I only have a few more weeks to live with my family. I love them dearly but I really clash with my mother... I'm 19 and heading into my third year of college (moving away at the end of summer) now so I'm eager to be finished school in a couple years and be completely self sufficient.
Anyway, I have no idea how to deal with my mother. I've tried reading books on dealing with Toxic Parents etc- but nothing seems to work. I've learned to not "provoke" angry issues but she seems to pick at me anyway and even on old topics we've already resolved(at least I thought we had).
She tells me I'm selfish and the only way I think I could be selfish is because I don't give into her c**p, and I'm honest because she always tells me to be honest. She doesn't like my honesty though such as: how I do my hair, or my sexuality... or even how I feel like dressing for the day!
I have taken her aside and told her that: I'm an adult now mom, I make my own decisions and you need to learn to respect that. She can't get over it and seems to continue to TRY living my life for me.
I just wish that I could have a REAL conversation about my opinions and not have her bark at me, make me feel shame or guilt or even stupid for once... I wish I had a real connection to her.
If anyone has any helpful ideas they are GREATLY APPRECIATED! Thanks so much...
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