What is something that through you off guard after having your baby that you didnt expect?

Question

My husband and i are trying to have a baby and i want to know what is something that was a complete surprise to you once you had a baby. What are some things i should expect during the pregnancy and after our little one is born.? Anything would be great thank you

Answer 1

I didn't expect:

it to be so hard to leave my baby, like with a sitter

to not touch him constantly, to see if he is breathing,

to have to watch him when hes sleeping for hours

to run to him when he makes a noise

to want to buy everything in sight for him, everything, i mean everything

it to be so easy to wake up when he gets up, its like my body is OK with it

to put him first

to thank God for letting me have him

to plan ahead, like for school and sports, I'm thinking about 5yrs ahead

to let my life go, i mean my past is really my past and i really don't want it back, i am thinking about a whole new future that i never planed for in the past

oh yeah, and the blow-out diapers, up his back and all over the place

the peeing when ur changing him, and he pees on u

the sore tummy's, where he pukes and cries for what seems like hours

his gas

his temper

his growling at family when they cary him

but all that give me more time to spend with him and to love him.

Answer 2

The thing that totally threw me, is that my son sometimes cry for no reason. I always thought there's a reason why babies cry, but sometimes they just cry... they may have had a long day and have trouble unwinding, or they may just need to get rid of some frustration through crying. It can be very hard, because you want to help your baby, but you have no idea how.

No one can really say what you can expect when you're pregnant. Every woman's pregnancy is different and no two pregnancies (yours) will be the same. Some women breeze through their pregnancies, while the rest could have the worst 9 months of their lives.

Expect a lot of urination though, in the beginning and the end, and fatigue in the first and last trimesters. And expect to fall in love with your baby when you feel their first little kick.

Expect sleepless nights after your little one is born. You may have a great sleeper, but you may not find it so easy to sleep right after their birth. Fear plays a big part in this (What if I don't hear my baby? What if he stops breathing while I sleep? etc). More than likely you'll be very emotional in the first weeks after your baby's birth, this will be difficult for you to handle, because you are happy but sad at the same time. A good support system is very important.

Most of all, expect to love like you've never loved before.

Answer 3

I thought I was going to have all this free time after the baby was born because I was quitting work.  I had all these plans of books to read, projects to start.  It didn't take long once we got home with the baby to realize how ridiculous that idea had been!  Bless my friends for not telling me before the baby was born how totally deluded I was. :)

  

Answer 4

i never realized how much patience i really had until i was up every 2-3 hours with a screaming baby--changing diapers, nursing, or just comforting my angel.

Answer 5

well..good luck on you efforts, i have  a 7 month old and the most surprising thing is how fast he is growing and how quick he learns, but i guess u want to know little tips ...i would say my biggest surpise was that he slept very well because we kept him on a schedule..he ate every 3 hours and even if he was sleeping we woke him up so he would not  get gas, and with that he was just a happy and quiet baby....so establish and maintain a routine!.....good Luck!

Answer 6

Your life changes in so many ways after having a baby. When we had our first baby girl we didn't expect her not to sleep. She was a hard one to get to sleep but when we had our second baby from day one she has slept through the night! When your pg you might get sick alot or you might skip the whole sickness thing. I was sick with my first two and never got sick with baby number three. Just make sure you get plenty of rest during pg most of all the last few months and make sure you have everything you need to bring the baby home like clothes, bed, diapers, wipes, and formula nothing worse then haven to go to the store for stuff at the last min. Good Luck! Having a baby is the best thing that happen to us!

Answer 7

During pregnancy: in the last trimester, I was in pain all of the time from nerves being pinched, I didn't know about this!

After he was born: He's only 2 months now, but so far I was surprised by how fast he grew! He's 6 pounds heavier in just two months. I can't even put him in any of the cute newborn sized clothes I got at my shower. I had to go buy more clothes and diapers to fit him and all the free stuff is in storage. Ask for  size 0-3 months instead of newborn.

Oh, and I was surprised by the fact that it is so hard to go anywhere with him now, the store seems like such a challenge, packing up and shipping off. You'll find yourself convincing yourself that you don't really need to go or can't because it seems too much when you are by yourself.

Answer 8

My husband and I got pregnant unexpectantly in 04. I got to 20 weeks.. After 6 hours of unsuccesfuly halting labor I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. We buried her in October of O4. I went on to become a. NICU nurse.

After 6 rounds of unsuccesful clomid. P17 shots and the presurgical ovulation pills of IVF I got pregnant. At 8 weeks i was put on bedrest and at 20 weeks I had a cervical cerclage placed. Then I was put on hospital bedrest, had an adominal cerclage placed bc preterm labor loomed. Was life flighted to an inner city hospital bc it had a level 4 NICU.

My son was born at 34 w 3 d.

I never thought I would strive so much for somthing. My son is a true blessing to my entire family.

No one tells you what to expect, always expect the unexpected.

Answer 9

child proofing your house..I stretched when I was pregnant & didn't know I needed to be careful of that & of picking up heavy things...I also took a plane trip & after I made the plans to go I read something about you have to be careful of something & worried myself so bad about that but I don't know what it was about so check into that if there is any possibility you would have to fly...my son is 30 so I had no way to find out details cause there was no internet then...mostly find out what things to look for, for safety maybe if you don't find out hear get a book about safely tips cause so many things can happen that you just don't think of.

Answer 10

Lots of things BUT the #1 thing is right after birth your tummy feels like a sponge Its wweird LOL it takes a week or so to really start feeling like a belly. Now its been 5 weeks and I have lost about 30lbs of the 50 that I gained and would be able to fit in 2 sizes smaller if my belly would go down. Oh and right after birth they gave me these pads that you would squeeze and they were ice packs. They felt so good on the swelling. I just thought that was odd to have a pad be ice.

Answer 11

The way everyone made it sound, I thought I was going to be only getting an hour of sleep aday and be feeding and holding my newborn constantly.  I thought it was going to be so stressful and tiring.  Well after my son was born, I found that they sleep about 20 hours a day for the first two months.  You dont start getting exhausted until four months when baby starts waking up bright and early at 7 am and staying up all day.  So the first months are not as hard as people make it sound.

Also everyone told me I'd be going through a pack of diapers every few days.  Wrong.  People must go on a changing frenzy and change the baby every time he/she cries even if they aren't wet.   It really isn't as hard as people will tell you it is.  

And you will feel contractions every so often for a few days even a week or so after the baby is born (especially if you breastfeed).  It's your uterus going back down.

Answer 12

the pain when i had 2 go pee for 2 weeks after & i was so scared 2 p**p for 2 weeks after too, i thought i was gonna pop a stitch.

Answer 13

I got to tell you my pregnancy was the most awesome experience in my life, loved being pregnant!!! The feeling of them kick is just indescribable.

It's funny (this will sound gross...and sad) how cool it is to see your child's p**p color change :D