What is it with women competing with other women for their looks?

Question

Is this really what men are after? Looks, it must play a big part, because I see it all the time. When i am on the subway i notice women eyeing other women if their thinner then them etc.

God, why does it have to be this way? Is it in our nature to compete or something? What's the point about women needing to feel the prettiest of them all?

I would really like to know were this stems from? And i wish it would stop. It's so sad, Why can't we just all get along?

Opinons?

Answer 1

A woman's main source of power is her beauty. She wants to keep her power and thus competes for it.

Many women have said to me that they prefer guy friends. This is ego at its worst, as it means they prefer guys because they don't have to compete and can use their beauty to obtain things from men.

Answer 2

bcos the truth is that most men, no matter how old they are, always fall for the best-looking women. And surprisingly they are willing to make all possible sacrifices they can to get married to them. If the woman is average looking, the men need to be convinced by something else in her (like very good personality or character) to even think that she is dateable. However if she is very pretty or beautiful, the men completely ignore her character, they just want to 'get' her really badly. Sadly that is how society is

Answer 3

Throughout our lives, we hear constant comments on how this girl is pretty, or this woman would be cuter if she'd just put on some makeup and cut her hair, or this one has nice eyes, blah, blah blah.  It's hardwired into us to think that we're just being judged on looks, even when we are smart enough to know better.  I say it's a learned response since childhood.

Answer 4

you tell me lol your avatar name say it all really , fierce foxy fire......... from that i get one good looking women with attitude. is that not the same?

Answer 5

I 've wondered about that for a long time ...Competition doesn't make them prettier.

Answer 6

Yes, men are attracted to beauty, this is a no-brainer. However, there is a deeper meaning. Men appreciate women who take care of themselves. When a women takes time to keep herself in good physical shape and dresses appropriately, men respect this.

Answer 7

Yeah it's in women's nature to compete with their looks, after all, what else do they have? Hah, thanks for the thumbs down.

You women always have to beat each other out, you all could just put an end to it and develop some self worth, and I mean the real kind, not the "I'm empowered because I can do the same things a man can do" kind.

It stems from women competing for men because the woman with the best man has access to all his resources and men want beautiful women and women know this. There you have it

Answer 8

Yes women can be quite obsessed with each other it seems. And while a person should improve the way they look, it seems pointless to be obsessed like some women are, or I don't understand. Yes, I know women are competitng with each other and trying to look good because of men being visual, but then looks are subjective as well and while a woman might not be the prettiest, there are men who love the figure in a woman or look such features. People have all sorts and varieties as far as preferences, so even if she isn't the prettiest girl around or seems to less pretty than other women or doesn't have big b*****s, etc.

Just doing the best with what you have and perhaps working on other assets and not making your sexual value just about your looks. And the last, but not least reason why this obsession about looks is pointless to me is because of this....There will always be someone better than you. So it's stupd to be obsessed. Just as there is always somone faster, smarter, stronger, than you, there will always be someone prettier or better looking than you or who has a better body, even if you are very attractive.

I've seen this with pretty women look at other women and feel to compete or jealous when that woman herself is pretty, but while she is prettier than many other women, because a few others have better bodies or are prettier, she is jealous. You can be drop dead gorgeous and there will come along a person even better looking at some point. So it's pointless to worry or be obsessed about it, because there is always someone better than you in some aspect and this includes looks as well.

Answer 9

sigh

First, why are you checking out all thos other women? Scond, how do you know what they're thinking and why (they might be getting fashion ideas -- or be thinking of something else entirely)? Third, your perptuating stupid stereotypes is NOT helping.

It's a lie that every woman competes with others over looks.

You can't change those who do; you control yourself, not others.

Answer 10

Why are you assuming all women are alike-you're stereotyping women. Not all women compete with other women over looks or anything else. You sound kind of paranoid-you think you know what women are thinking on the subway? I'm more interested in where that stems from..

I have caring supportive women and men friends-I don't know what the heck you're talking about. Sure there are superficial men and women who care about looks-but not all.

Answer 11

Ugh, I know what you mean.  I do it - not as much as I used to, when I was younger (once you pass 35 you have to spare yourself the comparison to 21 year olds) - and yes, it seems very important to us all that we be the most attractive in the room.

I think it has a lot to do with the way adults interact with female babies - if you get the opportunity, listen to what compliments are paid to little girls.  From the moment we're born, we feel loved when people tell us we're pretty, adorable, cute, happy - all of the things we later feel trapped by.

Answer 12

It's actually not a competition at all. Women (and men) who do this are unhappy with some aspect of themselves or feel insecure about their looks, their weight, etc. There is nothing wrong with wanting to make improvements in ones appearance if it is done in the spirit of taking care of ourselves and not for the sake of trying to look like someone else.

There will always be someone smarter, someone thinner, someone richer...that's life and that's the way it was meant to be.

Once a person accepts the fact that they are a unique one-of-a-kind human being and starts to deal with his or her insecurities and learn self-acceptance, trying to look like someone else seems silly and a waste of time. What really counts is being the best you can be and taking good care of yourself, inside and out.