What is it that attracts taken men?

Question

if you are in a relationship what is it that attract you men to another woman? I am not looking for it I just want to know what I can do to change it. Could it just be my looks... i am a pretty attractive girl tall, blonde, long legs, dark complextion, bigger chest. If it is just my looks, I am really just going to become a nun

Answer 1

Hate to say it but it's usually just looks, either that or a problem in the relationship but mostly looks

Guys are shallow, i sure know i am (really were all that way most just wont be honest about it)

Answer 2

girls body

Answer 3

Most men in relationships who show interest are just looking for s*x.   They already have a relationship so the only thing to be desired is physical satisfaction from another woman.

Now, its totally possible they're in a bad relationship and are looking for a way out, but either way, you can't know unless you ask.  Its possible they really feel a connection with you, but you need to know for sure before you let it progress.  Be honest with yourself -- if you know he doesn't know you that well but is showing interest, then of course its physical.

To be honest, you're more likely to get this interest from men in powerful or highly-paid positions.  Its party the power trip that makes them so forward and willing to ignore the relationship they're already in.

Since you know you're already going to get all this attention from guys, you just need to develop a way to screen them better.  You can't just turn them all down because you risk missing a great catch.  Instead, just be polite but stick to your guns and you'll be able to see through all the ********.

Good luck!!

Answer 4

Well actually men weren't built to be monogamous. In this respect we aren't "taken".  It is in our genetic make up to go out and procreate with as many females as we can. You see it everywhere in teh animal kingdom... have a look about.

We are suppressing our sexuality to stay with the one broad. Now, that is possible at a tremendous self sacrifice...  let me explain....

When a person falls in love.. it's not like you check to see whether she has a V8 under the hood ... you know... maybe she just sort of parks intercourse on the bench in terms of her main areas of interest. You are really not to know... and before you know it.. you are hooked on her and nobody else.

This is a serious and concerning dilemma for a guy who is really just a dirty w***e after all said and done. A polyamorous person is not always lucky enough to fall in love with someone just like him/her.

So what are we to do... 25 years into marriage... of suppressed sexuality and looking down the barrel of another 25 years of unfulfilled and repressed sexuality... let's face it... something's going to give one day... and it usually does.

Then we hear about the divorce statistics. Fact is, after the kids grow up... in the majority it's the women who instigate divorce... are they just looking for an excuse..... because infidelity is one that is often used... but it is also one that many polyamourous couples embrace... so Cheating needn't carry the badboy image that it has.

Guys are polyamorous... we just haven't realised that it's OK to be that way. It's the women who suppress our sexuality ~ our liberty.. our natural tendancy for a polyamourist lifestyle and our instincts! Bloody matriarchal societies.... this has gone on long enough!

Men of the world revolt... unlock your shackles... and enjoy the pleasure you are endowered to experience.

So when a pretty attractive girl tall, blonde, long legs, dark complextion, bigger chest comes along... or even better... when one is wearing a nun suit ( I love a good fetish party) ... I just cannot resist my natural instincts.

You know... you really ought to reject your inhibitions and get into the game. Fear nothing. Live life. Find the love of your life and go with your instincts.

Answer 5

Boredom I guess, boredom with the current relationship. Depending on the age, you can get bored with the same person after 2 years, even less than 6 months at times.

How to change this:

Maybe do random things, and also keep the s*x life well up-to-scratch. Lets all remember men think about 1 thing for 90% of their life and that is s e x.

Answer 6

The opportunity to have s*x with someone that has not yet taken him.

Answer 7

Ever hear of the "seven year itch?" When a man is taken, it's sort of like he has chosen his flavor of ice cream. Some guys like lots of different flavors. Plus, in a relationship, things get mundane and sometimes s*x is the last thing on one person's mind- with their partner. But for a guy, s*x is almost always on his mind, so if he can't cast his hook at home- or if he is simply longing for variety- he will cast it elsewhere, or at least he will think about it constantly. If you have the unique qualifications you speak of, then you are especially vulnerable to finding yourself on the guy's "radar." Best of luck with however you decide to handle the situation. I can think of some ways, but I tend to get long winded.

Find men that are interested in some of the things that you are interested in online where they can not see what you look like until some sort of rapport is already established.

You should be able to tell if he is really interesed in YOU if he is engaged in the conversation on your level and keeps eye contact and shows interest in you, your life, your job, your interests, and doesn't try to segue the conversation into a somewhat masked but telling come-on. I wish I could say there is a DNA test you can get him to take but there is no easy answer.

Answer 8

Men are primal creatures. they have learned to be monogamous somewhat. It just does not compute. I play cat and mouse very well. When you have enough experience you will know how to use your womanly wiles.

Men are men.

I LOVE MEN

Answer 9

It's okay and normal for men or women to be "attracted" to the opposite s*x, as long as they don't act on it while in a relationship :) My advice to you and to everyone is, theres always gonna be someone prettyier or sexier than you that comes along. So present youself the way you would want these people to, around your future husband, or bf/gf.

Answer 10

Well the first sign a guy is interested in you is probably that he stares at you and drools.  a wise man once told me, that if you're a man and you ever notice you're not thinking about getting some, then you know something is wrong.  If it's someone you've known for a while and suddenly you notice them acting differently around you, even if they're pushing you away, that's a sign.  It's harmless unless the guy tends to be overly assertive or aggressive.  And like others have said, most men are shallow and don't think beyond physical beauty, especially when it comes to having affairs.  Sure there are other factors, but think about it like degrees: we want a girl to major in looks and double-minor in intelligence and personality.  But even if she only has the looks, we probably aren't going to complain.

Answer 11

what attracts a man to another woman when he is taken is he wants what he can't have

Answer 12

self confidence and eyes