What is my stepmoms problem? long question?

Question

i recently broke my arm and am staying at my dads house for recovery. (im 24. it was a really bad break) my parents split when i was 2, didnt really see my dad until i was 6, went to live with him and his new wife at 8. she was always a bi t ch. she would yell at me for stupid stuff. i think she has anger and resentment issues. when she had kids she seemed to mellow a bit but is now secret bi t ch. acts nice but makes snide little judgemental remarks and acts like she was joking if you call her on it. says my dad has drinking problem like drinking all alcohol available in house(he does) but she does the same thing, just hides it. she had breast cancer a few years back and is now on disability. her and my dad were broken up at that point, and he had a girlfriend(still has same one) he invited her into his home to help her and the kids. he wanted to divorce her to marry girlfriend, but she is on his insurance and will have sucky state insurance if they divorce, so he didnt. she is always critising him, his girlfriend, me, (everyone but her kids. they are ok, but not perfect) especially behind the back but is nice to face except aforementioned snideness. very hipocritical, judgemental, sneaky, just super-secret bi t ch. i was prescribed norco and morphine for pain. either she, my brother or my dad or his girlfriend stole 2 pills from bottle of morphine. i dont think my dad or brother would, but they had opportunity. she tries to blame my brother right off(he's 14 and has stolen from her purse and lied before) but i dont think it was him. she never told me that he came clean about previous thefts and lies. this is mostly background so you know about her. since ive been here, most nights she complains about being so tired, saying things like im too tired to even read, etc. i dont sleep very much, especially at night. it seems like every night she comes out to the living room(i have to sleep in recliner because of arm) about once an hour for no fncking reason. i know shes not worried about me. she pretends she needed a blanket she left when she has plenty in her room, or she needs a book i know she isnt going to read, or some other lame a$$ S**t. im not saying shes all bad, just mostly, almost all bad. and i have my problems too. but what the fnck is her problem? why cant she leave me the fnck alone and give me some fncking privacy?

Answer 1

well you need to move out quick so you can have your privacy this is their home together your a grown woman and did you ever think she might be the way she is because of your dads drinking and cheating on her and she can tell you dont like her that puts people on the offensive to protect herself maybe she feels like she doesnt belong in the family

Answer 2

Because she is a step mom!  I was lucky and never had one.  My parents are still together.  But my kids have a step mom and I am a step mom.  It is really hard to step in and be a part of a child's life that another woman has raised.  But with that being said, it is not ok to make that child/adult feel uncomfortable in their fathers home.  I can't say that I feel the same about my stepsons because I am going to be honest.  I don't.  But I would like to think that they do not know this.  Part of being an adult, parent, step parent is being mature and empathetic.  Your step mother does not seem to be either.  She seems immature, selfish and narcissistic.  I am sorry for you  and hopefully your arm will heal soon.  Try to be the bigger person (you shouldn't have to be but unfortunately it sounds like you need to keep being the adult here) and when you do get better and are able to live on your own you need to write her a letter and thank her for her hospitality and write that you hope you were no problem.  If she has one ounce of conscience she will feel bad knowing that you are being very gratious with your thank you letter and hopefully she will feel bad.  She is waiting for you to blow up so she can turn it around and YOU are the bad guy.  Please do not give her this satisfaction.  Good luck!

Answer 3

Why don't you just go live with your real mum or with your dad and his new girlfriend your stepmum will always pick her own kids over you its human nature

Answer 4

O.k, it can be, she is checking up on you because she cares and doesnt know how to talk to you, or she is waiting for you to fall asleep so she can take you pills, or making sure you arnt stealing or doing drugs, I don't know, have you tried asking her.