What is going on with my fiancee?

Question

Lately my fiancee has been acting so different. I usually go to visit him on his lunch breaks but lately he's been telling me to park behind this cvs building that hides his work building.

He won't let me pick him up in front of his work or park out in front of it. Today, at the end of his break, he said he was going to walk back to work instead of having me drive him because it was faster but it's not faster.

He got a 30 second head start walking and I was already right by his work as he was turning the corner. I don't know what to think. Is he trying to hide me from someone? I know he has a new girl working with him and ever since she started working there, he's been having me park behind the cvs building.

Well today I asked him why he never wanted me to go in his work anymore or by it and he said I was being ridiculous and that there was no need for me to go in his work. I told him no matter what I was going to go in there Wednesday, the next time he works. His response was what the **** ever you're so ridiculous.

He's also been turning his phone off during his break time and he's been heading home early from my house on his days off. What do you guys think? Guilty?

Answer 1

I'm sorry but he sounds very guilty from what you have said. I think he may be a mistake, don't take my word though, do what you need to before you get hurt more than you may have too.

Answer 2

sounds shady and quilty but see i wouldnt have told him when your coming into his work, see since you already told about wed, i would jsut park outside his work far enough he wont see you but close enough to see and  then on another day without telling him id just show up, also maybe ask some of his co-wokers about this chick or even about him if they have seen anything!!

Answer 3

It's hard to say but I would definitely be worried if I were you. I know it's really hard to get guys to talk but try and sit him down. Find out what's really going on.  It would be hard to spend the rest of your life with someone that's going to keep things from you. Hopefully he'll fess up. I wish you luck.  

Answer 4

How old is your fiancé? 17, 18? He seems very immature. If he really is "guilty" of anything, it is of not being able to express himself in an adult manner. "What the **** ever?" His communication skills are lacking. If he feels that you're being too controlling, he could just come out and say it instead of playing games. Then again, it's entirely possible that he's courting a girl at work but is keeping you around just in case that other prospect doesn't pan out. Again, a really stupid way to do it, but I've seen worse. Either way, it seems that he's just not ready for being married. Are you sure you're not rushing it?

Answer 5

he is up to something, go in to his work but dont let him know you are coming,The way he over reacts when you say something sugesst he is cheating.dont marry untill you know for sure or it will worry you forever

Answer 6

Sounds very fishy! No thats no overreacting...he seems to be trying to hide something. Aaww, i hope everything is ok, but yes you need to get to the bottom of this! if hes not gonna cooperate n understand ur feelings, he is being selfish! If my fiance was concerned about me, i would ease his concerns, bring him into my work n be open with him. My concern would be his feelings. You need to feel secure!! you are preparing to commit your life to this man, you deserve to feel loved n secure in him.

the fact he kinda tried to blow it off, like, 'oh watever', yeah theres something wrong. i hope it works out!

Answer 7

Maybe not guilty, but it does sound like he's trying to hide you. He might be getting some attention at work that he really likes and knows that once that person finds out about you then the attention will stop or he'll look like a douchebag.

For him to get that pissed off when you said you wanted to show up at his work is just weird! If my fiance wanted to stop by my office I would be so excited to introduce him to my work friends!

Answer 8

if habits change quickly, you know something is happening. he is trying to hide you from something. people dont just change their normal routines or habits overnight, unless there is a major reason. his actions seem filled with guilt, so all you need to do is now catch him out.

Answer 9

Look, there's no way to be sure what his reasoning or actions mean, however, if you love someone you shouldn't mind them being seen around you. If there is a problem with you being around at his job he should feel close enough to you to discuss it with you.

Answer 10

O no you know what just treat bees with sweet buy him some flowers and send them to work, call as often as you can and if he gets offended over this well though! And you should really go in there and c what is going on! And that is a fiancé? O h**l no!  

Answer 11

Well, I hate to say this, but it sounds really suspicious.

I don't understand why he would all of a sudden do that to you or start treating you that way.

If I were you I would tell him that this is no way to treat his fiance. You have some valid concerns and these issues need to be addressed. By him avoiding the issue or calling you ridiculous is really insulting.

I would have a talk with him the next time you see him in person.

Just tell him what you said here "What has been going on with you the past few weeks? Ever since you got a new female co-worker you have been asking me to park behind the building instead of going into the office. You won't let me drop you off in front of the building, you turn off your cell phone on your breaks and you have been leaving my house early. There is something going on and I want to know what it is...and don't tell me I'm being ridiculous because that is completely insulting. If we are going to be married you are going to need to learn to talk with me instead of just dismissing what I say as stupid or ridiculous..." Something along those lines. You need a straight answer and you definitely deserve one.

EDIT: I am so glad that I could help. I truly hope that everything works out with you and your fiance. Please be sure to come back and update us - or send me an email. Best of luck to you!

Answer 12

Hard to know because some times us girls (and guys too) do have an over active imagination. But yes, he sounds guilty. I'm sorry =( Go into work unannounced. It may be the only way to find out for sure. I'm sorry =\

Answer 13

Yikes.  Unfortunately, it doesn't sound good. :o(  BUT...you could be wrong.  I agree with Carebear--catch him off guard.  You'll want to know if he's unfaithful before you marry him.  It would hurt now, but would hurt more later if you married him and then found out.  Good luck with it all.  

Answer 14

He sounds very suspicious to me. I would drive in front of his job anyway. I know it sounds ridiculous, but if he has nothing to hide then he shouldn't have a problem with it, and if he is, you'll find out. You never know what is going through these men nowadays heads, so just take it easy and do what I told you. I know everything will be fine. Good Luck sweetie

Answer 15

It sounds like he is very guilty.  Since he cant be honest about it on wednesday u should go into his job 10 min. b4 his lunch break starts and suprise him.  If he doesnt introduce u to the new girl or he starts to act weird u know it is time to give the ring back.  Oh and make sure u go in for a kiss when u c him in the store.  If he moves that will also let u know where u 2 stand.  GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 16

Why don't you ask him outright if he is being dishonest? Sometimes people are so taken aback by another's honesty they usually feel compelled to tell the truth. Additionally, please pay attention to your instincts...we have them for a reason. Except humans are the only ones in the animal kingdom that don't listen to them. If you feel strong enough about getting stranger's opinions (I am not judging, its just an observation) on the matter then you obviously feel strong enough to get to the bottom of things. That is your instinct.

I wouldn't pull others in to this. This is your biz. Bosses, coworkers, etc. need not be involved. You are an adult. Adults pay mind to their own business and do not allow drama to enter a situation by inviting others in.

Also, you can tell your FI no matter WHAT the situation is YOU are strong enough to handle HIS reality/truth. Oh and there is no problem that cannot be solved by spiritual solution. I wish you the best!

Answer 17

if you have doubts work them out now. before you go to all the drama and expense of a marriage and quick divorce. marraige is not something you enter into with doubts. he might be innocent but just work it out first. if you cant work this out you don't deserve to get married as you are not taking it seriously enough.