What is more important, making sure you bills are paid or helping to take car of your child?

Question

my son's dad says that he can't help me take care of our son b/c if he does he will not have enough to pay all of his bills. so i have to pay all of my bills and take care of our son alone. i can't see how he feels that his bills are more important than his child!!!

Answer 1

Well if you think about it paying the bills is taking care of your children and giving them light and cool/hot air. Giving them water and food!

PAY bills!

Answer 2

I totally agree, my ex did the same, never paid a penny maintenance.  I cannot work out the mentality of these type of men.  I find it an embarrassment to mankind that there are men out there that find it quite acceptable to father children and when things go wrong they drop their responsibility for the welfare of not only the children but also the mother - the person who is taking on the role of providing for their children.  Where do they get of rationalising that if they can not afford both bills and a bit of help with child maintenance,  the woman left with the children can afford not only clothes, holidays, treats, bills and childcare because of course she would be working to pay for all this and more!  Men that do this lower you head in shame, you are a disgrace to the human race.  Good luck I know its hard.

Answer 3

Time for him to get a second job then! Straight up! If you can't afford your bills: increase your income, or decrease your bills....it's quite simple. Time to drag his worthless butt to court!

Answer 4

The needed necessities are just as important as taking care of that child...i mean you have to have a place to stay. But, everything else is a luxury and the child should come before those other non essential extras.

That's exactly how the court will view it too...so, if you need the courts to intervene by all means take that route...that's what we pay them for.

Answer 5

Sue him for child support. They'll take it right from his paycheque and give it right to you. Children ALWAYS come first.

Answer 6

Well, if the bills aren't paid how can you take care of a child? You'd eventually get evicted, lights turned off, etc. I am not sticking up for him, though. If her were my son's dad I would take his sorry butt to court.

Answer 7

Children are more important, yes.

If he just has utility bills to pay for, then he needs to pay those, but if he's talking about a credit card bills that he uses daily, then he needs to change.

If he's not making enough money, he either should get a higher paying job or work two jobs, or move into a cheaper home and cut back on unimportant stuff that he may purchase for himself.

I would bring him to court, honestly, why should you have to only pay when he is the parent too. Take him to court, they will make him pay or garnish his wages.