What is something I can do with my 7 month old son that no one else can?

Question

Everytime I find some silly noise or word or face my son loves the grandparents or someone else comes in and starts doing it too and it isn't a special thing between just us anymore. Aside from the few times he has stayed the night away at the grandparents I am always the one to lay him down and am always the one he wakes to I just don't know somethings I can do to seperate myself. Everytime I'm around them they want to feed him or bath him..... everything.

Answer 1

i liked taking a shower with my babies... No one else can do that... I am assuming you are not nursing.  And you know you can akways tell them if it is something that you want to be special that it is your thing.  i am sure they just think they are helping.  By the time you have more kids you will welcome the break.  Dont't forget you have 18+ years with your baby they may not.  you want your child to have good memories of there extended family.  And they don't get to be with him like you do.  they have to express all that love in a shorter period of time.

Answer 2

I would be grateful that they are so interested and loving and involved in my child's life.  Unfortunately my sons grandparents aren't so great.  You should be happy that your son has loving grandparents..... and you have someone to help you out with things.  

Seriously...... babies aren't just possessions...... they are human beings that deserve all the love they can get.   I am sorry..... but you sound like you are being very immature and selfish in this manner.  

If you really need something between you and your son..... how about breastfeeding!

Answer 3

I know!

Breastfeed!

Answer 4

They are doing what grandparents do! they love your son...they want to make him happy so they do what they know he likes...what mommy/daddy does. why is that so horrible?

you have YEARS of special moments to share w/your child. Let the grandparents be there for as long as they can...it's not hurting your child. you sound a bit jealous, and a bit selfish about it. i know it's hard sometimes..you get very attached to your babies, but they do need a variety of love, and people to be happy.

you will always be #1 w/your baby...but it's not a bad thing for him to enjoy his grandparents.

Answer 5

It's common for parents to feel jealous of their child's relationship with others but you have to work through that so he will be well adjusted and not feel your animosity toward others and become confused about it.

He's learning to be social, and it would be unhealthy and unnatural for him to just socialize with you, so he tries out what you do on others.

The people around you naturally do with your son what you do with him because they trust that what you do with him is right and makes him happy, and they want to do right by him and make him happy.

Answer 6

You are just going to have to take pride that you are SO involved with your son that you are the first to find his likes and dislikes! When they make him laugh by using one of your things take pride that they got it from you! Your son will always love and be bonded to his mommy! Just remember every boy thinks their mommy hung the moon!  

Answer 7

are you breastfeeding? that is the ONE thing they can't do!!!

Answer 8

Your way of doing things is special b/c it's you doing it.  That is what makes you special.  He will almost always prefer your way b/c you are his mother.  I have things that I do when it's just me and my baby and no one else.  We sing silly little songs.  I don't do this while other people are around b/c I can't sing worth a c**p.  It's something we do together that no one else even knows that we do.  Try something like that and don't let anyone else take anything away from you and your special relationship with your little guy.

Answer 9

What is something you can do with your 7 month old son that no one else can?  

Bond in a motherly way. Only you can do that.

Answer 10

Babies can sense who their momma is, you and only you can have that. Be happy your baby likes being around other people and doesn't constantly have the clingynes to you.

It's great that your parents want to be so involved with your baby.  

Answer 11

...nurse?

OTOH, if this has been posted by _Daddy_, you could consider learning to carry him in a sling or other soft carrier; it can be a bit of a fiddle to use a sling properly, but it's worth learning, and nobody else is likely to come along and do it while you're doing it.

Answer 12

I was in the same boat when I had my son.  I had a special nickname that I called him and it didn't take long for everyone else to pick up on it and start using it.  I was quite annoyed too, the little "secret" things you can share with your child do make a difference when they get older, it does sooth and comfort them.  I would talk to your family and tell them how you feel and explain that they will all have their own special things between them and the baby, but this is your thing.   They should respect your space and relationship with your son.  To everyone that is commenting to breastfeed, that is a great way to bond, but unfortunatley it does not last forever; it's not really something your child will remember and he probably won't want to talk about when he is 9 or 13 or 18.

Answer 13

Teach him to give you kisses. Your son will soon be calling you Dada  (or Mama? not sure your gender) and that will be special enough. Plus, you child knows his parents. My son just turned 8 months and calls me mama, gives me kisses and does what we call "scary face", he opens his mouth wide and tight and holds his fists in the air. Work with your son when you two are alone and even if someone trys to do it with him too, you'll know that you taught him that and its special between you two.

And politely tell your parents or in-laws, that you will bathe your son. If they say, "okay, I'm going to give him a bath" you politely tell them, "Actually I was going to do it so we can have mommy/daddy and baby time." Use the same for feeding time too. You can let them bathe him once in a while, but you make sure they know to ask you and that you are the prime person responsible for this task.

Good luck!