What is real and not in our head?

Question

If you think of it, most things are in your head. I'm not talking about the store down the street or your car. I am talking about what we perceive as reality. If you get embarrassed and turn red, that is all in your head, you are the only one that can cause embarrassment, it is social conditioning. What defines you being happy, sad, depressed, excited? It all in your head if you are any of those emotions. And now to the big one, love. Think of it, you feel an intense attraction to someone and may even want to marry them. It has been shown that this is just chemicals being released into your brain. A sort of drug. This explains why people in long term relationships and marriages get bored with it. The "drugs" wear off and there is no more excitement. So, we want to go to another person and experience it all over again. Also social programming is all in our head. Saying we should wear this and not something is because it looks dorky or whatever. Most of our reality and what we perceive as real is really just in our head.

Answer 1

i think everyone has a different perception of reality and so everything is in our head except idea of something "real"

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Answer 2

You are in great danger, my friend!

You have become aware of the Matrix.

Seek Trinity, she will lead you to Morpheus, on the path to enlightenment.

Answer 3

i believe that some things u can control cause they r just in ur head but mot everything , like 4 instance they say morning sickness is all in the head but that was how i found out i was pregnant , also i suffered depression and ur right it is about control . but as 4 the relationship side of things i have been with my husband for 14 years and i am as happy now as i was then cause u have 2 both work at it like u do in a new relationship if u r the sort of person who lets it fizz away then this will happen 2 who ever u meet once the excitement wears off

Answer 4

looks like you answered your own question...

I can understand what your driving at though.

Answer 5

You are in good company with this idea of yours!

Your question was answered many centuries ago by Greek philosopher: "A thing either is what it appears to be; or it is not, but yet appears to be; or it is, but does not appear to be; or it is not, and does not appear to be."

Soren Kierkegaard, Danish philosopher/theologian of the early 1800s, founded modern existentialism with his statement "Subjectivity is truth." By this is meant that what one BELIEVES to be true is the truth one lives by.

And then a century ago, Dr. Alfred Adler brought the concept into psychology (yes, not Freud, not Jung, but Adler), speaking of subjectivism and the "apperceptive schema" or the personal framework by which one perceives the world. By it, one sees what one wants to see, and does not see what he does not want to see!

To that time (1907) psychology took the view that one's personality was shaped primarily by two factors: heredity/genetics, and environment/life setting. The individual person had no control over either one.

Then Adler said there is a third influence. (No, not s*x...that was Freud who, in 1910, insisted that all the members of his psycho-analytic society agree that s*x was the only influence on personality!) No, Adler said a third determinant of personality is personal creativity and choice. He spoke of "soft determinism."

So when you say that "Most of our reality and what we perceive as real is really just in our head" you are mostly right...except for the "just" (as in "only" or "merely." Think instead of FULLY or COMPLETELY and you'll begin to see the importance of the concept you have arrived at.

You are in good company with this discovery!

-- Dr. Bob, Adlerian Psychologist

PS --  Sorry about the spelling...Yahoo's checker isn't working.

Answer 6

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