What is my moms problem with me?

Question

Here is the deal. ANYTIME I go make plans with someone which is not too often my mom at first acts cool and fine with it-- then when it comes down to the day of me actually going to do this she gets crazy by nitpicking about everything like she will say the house is dirty or I need to vacum or mop the floor. Its ALWAYS something!! She yells and acts like she is all pissed off but yet she didnt act like that when I had made the plans before its always the day of that she acts crazy. she will tell me I need to clean up or do something or she gets into her control issues and says I cant use the car. I admit I am an adult living with my parents but I do clean. I do what they ask me to. I pay rent. I pay child care to my mom. I maintain the car that I drive. But my mom acts jealous of me for some reason. like for instance this past week my dad and I had planned a camping trip to take my kid camping. Its something we do every summer. my mom doesnt like camping so she never wants to go. she was perfectly FINE up until the day we were suppose to leave. Then she literally went into one of her tyraids and started screaming and yelling literally telling ME that its MY fault that things dont get done and my dad had asked her what she meant because the house was clean but she managed to nit pick about c**p that she shouldnt had.The mop wasnt where she put it(when she was the one that moved it and my dad told her that) then it was that the trash wasnt taken out(there wasnt much trash to take out its just her way of getting someone else to take it out because she doesnt want to do it)then it was that my kid had like 4 toys out(which I put away)then it was the kitchen floor wasnt swept(My dad told her she was being ridiculous and that she can sweep it but she had a massive fit about it)then it was that the dog didnt have clean water. I swear its like she purposly LOOKS for things. My dad finally got mad and told her that she was acting crazy over things that she shouldnt and that he said she was perfectly fine until we were getting ready to leave and how she is holding us up on purpose and he said that he would cancel the trip and I said NO because I had taken time off work to go camping and how my kid had been looking forward to it. My mom finally stopped and apoligized. Then I constantly hear her bad mouthing me to her friends basically telling them everything I do wrong and how my brother is the golden child-- I called her out once in front of her friend and my mom got pissed.What the h**l is my moms problem? Why does she hate me so much? She said she doesnt but I asked her why is she always putting me down to her friends when I bend over backwards and do what she wants- I cook. I help clean. I drive her lazy *** around town because she doesnt want to drive(I finally told her I wasnt going to drive her anymore)

Answer 1

I don't know why she is the way she is, but to rid yourself of the problem of her controlling your life, get your  own house.  

Answer 2

Well , this sounds just like my Mother when I was growing up..We now know she was severely depressed she was Obsessive Compulsive..She needs to see a Doctor as soon as possible or it will just get worse..Talk to your dad and maybe one or both of you can consult a Physician first to be sure she needs to be seen.Then your Father should be the one who talks to her, Not you.hope she gets the help she needs..been there and done that..Was a life I wouldn't wish on anyone.

Answer 3

i dont know what to say. You need to talk it over with her.  

Answer 4

pms lol

Answer 5

i am sorry about your problem but no one else has answered this because they dont want to read this long peice of c**p.

Answer 6

she still wants you to stay her baby and she doesnt want to let go

Answer 7

You never said how old you were or your mom, but adult children need there own space. You are not doing things to your mothers satisfaction so strive to get out of her space and get your own. She may not hate you or is holding anything against you, but two cooks in the kitchen spoil the soup. If she's a nick picky, bossy, controlling overbearing,emotional bully, YOU ARE STILL IN HER SPACE!!!!!!! Think about getting YOUR OWN more than worrying about how to be as comfortable as you can be in HER SPACE.

Perhaps, your mother is issuing orders prior to your gallivanting, as last ditch efforts to enforce discipline and responsibility on you that she feels has been lacking in other or similar areas. Life as you know is more than concentration on just 'fun plans." You don't get something for nothing in the real world maybe, she's trying to expose you to this reality.  

Answer 8

PMS?

Or she might just be a total control freak - some mums are.

But if you don't like it why don't you leave?