What is it like meeting your birthmom?

Question

I know it's cool getting answers to questions-but the moment of meeting-did you cry? Laugh? Hug? Was it awkward? Was she how you imagined her? I meet mine in 14 months and I am getting nervous and excited...and I want to be able to dream about that day and not be dissapointed because I have built it up too high like so many things in my life.

Answer 1

when she walked in, i was in shock, because i looked exactly like her.  i never looked like anyone before.

it was very exciting and overwhelming!  i have to be honest, she didn't want to hug me.  she said she wanted to look at me.

i didn't cry, but i think it was because i was a little numb!

Answer 2

It felt very similar to the first time I jumped out of a plane to skydive.

Seriously.

Answer 3

I meet mine everyday, usually asking her to make me a sandwich.

Answer 4

hi  well i just  found my  son  and will see in sept  i am almost beside myself  and you do what feels good that  is iam going to do  goodluck

Answer 5

i met my birthmom when i was 29,i am now 38. i had to wait a long time too,as we are in different countries. what we found really helped was that we talked and talked,and wrote lots of letters during the wait from March to September.we got to know each other really well,and when we finally met we were quite calm,and we didn't cry or laugh!.we just chatted like old friends,lol. but she did say that she felt like i had just gone on a long vacation,and was always expecting me to come back.the actual meeting iteself was quite calm,but it was the 5 years or so afterwards that was quite hard.my emotions wer kinda crazy,and sometimes i wondered what i was doing.i strongly suggest you prepare yourself well for the meeting-read adoption books,research,talk to an adoption counsellor if you can.i was too excited to really prepare properly,and as you have 14 months to wait,use the time to prepare yourself.good luck!

I meant to say,our relationship is going well now,i finally feel i am at peace with my life,and i know who i am.x

Answer 6

it was exciting and awkward and every other feeling in between, there are so manythings that go through your mind all at once, a piece of advice though,, dont expect too much and try not to jump into anything,, I moved in withmy birthmother 2 weeks after we met and I belive it was the worst choice I ever made. Take your time,, good luck

Answer 7

Well, I don't know what's it's like for the adoptee side but I am a birth mom and I know if I was kept away from my son for that long and finally had a chance to meet him, see how he has grown, find out where life has taken him, etc. I would probably first fall to the floor in a big blubbering ball. I would be SO excited and SO incredibly happy. I would laugh I would cry I would hug him and never want to let him go. I bet your birth mom is beside herself with excitement and is counting down the days just like you are. Best of luck to you sweety :)

Answer 8

I imagine it's different for everyone.  

For me, my wife and I pulled up to the hotel where she was staying (she had driven up to our town to meet).  She was sitting outside with other members of my first family.  She didn't look a lot like the pictures she had sent, but I recognized her right away.  We parked the car and walked across the parking lot.  My first mom and I walked up to each other and started hugging right away.  

It was immediately normal.  I mean, it was out-of-this-world strange.  But it was the most normal thing in the world, too.  

She wasn't anything like I imagined.  But I knew, deep down, right from the start, that she was my mom.  

It was very emotional.  But it wasn't very awkward.  Our phone calls had been awkward, because I never know what to say on the phone.  But being together in person, seemed the most normal thing I've ever done.  

I know not everyone has that experience.  And it's hard to know what your meeting will be like.  Mine was like the calm at the center of a whirlwind.  I hope yours is good, whatever happens.  Best of luck.