What is more difficult : To Remember or to Forget ?

Question

Explain your opinion, please.

Answer 1

i find it more difficult......

.......to forget the things that i always remember.....

Answer 2

we’ll go with it been harder to remember… its not that we forget… its just that we don’t have to think about it… and we don’t… now as to the remembering bit… we remember it how we want to remember it… not how it was… some times we distort and spin our memories to the point that others who were there don’t even know what we’re talking about… there is always a memory of it… even when we’re unconscious  we’re quasi aware…  

Answer 3

Neither one of those are easy/difficult. Just depends on how much impact a particular case of experience makes on our memory!

Answer 4

It is easier to forget than to remember.

Remembering familiar places, faces and events are really hard to do not unless you make a reminder of these things. Reminders may be applicable to places and events.. but what about remembering faces? I've had encounters before where I really had a hard time remembering the name of the person. They seemed familiar but the details slipped out of my mind.

Forgetting is the easiest thing to do. As we grow old, our memory becomes weak. And besides, our brains are designed to process and store only significant things of our life. So if something or someone means nothing to us, why bother remembering?

Answer 5

What's difficult is continuously remembering the things you want to forget.  What sucks is forgetting to remember.

Answer 6

to forget the pain loved ones have caused me  

Answer 7

To forget.

1) Especially those things we are taught to forget from those who have cause us pain.

2) Pain seems to be something we only medicate and sweep under the rug... instead of deal with it directly once and for all.

3) Pop-Psychology teaches us to drag it out... and define ourselves by our short-comings and become the 'Victim' of life that can and should overcome.

4) Wouldn't be so much better, if we could all learn to 'Remember' and define ourselves by our "Strengths', and not necesarilly sweep our 'Weeknesses' under the rug... but view them as challenges to work on rather then Whole identiites?

5) For me it's hardest to forgive and forget those that have caused and brought pain to my life... though I realize I have done the same to others in my life to a certain degree as well.

6) Each time I try to forget these mistakes, I find myself remembering them...

7) It becomes counter-productive.... like willing yourself to fall asleep fast... the harder you try... the harder it becomes to do so... don't you think?

Answer 8

The mind is a wonderful place, There is an infinite amount of locations. For an analogy, imagine a forest, full of huge trees and rocks and dirt and bushes and bird sounds and fresh air, and also don't forget all the empty spaces between the trees, that show the blue sky, above. Also take into consideration, using your imagination, that you woke up in the middle of this forest, with no clue to tell you how you got there. Strangely, you are very calm, but nothing looks remotely familiar; everything is completely random. You begin to observe, visually, subconsciously you also observe through your sense of smell and hearing.

Now repeat this 100 days and the chances are you will by now, begin to become quite familiar with all the landmarks, no longer do you get lost, after a few moments of wandering; you know the area like the back of your hand. Using your imagination, you also remember quite well the day in the forest when you stumbled across a suitcase full of gold bars. You also remember the day you were treed for 3 hours, by a bear.

So with all this filing and storing and processing of information that has taken place; ten years later you will probably only remember the highlights of your adventures. Depending on your present status, in the moment, ten years after your adventures, you will feel about your experiences, accordingly. The mind tends to omit memories of feeling suffering and pain, for men and for women not so much. For women there is feeling that is stamped "attached" with the date and time, for filing purposes. I will address this last statement, in my conclusion.

To conclude, forgetting is not as, necessarily, as a good thing, as remembering. The incident, whatever it may be, may or may not have been in your control. If it is not in your control, life will be well for you if you accept it as a part of the cycle and process of life. If it is within your control, you must decide whether it is worth repeating and determine whether there is a remedy to the situation via. counseling learning and most of all hoping.  Ask your parents for advice.

Answer 9

I think it's about even.  As long as there isn't any neurological damage to our brains/minds I think we can be in control of what we care to remember or would like to forget. I hope I'm wrong about this because if I'm right...I'm a real mess. And it's all my own fault!

     Maybe my short-term memory is shot.....Don't remember why it would be at my age. Don't care either; BUTT!! I do wonder why I can't remember if I ate breakfast, yet I can recall an argument I had with my dearly departed husband years ago....and still be pissed. I was right & he was wrong & that's all there is to it! Why can I remember so many fights with him & forget all the best days?    I can remember the very first day with him....& the very last day; 23 years plus later. But not everything that happened in between.

     I remember our first year together really well. He got mad at me because I taught his kids to dance for rain. And it worked. He yelled at me on our picnic. I wish I could forget that.

   I miss you Cliff......no matter what, even if my brain is dead....I will never forget you.

Answer 10

I find it more difficult to forget.

I am always remembering things...so much to the point that friends will come to me when they can't remember. Sometimes I wish there were things that I could just forget -but I can't. I forgive, but I don't forget. Sometimes I feel like that's my own personal curse -I remember things even when I shouldn't.

Friend: How do you spell Alzheimer's?

Me: Why, you forgot?

Answer 11

Since I forgot I find that I am unable to explain

Answer 12

one generaly never tries to forget things or events that one likes or dislikes.So it is not easy to forget it if one wishes or try to forget o wants to remove it of from his or her's memory.

Answer 13

This cannot be generalized.

It is more difficult for me to remember phone numbers than to forget people and circumstances.

Just as a for instance...

Answer 14

To forget.

It's not something one can decide.

Answer 15

To forget memories.

The ones I wished I had never set in motion.

It's easier to remember tender moments than forget painful memories.

Answer 16

When you find out the answer let me know!! Good question!! I'd say forget... maybe b/c bad things tend to stick with me more and teach me lessons.  

Answer 17

It's more difficult to forget the bad things but easier to remember the good things. If you want to forget something that means it has become a part of you that you can't break away from.

Answer 18

To be honest I am having equal difficulty with both. I can't forget how I feel at times and I can't remember why I want to but i know I do. I am too emo for my own good.

Answer 19

I would say it depends on the person. For me, it's probably to remember...I always seem to be forgetting something..  

Answer 20

Remembering is more difficult because it takes mental energy. Even if you "spontaneously" remember something, there is neuronal energy flowing in the brain.

Forgetting takes no energy at all.

Answer 21

The body remembers so some things can never be forgotten: It's not an opinion, ajust a cold fact of life for some ...http://www.amazon.com/Body-Remembers-Psy...

Answer 22

Both. It imply some effort from your side, and it will reflect back to you the same amount of energy for you to confront it...You are familiar with that struggle, huh? Solution is ingeniously simple but you did not ask for solution.

Answer 23

Try remembering to forget! That's really hard!  

Answer 24

when it comes to facts the answer's easy, they're harder to remember. if your referring to events, general concepts, ideas, or emotions, those things are with us all our life.  

Answer 25

you'll forget good things and remember bad things that other people do to you but rarely you'll remember good things and forget the bad ones

Answer 26

it depends on what your taling about, school, then ya memorizing, but if your talking about a face, or one you loved, something more personal, then it would be forgetting.

Answer 27

Both are sides of the coin of the memory.

Answer 28

To forget.  There are so many useless things rattling around in my head that I remember that I don't even care about anymore.  Facts that I learned in school; from elementary through university.  I know the colors of the rainbow in order, I know the first man to land on the moon, I know all the words to more pop songs and commercial jingles than I even care to think about.  Who needs to know all that?

But I just can't forget so many of the stupid things that I've done and the bad mistakes that I've made.  There are hurtful things I've said to my mother and hateful remarks I've made to my father as a teenager that I'd give anything to forget.  I've wished many, many times that there was a way to just selectively erase parts of my brain.