What is it about human beings and our need to be accepted by other humans, socially and emotionally?

Question

What is it about human beings and our need to be accepted by other humans, socially and emotionally?

Answer 1

we are made for family life..

Answer 2

People need people.

People naturally need to love and to be loved, It's nourishment for the soul. We need it or else we grow into cold, bitter, uncaring human beings.

We weren't put on this earth to be hermits and live alone in caves. If we didn't have that need to be accepted, we wouldn't care about other human beings. Life wouldn't be worth living.

Answer 3

in evolutionary terms, its the best method for survival, safety in numbers and all that. humans alone cant survive for long, we need eachother to survive, think hunter gatherer sort of ideas! this developed over time etc to become an emotional need

Answer 4

Isn't it fascinating? Our need to be seen as a member of a group, to identify, and yet be perceived as an individual.

The frustration a parent feels over their child's problems with standing out or being picked on or not accepted brings a new perspective on the issues they've faced and continue to, whether at home, in social settings or at work. We need to be part of the herd and yet long to not be identified with the stumbling, yammering crowd. We want to be seen and appreciated for who we are, and yet numbered amongst those whom we value.

So what to do?

Enjoy the company of those whom it's a joy & a privilege to share time with. Be there when they need you, because you'll always be grateful for their judgement and experience.

Be useful, happy and grateful for and around those you love and you're lucky enough to have love you. You simply don't know when you won't have them any longer.

Celebrate new friendship or the kindness of strangers, whilst not letting the casual cruelty, harshness or over-familiarity of others go unnoticed or unmentioned.

Don't waste time with those who don't deserve it and have proven it. But accept the possibility of others deserving more from us when we don't necessarily realise it at the time.

And trust your friends when they value your company. You trust them in other areas, why not that? Pretty soon you'll be seen with the people it's really worth being seen with and you'll be happy without even knowing when it started.

All the best.  

Answer 5

Genetic Flaw?  LoL  Just kidding.  

For whatever reason, that's just the way our psyche is made up.  Some handle it better than others.  Those that are secure and confident aren't bothered by a little rejection now and then, especially when that rejection is because they won't go along with something they feel is incorrect.  

But those that were abused, neglected, or just never developed a strong sense of self are really up the creek without a paddle when it comes to peer pressure.  Their need for acceptance is so great that they will sell out their own values to be part of the group.  These kind of people are so easily manipulated that they are often sought out as targets by con men, religious cults, criminals, etc.

Answer 6

It is because we are in some way dependent on others. The thing I have noticed is that when you start to be the leader or you do not try to attach to someone else. You start to question your own beliefs, your own thoughts. Hence why we hear so many people going crazy when left alone. Plus we all want to be accepted by someone. It is just instinct for us to be this way.

Sincerely, Zach