What is it like to adopt a child?

Question

I would just like to know what it would be like ??

Answer 1

It's true..it's not unlike anyone else's road to parenthood. It is wonderful; filled with joy, sadness, fears, heartache, excitement, "what ifs", amazement, doubts, bewilderment, confusion, tears, frustration, beauty, prayer and love. We couldn't drive fast enough when we found out our baby had been born. Then when we got to the hospital I was terrified to get out of car. When we were welcomed into the nursery at the hospital, the nurses presented our daughter to us with tears in their eyes. My husband and I burst into tears as well. It was unreal -- this was OUR baby. OUR BABY! The waiting period for signing away parental rights varies by state -- we had to wait 72 hours. We had our daughter with us for the last 24. They were the longest, scariest hours of our lives. We finalized nearly 1 year later -- another scary but wonderful day. People ask you the weirdest things -- things that are no one's business. You wonder, "What are they thinking?" But people don't know any better -- they think because they saw "Juno," they know about adoption. Nothing can really demonstrate what it's like.

Everyone's  experience is different. This was ours. We wouldn't trade our journey to parenthood for anything in the world.

Answer 2

Well it will be a good thing to adopt a child so they could have a good family. But, the person who put the child in the adoption center was mean i think that is very wrong!

P.S. i hope i get the best answer!!!

~$prite

Answer 3

It is an amazing and emotional experience.  While you are tremendously excited that you are fulfilling a dream of being a parent, you are aware that adoption comes at the nmom's loss.   So while you are celebrating a new family, another one is grieving and I was keenly aware of this as my daughter was placed in my arms....it was a surreal, bittersweet moment.  EVen though I know why her nmom cannot parent her, it saddens me very deeply on the things she is missing out on.  Recently we had a family outing where my daughter was just so delighted with what we were doing and I really wished her nmom could have been there with us to see that.

So for me, I am constantly aware that there is another person to this equation; one that I would never deny entry into our lives if she so desired.  I put alot of thought and consideration into my choices with my daugther because I know we may meet one day and I want to be able to say I truly did my best.

I also think things don't bother me as much as they do my biological friends.  While they can't wait to get away from their toddlers for a day, I am not as eager, I enjoy every minute with my daughter, even the tantrums!  I think sometimes it is easy for those who did not struggle to become parents to take their kids for granted.  

It has been a wonderful and emotional experience that is really hard to put into words!

Answer 4

I adopted a toddler from China.

After waiting so long to be united with her it was surreal once she was placed in my arms. I was beyond thrilled to be a mommy again (have 2 bio children also) but I was a stranger to her. There was no recognition in her eyes that she knew me cause she didn't. She had never seen my face or heard my voice. She had to learn who I was, to trust me, to believe in me to not leave her, etc. I had to learn her cries, her expressions, and how to meet her needs.

I would be lying if I said it has all been a piece of cake. We have had our lows and highs. She has had abandonment issues and I am sure she will on and off for the rest of her life. I have to realize that raising her is not the exact same as raising my children that I carried for 9 months and gave birth to.

Does that make her any less special, NO!

Do I love her any less-heck NO!

Answer 5

It is like Being a Mom. If this is the first baby then maybe this is why you are asking this. It is like having your own baby but you dont have to be pregnant. You get to love the baby like your own and spoil him/her and make them a part of the family. It is Truly Lovely!