What is like to turn from an adolescent into an adult?

Question

I'm nearly 17 and I'm beginning to turn from an adolescent to an adult and I don't know how it would be like to be an adult. I think I will be taken on a lot of responsibilities!

What are the best things of turning in to adult (Yay! No more parents controlling you!) and the worse things of being an adult (Oh no! Bills!)?

Answer 1

Freedom (Yay!)

Can move out

Answer 2

You pretty much said it hun. lol

Best things:

*Freedom: can go to the store at 1am if wanted to (I like my late night ice cream! lol)

*Party with no curfew

*Depending on job, can live where desired.

*Make own rules (house, car, etc).

*Can actually own something and only court/law can take it away; technically.

*Can budget/spend however desired on left over money from paycheck.

*Relationships can be abit more better as time goes on (depending if you know how to pick em and handle the "worst" that is). Not dealing with no 13 year old "crush" any more.

Worst things:

*Bills.....morgage/rent, vehicle...school loans etc. Pretty much paying for everything, depending if married or single can "alter" or "change" it.

*Responsible for own actions.  If you ditch school as a teen, parents can get in worse trouble (Truancy laws); however, now anything you do will be your consequence.

*Family and friends grown apart. Majority of my friends since elementry have grown apart and went on to different roads. Once in awhile we talk, but it will never been the same as it was when we where 15.

*Relationships can fail or get rocky due to all the "worst".

*More stress, worries and fears:

Stress about paying bills on time.

Worring if I will be laid off or if I will be taking care of my sick parents or becoming a parent.

Fear about failing, not living up to standards, expectations.

Over all, being an adult is fun. It has its moments of good and bad times JUST as being a kid/teen has its too.  

I would love to have a day of being a kid/teen again with no worries or fears. Just a day to hang with friends and the only worry is whether or not I will make it home to my favorite tv show with all my friends.

Yet, now that I am an adult, I adjusted. You will feel overwhelmed sometimes, often confused and fusturated.

Just get organized, get focused. Don't open credit cards, go shopping crazy or expect "new stuff" all the time. Accept handy downs at first, get a good paying job with benefits and don't settle down with a guy first off giving up everything you  have for him. (hint: mistakes I did).

You will be okay.

Answer 3

It is nice that you legally are not being controlled by your parents anymore - although in most cases (if your parents aren't nuts), you might not want to write them off completely since they are a great support system and they do have the life experience that you are lacking. As much as they might annoy you and make you feel like a child - they often really do know what they are talking about. Even if you don't realize it until much later :-)

But yes, being an "adult" once you move out on your own does mean more responsibilities. Bills, like rent or a mortgage once you buy a house plus electric, a car payment if you have one, tv, phone, water, garbage...the list goes on, doing ALL of the chores and errands for yourself (cleaning, lawn mowing, shoveling, groceries, etc.), and having to depend on yourself more when stuff goes wrong (for example - car problems? Take it there yourself. No more daddy to take it in for you. Well in general that is, unless daddy is still that nice for you). Not to mention eventually a career - where you are working 40 hours or more a week and there are no summers off like there is in high school or college. The excuses you could often use in high school do NOT fly in the work place. I could go on and on. You get used to it all though and it is a part of life. Be responsible, but have fun with it.

Answer 4

It's kind of odd, cause I can't really say at what point I could look at myself and say, "Yeah, I'm an adult now!" LOL

It certainly is an interesting time for sure.  Just take on those responsibilities slowly, and don't be in a hurry.

The biggest thing I have realized since growing up and moving away from home is how valuable my parents advice was....even as an adult (they have both crossed over now).

Oh.....and learn the evils of credit cards now...before it is too late.  And learn how to balance a budget....the sooner the better to learn that skill!! LOL

PS...pay no mind to Cuie Cutie...I believe she's a 12 year old trapped in a 15 year old body.

Answer 5

It depends on you as a person...ive always felt alot more mature then my age even had my own place at 16...The one thing that really made a difference is when i became a mom

so it just depends on you everyone has responsibilites at any age

Answer 6

moving out when you are an adult is actually tougher then what you think. You will have more bills and responsibilities, then comes the stress. I have 4 grown boys and all of them wished they were kids again. When my older sister moved out at 18, she was back at home, then out again, then back at home. she did this for 8 years, then finally got married. my parents just basically said they were going to put on a revolving door.

Answer 7

Good thing is you dont have parents to boss you around lol, Bad thing is you are poor because you have to support yourself.