What is she trying to tell me?

Question

I'm about to walk away from someone I really love because she won't tell me what she wants. Whenever I ask it's either "I dunno", "maybe" or sometimes nothing at all but then she can tell me without a doubt that she loves me and misses me. She's even agreed to have dinner with me since our 2 1/2 month split. Maybe I'm just too simplistic...either you want it to work or you don't. What is so complicated about this? I love her but I'm at wits end. I don't know whether to hang on (not knowing what her truest intentions are) or just walk away because I can't make any sense of this.

Answer 1

Walk away until she can come to you and tell you what it is she wants. It is not fair for her to leave you with feelings of uncertainty. Tell her you love her enough to give her the time and space to figure out what it is she wants. After doing this, do not ever take an "I don't know" answer and instead let her be until she is more clear and definte with what she wants. Otherwise, you will be allowing her to play head games with you and to string you along. Good luck to you!

Answer 2

She cares about you but doesn't see a future with you.

Answer 3

She's too chicken sh** to tell you she doesn't love you.

Answer 4

I think you are taking this relationship too seriously.  I think you should back off and date casually.  See each other when you feel like it, and give each other permission to see other people too.  Give yourselves room to figure out whether or not you belong together.  

PS - This belongs in Singles & Dating, not Marriage & Divorce.

Answer 5

Sounds like she is confused. But at the same time there is something about you that she finds needing. If she is unsure of what she wants by not being able to talk to you of her desires and wants with this relationship. Time apart might be best. You know that saying 'One doesn't know what they have until it's gone".

Does she have emotional issues that might cause her to be stumped for words? You know her better than we do, I think you might already know what you need to do just need that push to doing it. Love is strong but works from the heart only, it's our brain that reasons for a reason..

Best of luck!!

Answer 6

Ask yourself if you really love her. It sounds like you doubt yourself too. She already told you that she loves you and misses you!!! Nothing else should matter more.

You should give her more times. Try asking the right questions, and at the right time-when she is ready.

Good Luck!

Answer 7

What kind of answer are you seeking?? If you were asking her what she wanted for dinner and she said "I dunno" would you get as upset? Maybe she is too young to know what she wants and it's possible she really doesn't know. If you are looking for validation then you need to work on your self esteem. If you are always questioning her motives, then maybe it wasn't the best relationship to be in. You split up, there was a reason, don't return to something you know wasn't working.

           You should have just gone on with your life and try to find someone else. I don't understand for the life of me why people break up and try to get back together again and the same problems are there still. Let dead dogs lie and find someone better that can give you what you are seeking.

Answer 8

hey, wat i know is that she dearly loves you and to a certain point she can't be sure about where you stand whether you truly love her or you don't anymore. 99.5 and 1/2 of the time is that she is playing hard to get and she probably wants you to beg her into things or if you wanna buy her something trust your instincts and surprise her that's all she needs and she will give in. how do i know all this?i am a girl.

Answer 9

it sounds like she has someone else in mind, but she hasnt made a move, and in the meantime, really enjoys the attention you give her. I dont doubt she enjoys having you fawn all over her, it reminds her she is pretty/smart/whatever, and then she uses that positive energy, and pushes it on the person she wants...its a vicious cycle!...

or..im full of c**p, and she is going through some kind of emotional growth, and needs to be able to be alone while she finds herself, either way....ITS ALMOST FOOTBALL SEASON!! THATS WAY BETTER THEN GIRLS!!...

dont sweat it dude, lay off on the showing effection part of your friendship with her, treat her like her name is larry, and see how she acts,