What is it like to be married to a Marine?

Question

Well my boyfriedn is joining the marines he is leaving dec 8 for boot camp. We've been together for 4 yrs and i love him. We were goin to get married before he goes to boot camp but now we don't know what to do. He's afraid i won't like it, i really don't know? I just need help pls my head is spinning around in circles. i told him that it doesn't matter whether we get married before or after or in a year. Whats it like ot be a marine wife? i guess thats the question i'm looking for.

Answer 1

He will go  out and play while at home you stay.  Believe me there is a lot that goes on in there that people won't believe.  A lot of playing around and fraternization.

Let it be after,  then get STD's, and Aides testing.  

Answer 2

It's tough. You two are about to embark on a difficult part of marriage. Be prepared for alot of time apart.

Answer 3

It seems like you two have been together for a long time. I guess you have to ask yourself how much you  love him and how much patience you have. I am disappointed by many of the responses I have read.

Loving a soldier, any soldier is hard. His job is to sacrifice for his country and because of your connection to him, you will sacrifice too. There will be lonely days and nights and moments where you feel sick from missing your best friend so much. So the question is how deep is your love and his?

Not all men in uniform cheat. Just like not every women that waits on a man in uniform  cheats. This decision is one you have to make alone. Can you still love him when he comes back home from war and you have to be there as he tries to get his mind straight again? If he loses a limb, God forbid, can you still honor him and love him? These are the questions you need to be real honest with yourself about him. Can you deal with months of separation? Can you be faithful. Can you be supportive?

If yes, then marry him. Love him. Support him. He will need your support. He will need to hear your voice when the days are too long and he needs to be reminded that his home in his heart because you are there for him. He will need the letters that you send that smell of your scents and the  mushy and silly cards. Honestly, so will you.

My happiest times, other when I am talking to my soldier, is when I am writing him. It is when I am getting a package together for him or thinking of what I will put in the next one I send out. I miss him so much and the first few weeks of his deployment I thought I would lose my mind. The first time we went days without speaking my heart ached and I worried. I am adjusting a bit now.

I think the family,friends, and SO's of fighting men are soldiers, too, in their own right. If you're not sure don't marry him. If he isn't sure he shouldn't marry you. If you don't know what you two want you both should wait.

I love my soldier. It is rewarding when I hear his smile on the phone and I know I did that and I wouldn't change being here and waiting for his return for anything in the world.

I wish you the best.

God Bless you both and be well

Answer 4

i think u have to marry him now before he goes if he get killed there u will be a happy widow if not he will come back to u then u will be happy too

Answer 5

You might want to get married before...it'll be good for his moral to know that you are "his". Also that way you can get bah and the perks good luck to you in the future

Answer 6

Marines Do Push Ups On Wives With Gun At Attention.

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