What is going on? How do I get out of this rut?

Question

Since the beginning of this year I have been really down over my ex. I always feel the urge to cry and cry: and when I do, I hope I feel better and reach some sort of release afterwards, but I don't. I know I should give it time - but I feel like I'm wasting so many opportunities because of my ex. I no longer feel happy - I haven't felt truly happy in a long time.

I just want out, I want it to be over. I want to move to a different country and just start over, but I can't. It's impossible that I could ever do that.

Help? What are some ways to release emotions and reach some sort of closure?

Answer 1

It hurts to lose someone but you have to get over it.  No one is worth the life of another.  You have to put your mind at ease.  Your ex is gone probably for a good reason.  Maybe you are much better off without him.  Your relationship was not really meant to be.  You sound like a really nice person and it is sad that you are hurting but people get hurt all the time all over the world and they have to accept the fact and move on.  You will meet someone else maybe someone that is far better for you than your ex ever was.  If you cannot get over this then please see a doctor and he will give you meds to see you through this hard place.

Answer 2

Wow your predicament absolutely mirrors mine!!  I'm going through the exact same at the moment and I've been advised to get some sort of counselling as it will not go away on it's own, however I'm stubborn and hopefully in time I can let go and live my life as it should be lived.  I'm sorry this answer may not be helpful just try and take refuge in that there are other people like yourself experiencing the same.  Unfortunately, such as life is.

Answer 3

Sweetie what you are experiencing is a form of depression and it most likely will not just pass. Talk to someone and seek the help of a counselor at school,church or somewhere. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, things will get better it just takes a little time and work. My best to you and I hope things start looking brighter for you soon.