture for example.

If the foreplay takes a completely different form to the main event, then it sort of stops being foreplay and is just another item on the agenda (Olympics opening ceremony – I’m talking about you here). But, as the main event can have many different aspects, there is still a lot of scope for what the foreplay looks like.

Sexual foreplay, for example, doesn’t have to include physical intimacy – though it is nice if it does – conversation can work, as can other things. Both both parties would, I think, have to be involved.

Answer 3

...a relaxed moment, easy listening music, fine wine...good conversations...listening and understanding...flowing into a soft comfortable mood...nothing harsh or heavy...steal kisses and nips...

enjoying the moments and each other...

Answer 4

All I really need is the other person showing me that they really want to be with me. Yes, this involves physical contact, but it could be as simple as touching my face as they kiss me...

Answer 5

Thinking of doing something is not foreplay.  LOL  Very funny.  it has to involve actually being physical.  Talking on the phone about it does not even fall under foreplay.  Foreplay is actually physically doing something to someone else's body, touching them in a sexual way, that leads up to but not necessarily resulting in the actual s*x act.

Answer 6

Its just a word used to describe sexual activity engaged in before two people have intercourse. This eliminates kissing, because kissing isn't intrinsically sexual. Neither is thought, which eliminates "thinking about him". This would include things like "oral s*x" and "heavy petting". It would also include things like "exotic dancing". We also use the word 'teasing' to describe an activity by which we provoke someone into thinking they are going to get more of what they want while withholding it from them. Teasing is often attached to such activities like "heavy petting" and "exotic dancing" when noting more is given. Thus, people have apprehended from such experiences that some activities are meant to produce more, else we wouldn't be able to "tease" people. Note: the word tease here is used in a sexual context.

Answer 7

Oh man...... the things I could say!!!

But I won't. No point in it, really.

Answer 8

To me, it's a nudge in the ribs and "Hey Babe, get your clothes off."

Answer 9

Teasing, provocative, playful actions that heighten anticipation including but not limited to banter, music, dancing, touching, kissing, caressing, etc.

Answer 10

It means I need to break out my 'Boston' albums and play them for a longtime! ;)

Answer 11

I cannot write it here but it is very physical and lasts long time.

Answer 12

Fascinating question ... especially as you intentionally posted it in the Philosophy section.

In fact when I first read your question I paused to consider what my initial reply would be ... then I read it again with the understanding -as you mentioned- that you put this in Philosophy for a reason.  That then prompted additional thoughts ....

It seems reasonable to believe that -from a philosophical perspective- foreplay is inherent within the intensity of the relationship -as opposed to a random or ad hoc "feeling" at a given moment (typically in the presence of another).  As such, philosophically, it seems for you, there is no requirement for "him" to be present at all ... that statement alone reduces the criticality of the "physical" (which seems to be for many the core component associated with foreplay).

Much like you, I tend to move foreplay from a level of physicalness that (generally) is a prelude to lovemaking to a longer lasting, engaged mental (cognitive) perspective that allows for the heightened anticipation to be sparked and enjoyed from afar and long before the actual physical contact occurs.  In that respect, foreplay (for me) is much more mental than physical.

In addition, as you mentioned, "for [you], it's just [you] thinking of him all day long ..." foreplay that engages your imagination long before it activates your tactile senses most likely provides for an elevated libido when in fact you and he do actually get to see and touch each other ... in that sense, the foreplay is a primer for releasing thoughts, chemicals, and feelings long before we engage them with another.

If those assumptions are reasonable and hold some value, then -for me- it makes sense that the question of foreplay be asked within the harbors of "philosophy."

Answer 13

It is the introductory stage in any relationship...may or may not lead to something lasting.

It is generally the most pleasant period where everyone tries to be nice and tentative...before the actual kill.

Answer 14

a few aspirin, and a padded coffe table  cuz every time I try, I fall off the couch and hit my head on the coffee table