What is happiness?

Question

As I'm growing up and get to compare different personality types to my own and to that of those who raised me, my perception of what happiness is seems to be changing. My parents were never, and still aren't the type to let loose, kick back and just chill. They're hardly spontaneous. They work hard and just chase money. On the other hand, I see a lot of people who aren't well off believing that if they had more money, they'd be happier. So, I'm faced with deciding which route to choose: Should I believe that money will bring happiness, or should I trust in myself and my relationships and friendships to bring me happiness? Most people would say a combination is best but how can one have two opposing goals in mind at once?

Answer 1

Happiness can mean different things to different people. For example, for one person, it may mean being in a relationship, whereas for someone else it may mean feeling you have the ability to handle whatever life throws at you.

While you might think that there are certain things that make you happy (or could make you happy if you had them), research has shown that there are certain common traits amongst happy people - and it isn't necessarily what you might have thought.

What Makes Happy People Happy?

You might think that happy people have lots of money, are physically attractive, have great jobs, or own the latest gadgets. Or, you might just think happy people are plain lucky, and are born that way.

Research suggests, however, that there are a number of variables that make a far greater contribution to happiness than external and more superficial factors.

That doesn't mean that if you have a lot of money you won't be happy, or that having a lot of money is bad, it just means that other factors are more important in determining happiness. In fact, a strong positive relationship between job status/income/wealth and happiness only exists for those who live below the poverty line and/or who are unemployed.

What distinguishes happy people, is that they have a different attitude - a different way of thinking about things and doing things. They interpret the world in a different way, and go about their lives in a different way.

Why is Happiness Important?

This might seem obvious - why wouldn't you want to be happy?! But the implications are greater than you might think. Happier people are generally healthier people - not only mentally, but also physically. So you can see than happiness is actually something that is really important, that you might want to increase if you can.

The "Happiness Equation"

It has been suggested that there are several factors that contribute towards our happiness. This is an 'equation for happiness' suggested by Martin Seligman, an American based psychologist:

H = S + C + V

H = Happiness

S = Set range - (genetics: about 50%)

C = Circumstances (8-15%)

V = Voluntary Control - (past, present, future)

This all looks very scientific, and is actually based on research findings, but can be explained quite simply:

Set Range/Genetics - There is some evidence to support that we are all born with a certain "set-point" of happiness, determined by our genes. This is supposed to change only slightly, if at all, as we get older. This contributes towards around 50% of our level of happiness.

So, if something dramatic happens, for example, you win the lottery, or break up with your boyfriend or girlfriend, within a year or so (depending on the situation) your happiness level will return to its set point.

Circumstances - There is also some evidence to suggest that the circumstance we live in influence our level of happiness. You don't always have a lot of control over your circumstances (for example, we can't all live in mansions and drive new cars). Evidence suggests, however, that this accounts for only around 8-15% of our happiness levels, which really isn't that much.

Voluntary Control - This third factor is the most important factor in the equation, because you can control it, and in the process control your happiness. It includes all aspects of your life over which you have a relatively high degree of control, including your thoughts and actions. This includes the way you choose to think about and act on the past, present, and future, and seems to have quite a significant impact on how happy you are - if you do the math, it could be up to 42%!

- Past - When thinking about the past, people who are happier pay attention to what is 'good' about the past, rather than focusing on the unhappy times. They are grateful, forgiving, and don't believe that the past will determine what happens in the future.

For more information on gratitude (being grateful) for the past, check out this fact sheet.

- Future - When it comes to thinking about the future, happy people are flexibly optimistic - what this means is that they are optimistic (in a realistic sense) about how their future is going to be, but if it doesn't turn out that way, they know it's not going to be the end of the world either.

- Present - The way you think about and act in the present is also essential in determining how happy you are. This might include things such as taking pleasure in life and your surroundings, building and being in meaningful relationships, and the way we react to things in life, good and bad.

For more information about the things you can control in your present which might help increase your happiness, check out the 'Tips for Increasing Your Happiness' fact sheet.

You do Have Control Over Your Happiness

So, you can see from this equation that you do have some control over your happiness. Even though a certain proportion of your happiness is beyond your control, and is determined by genetics and by circumstances (which you can only control to a certain extent), you can increase you happiness level by focusing on those areas in your life that you can control.

You might choose to control your attitude, the way you choose to interpret situations, and the way you think about yourself. If you think about it, and the fact that it could be accountable for around 40% of your happiness, this could make a big difference in your life.

Check out the interactive game Reach Out! Central if you want to see in action how the way that you think about and respond to situations can influence your mood, and your level of happiness of unhappiness.

But Does Aiming to be Happy Mean You Can't be Sad?

Not at all. In fact, going through times where you're sad can sometimes make that happiness all the brighter.

Sadness is a part of life, and sometimes it's even possible to feel happy and sad about something. For example, you might be happy to move out of home, but sad that you won't see the family, or your family dog, as much any more.

