What is he thinking???

Question

Okay here is the deal. My husband and I are soon to be divorced and since the separation I have meet someone that I love very much and he loves me. We are planning to get married in June. Now my husband is like talking about how weird it is to talk to me. I even made a joke about his band playing for the reception (Just Joking) and he was all defensive on how he was ok with me getting married but that it was too weird for him to play the show. Like I would have him there to begin with. What in the world is wrong with this picture??He is seeing the girl he cheated with and it is weird? He is the one who wanted the divorce in the beginning I begged him to give us another chance and I finally moved on and got over it. What do you think?

Answer 1

This is natural... now that the divorce is almost over and you are moving on...there is a part of him that still wants you.   Just natural but honestly who cares what he thinks

Answer 2

Put as much distance between u as u can and be happy with your new man.

Answer 3

You two sound like teenagers who shouldn't even be allowed to vote.

Answer 4

It would be in bad taste to have him play at your wedding. If you have gotten over him then quit having him around.

Answer 5

It's always weird to see your ex with someone else at first.  He doesn't sound like a jerk or anything.  He said he's fine with you getting married.  He just didn't get the joke about the band thing.  

Answer 6

He thinks now your all right with all that happened between the two of you.  It might have even made him think for a minute you kinda wanted him again, as weird as that seems to be and especially at a wedding.  Since he sees you have moved and your now getting married, he's having second thoughts about the entire ordeal.    

Answer 7

This happens a lot. The person you're with leaves you and doesn't seem to care at all UNTIL you're in love with someone else. Its perfectly normal and he's just uncomfortable with the idea of you being happy with someone else. Not to mention the fact that his relationship probably isn't as wonderful as he imagined it would be when he ended your relationship to be with her.

Hope you have a wonderful marriage and a second chance at happiness. Good luck.

Answer 8

that's normal - the person who's gotten over you can't believe that someone has gotten over him! I thought it was funny that you'd say that about the band- I've actually joked like that before to my ex and he just laughed....sorry this is difficult for you.Time will heal