What is he thinking? Serious answers please. =[?

Question

i am currenlty pregnant with my boyfriend, we've been together for a year now and during those times, we've always been together. we've always talked about what if we have a baby stuff and he's cool with it even before he found out about the baby.

our parents doesn't know yet about the situation when i moved here in california and he was left in ohio. our parents found out about my pregnancy about a week ago and i've been here in CA for like a month.

i haven't seen my boyfriend for a while, and this is the first time we've been apart for this long. we used to talk on the phone but i always end up nagging him about things (well, im in my 1st trimester of my pregnancy so) i know he had a tough time but i apologize already. im suppose to go back to ohio today but his mom who's out of town too didn't allow me to go back and eversince my bf's mom found out about my pregnancy, my bf stopped calling me. i don't know why and it's driving me crazy.

the last time i talked to my bf's mom, she said my bf is happy and that he said he wasn't ready for a serious relationship yet. there's also rumors in my bf's school that he was saying he already broke up with me but my bf's sister told me that my bf had a fight with his mom because he wanted me to go back. i don't know what's true and i can't get ahold of my bf. he's not calling me.

does he already forgot about me?

he doesn't love me anymore?

does he want to run away from his responsibilities?

is it possible to forget someone (especially pregnant girlfriend) in a matter of 1 month?

i'm getting upset and upset each day.

i don't know what to do. please help.

Answer 1

I'm young so I wouldn't know much but I'm trying.

It sounds like s****. kids are just spreading rumors so I wouldn't pay any attention to that.

It also sounds like your boyfriend really wants to be with you. I think he could never just forget about you if you always talked about what you would do and if he just randomly stopped calling you. The thing is here his moms just being a bitc* and doesn't want her son having a baby yet so she's taking it out on you. Try with all your heart to get a hold of him. That's the only way you'll know for sure.

Hope it all works out. <3 !

Answer 2

i betcha he still loves you he is  just stressed out trying to talk to you and trying to please his mom. Just give him some time he'll come around and realize what is right just dont push him right now he is in a delicate state with a pregnant girlfriend.

oh and watch out for his mom she sounds like the over protective kind!

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 3

you need to talk to him. it is possible that his mother could be keeping him from calling you. but you need to remain in contact as least for the sake of the child. no matter what his problem is if it is not his mother he still has a legal responsibility to the baby. he can't just forget you because he wants to be a baby. he was man enough to have s*x, he is man enough to take care of a child.  if you can't get in contact with him within the next month i suggest you contact a lawyer.

Answer 4

no offense, but you already know that he is moving on -- without you.  Thats what you get forgetting knocked up

Answer 5

Sweetie, you wanted serious answers and though some of the answerers were  rude, they might well be true.  With all the information available today I still wonder why "we" females think having a baby guarantees our future with a man. Having said that I think you should concentrate on yourself right now and the future of your baby.  Seriously, no one knows what he is thinking - he is probably getting negative and positive feedback from family and friends and is confused.  You have to move forward and make sure the child you bring into the world will be nurtured and loved.  I know you are emotionally distraught, you should talk to your doctor or a trained social worker.  Hopefully, your mom is by your side and you will have to wait and see if he comes to terms with becoming a father.  It is a big responsibility and some men are overwhelmed initially.  Find something to do like taking parenting classes so you are not thinking about him so much.  

Answer 6

This wouldn't have happened if you didn't do it with your boyfriend before you were married. I'm sorry, but that's the truth. If you save your body for your husband, you won't have to worry about him being pulled away by his parents, and plus your parents wouldn't be upset. I think that his mom is not happy with the situation.  

Answer 7

Honestly no you can not forget someone who is going to be the mother of you child. No matter what happens between the two of you he will never forget you for the rest of his life because people remember important events such as pregnancy. It sounds to me though that he is young and maybe a little scared which is very normal. It does sound to me like he may be trying to run away from his responsibilities but I honestly do not know. This is something that only time will tell. My honest advice to you is to get an education and support your child the best way you can. Because there is no certainty that he will be around. If he is that is excellent but if not you have to be a strong woman and mother for your baby. Do not give up on him, just give him a little time, also if he does want to pretend like this didn't happen you need to file for child support because he needs to be financially responsible for his child. Best of luck.  

Answer 8

Your pregnant with your boyfriend?

So you are having your boyfriend?

Answer 9

He could use a payphone and he isn't.

I'd go see him and not tell anyone.

I'd want to get this resolved.

If he's decided ( with his Mom's help) to leave you with all the responsibility,  then get tough and see a lawyer. You are going to need the money.

Then forget about him and focus on raising your child.

Good luck.

PS  You are not the first one this has happened to. Thousands ......

Answer 10

It does sound like he and the family are struggling to cope with the situation. Your main concern should be preparing for the baby and becoming a mum. The most important thing is communication. No matter if he stands by you or not he will be in your life forever and that is a scary prospect for any young guy so expect difficult times ahead. Don't listen to his mom she's just protecting her son. It's him you need to sort things out with. Your the one who got yourself in this situation though he has to accept his portion of the blame. Don't have s*x if you can't handle the consequences!

Answer 11

Personally, I don't believe he can just stop loving you. He must care about his baby if anything! Why don't you just contact him, I mean he is the father of your baby? And see how it goes from there?

Please answer my question hun:

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Answer 12

Sounds like someone's running away from responsibility!  He should remember that it takes 2 to make a baby, and if you've already talked about a million tomes why is he all of a sudden shocked that you became pregnant?  First off try to be calm - I know it's tough w/ your raging hormones but don't dtress out, it's bad for the baby.  Try to e-mail him or leave him a non-threathening message, like "Hey, haven't heard from you in a while, everything OK? Can we talk soon?".  You have to be very patient with him, I had to be with my husband.  At first you don't even look pregnant, you just seem bitchy & demanding to him.  Don't scare him off, let him talk when you two meet up, having a baby is a big step - first of all it means that he'll be connected to you through this child for a long time or forever so don't become the woman that he wants to run away from.  Second of all, this pregnancy is not just about you, it's about him too - LET HIM TALK ABOUT IT to you, without interrupting or nagging, he has plenty of concerns, just like you.  If you're going to have a family you have to act like one - listen to each other, give each other plenty of space and be understanding.  Remember, this pregnancy becomes real to you when you start feel the baby move but to him it doesn't happen untill he sees that baby in the delivery room.  Act like a partner and a mom, not an annoying girlfriend.  However, if he decides to be an ****** and completely abandon you and your baby you can always do what many women have done before - prove paternity and make him pay child support.  Tough - if he really didn't want to be a father he should have put on a condom like a big boy.

Answer 13

He hasnt forgotten you and I think he's scared. He's worried about the enormous amount of responsibility it takes and his mom doesnt want him involved in the situation. If you ask me, your bf and his mom are acting selfish: you're the one bearing a child!