You might even wonder whether it's possible, or OK to be happy, when there is so much suffering and injustice in the world. Happiness is natural, and it is possible to be compassionate and caring, and in tune with the sadness of the world, while still experiencing happiness in your life. This awareness might even prompt you to act in a way to help improve the situation of others - an action which may actually increase your happiness.

Happiness - Something That Can be Worked On

Happiness is something that means different things to different people, but overall it seems that it is the way we choose to think about ourselves, our place in the world, and the world around us, and how we act in that world, that differentiates the happy people from the less happy people.

This is something that you actually have voluntary control over, and that you can work on in your daily life. Not only that, but it can contribute to a large proportion of your happiness, as seen in the equation. It's up to you.

I found this - some what interesting! This one of those questions that doesnt have one answer!

Answer 2

it can be both. but through money, you can only buy material things for happiness. whereas with your family and friends, you can find happiness which money cannot buy.

Answer 3

Full filling self expectations.

Answer 4

Simplicity!!

:D

Answer 5

happiness is an emotion associated with feelings ranging from contentment and satisfaction to bliss and intense joy.

A variety of philosophical, religious, psychological and biological approaches have been taken to defining happiness and identifying its sources.

Answer 6

Happiness is a state of mind, doing something you love or anything that makes you feel calm or at peace is happiness...in my words. Define what is means to you and follow it. :)

Answer 7

it depends what you actually do with money. if u keep it for yourself and dont help others, your gonna become a greedy unhappy person like my grandma. and no one really wants to deal with her. shes miserable and thinks that money will bring happiness. no one really loves her either, they all just talk to her because they want her money.

you just said the key to happiness right there "trust in myself and my relationships and friendships to bring me happiness"

you also have the choice to be happy with whatever you want. no one can affect your true happiness that you are born with. you decide the things that affect you.

Answer 8

happiness is dopamine at the end of the day, no matter how you get it.

Answer 9

Yes, well you're giving us two extremes here.

You're right - Some people aren't happy without money, and some people aren't happy with.

We do have to work hard in this life, but only you can define how much is hard.  If your parents work hard, but still smile, and enjoy life.. that's the ticket.

Just remember, happiness can only be defined by you.  So can hard work.  My motto always when I'm stressed over this:

"You can't take it with you".

Think of things you'd rather achieve, and contribute, and be remembered for... We do need money, unfortunately, in this life, but only to the point of attaining goals, and being happy, making others happy.  Up to you.  You get that, you get it. :)

Answer 10

Money can buy you fake happiness.  If you have a lot of money, you can find a hot young wife (who most likely wants you for your money--no offense), a huge house, a hot car...etc.

But, I doubt money can give you surreal experiences. What I mean by that--sure, money can buy you tickets for your vacations and pay for everything on your vacation, but do you really get to experience the natural culture of the place? For me, happiness is about adventures--the places I go, the people I meet, and/or the people I already have who join me on these adventures.  You don't need money for that.  Read On the Road by Jack Kerouac.  This guy goes on a road trip across the US..he has no money..but he meets a lot of people, and he has a bunch of cool new experiences.

Conclusion. We don't need money.  We just think we do.

Answer 11

Happiness is having the chance to spend your life with the one person that makes your life truely complete. Not the one you think will and finding out that you were wrong. There is someone for everyone, and when you find that one, your life will be complete. Thus you will find happiness.

Answer 12

amen.

Answer 13

I know how people say "Money can't make you happy". But when you have none...I don't think you're too happy either. For example, look at the children in Africa, they have like one penny and I wouldn't say they are happy...but they sure are tough. Everyone needs money to survive, but not JUST money. Happiness is found in many different things such as love and family. Do not start thinking that money=happiness because then you will turn into a greedy, little, rich person, but DO think that you need some along with a great partner, family, and friends. I hope my answer helped you out. Please check out my question: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

Answer 14

happiness is self-contentment. happiness can be felt by merely seeing small things deeper around you. you can never experience happiness if you shut everything in life out.

Answer 15

Happiness COMES FROM WITHIN. You have to be happy with yourself. No outside source has the ability to keep you happy forever. Weather it be a women, a nice car a house or whatever else. Those things can come and go, but you will ALWAYS be stuck with you.

Answer 16

money can help facilitate both comfort and pleasure

happiness is more a state of mind that is being constantly reborn when things that give us comfort and pleasure are replenished.

Answer 17

My friend you are right, a combination is best, However, if you NEED to chose, don't chose material things.

Do not chose money over love, friends and family, do not put all of your eggs in one basket my friend. Earn money to stay alive, thrive for it if you want, but, don't give up your friends and family for it.

Trust that my friend.

Answer 18

Most people who "chase money" have been poor, or eaten their share of government cheese. Those who want to trust in themselves, their relationships and friendships to bring happiness have usually been handed everything by hard working and well meaning parents who have no idea how much they are damaging their children in the name of getting them ahead. My parents grew up during the depression and made me work and save for anything I wanted growing up. Some kids get allowances, I had to pay RENT.

They taught me that good times and smiling faces don't pay the bills.

As for what is happiness, it is an emotion, and emotionalism doesn't put bread on the table.

Answer 19

When you have a relationship with the God of Heaven.