What is the Maid of Honor Suppose to Do? HELP!!

Question

I Was asked to be the Maid of Honor in my Friends wedding,the problem is I don't know what the "Maid of Honor" is suppose to do!! Help!

Answer 1

Congrats!

Her'es some sites for you:

http://www.bridesmaid101.com/maid_of_hon...

http://www.maidofhonoradvice.com/

http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-plann...

http://ourmarriage.com/html/responsibili...

You can find lot more resources if you just google too.

Also def. have COMMUNICATION with bride and bridesmaid so you know what they expect from you, and what you should do etc.

Good luck!

Answer 2

All your really REQUIRED to do is buy a dress and show up next to the bride on the day of the wedding. Tradition dictates that you'll also plan the bachelorette party and possibly help with the bridal shower.  You're also the one who's suppose to keep her grounded the day of the event. The rest depends on the bride, some brides have their MOHs do next to nothing as far as pre-wedding prep work and others turn their MOHs into indentured servants.  

Answer 3

Read this:

http://www.bridesmaid101.com/maid_of_hon...

Have fun :)

Answer 4

The maid of honor is suppose to do pretty much everything. Throw (and pay for) the bridal shower, bachalorette, jack&jill.  You can ask the bridesmaids to help plan & pay for it. They shouldn't mind.  Also the mother of the bride & groom would probably want to be included.  Aslo be there in some of the planning of the wedding, give the bride the helping hand she may need with picking stuff up and picking stuff out like dresses, flowers, decorations, places! I was a bridesmaid, it was a lot of money- but she loved everything. Goodluck & have fun with it.

Answer 5

Congrats - being asked to be the Maid of honor is very special! Your friend must think very highly of you.

Here are a few of the duties that the maid of honor usually takes on. But every bride is different - some are more reliant, while others are self-sufficient:

It's the maid/matron of honor's (MOH) job to direct the other maids through their duties. Make sure all bridesmaids get their dresses, go to dress fittings, and find the right jewelry. Also provide them with the 411 on all prewedding parties.

Help shop for dresses (the bride's and the bridesmaids'). And the MOH pays for her own entire wedding outfit (including shoes).

Offer to help the bride with prewedding tasks, from addressing invites to choosing the wedding colors and nodding enthusiastically when she waxes poetic about wedding cake.

Spread the news about where the bride and groom are registered.

Help the bride change for her honeymoon and take charge of her gown after the ceremony. Arrange for storage in a safe place until she returns.

Lend an ear. Whether it's about the planning, the marriage, or the registry china patterns, the MOH should assure the bride that she has someone with whom she can share her thoughts. Even if she seems to dwell on the same subjects repeatedly, the MOH keeps listening.

Host or cohost a shower for the bride.

Attend all prewedding parties.

Keep a record of all the gifts received at various parties and showers (or delegate a bridesmaid to handle this).

Plan the bachelorette party with the bridesmaids.

See to it that all bridesmaids get to the rehearsal; coordinate transportation and lodging, if necessary.

Make sure that all bridesmaids get their hair and makeup done, get to the ceremony on time, and have the correct bouquets.

Hold the groom's ring during the ceremony. Safest place to put it? On your thumb.

Arrange the bride's train and veil before the ceremony begins and just after she arrives at the altar. The MOH might also need to help her bustle the train for easy dancing at the reception.

Hold the bride's bouquet while the couple exchanges vows.

Sign the marriage license as a witness, along with the best man.

Stand next to the groom in the receiving line (this is optional; the bride may decide to have attendants circulate among the guests instead).

Play hostess along with the other bridesmaids at frequent points during the reception: show guests where to sit, direct them to restrooms, tell them to where to put presents, invite them to sign the guest book, etc.

Collect any gift envelopes brought to the reception and keep them in a safe place.

Make sure the bride takes a moment to eat something -- refresh her drink, get her a plate of food from the buffet table, or instruct the wait staff to keep her entree warm.

Dance with the best man during the formal first-dance sequence and possibly be announced with him at the beginning of the party. Also dance with other groomsmen, the groom, and others.

Toast the couple after the best man. (This is optional, but it is a nice touch.)

Troubleshoot emotional crises. In most cases, this will require lots of tissues, hugging, and hair-smoothing. The MOH continues to be a trusted friend, a good listener, and a smart advisor.

Keep the bride laughing. For the stressed-out bride, laughter can be as effective as venting.

Here are a few websites that might be able to give you some more detail as to what your duties are:

http://www.bridesmaid101.com/maid_of_hon...

Answer 6

help plan the wedding

run errands with her when you can

help looks for dresses

shopping

plan shower and batchelorette

assistant on wedding day

toast at reception

Answer 7

The maid of honor usually hosts the bridal shower and bachelorette party.

It is also nice for the maid of honor to help with invitations, decorations, the dresses and basically help the bride out with planning everything.  

Answer 8

Everything.  Think of yourself as a mini wedding planner.

Traditionally, you take care of the bridal shower and bachelorette party.  You also go with the bride to help her pick out a dress, put favors together, and any other thing she may need done for the wedding.

And you are the one that listens.  A lot of times brides just want to complain and need someone to listen without judging or telling them to relax.  That's where you go in.

Answer 9

here is a long list of your duties. you basically have to be by the bride's side at all times:

http://www.bridesmaid101.com/maid_of_hon...

here's a whole bunch more:

http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=lis...

Answer 10

I suggest that you ask your Bride for an inclusive and highly detailed list of everything she expects you to do or buy. Ditto for her family, the groom and his family, and anyone else who may be have expectation that go along with accepting this honor. By "highly detailed" I mean that "1.Buy dress & shoes 2.Give shower" doesn't cut it. You need something more like

1. Buy dress, shoes, & misc with total to be less than $500

2. Give shower for 60 guests with seated luncheon at Swampy Acres Country Club providing $300 worth of door prizes.

You see where the devil may be in the details?

Read the Y!A Weddings archives for hundreds of stories of unhappy MOHs who say the bride expects way too much and unhappy brides who say the MOH isn't doing enough. Get the details straight before you agree to anything and it could save your friendship. (It will also give you "ammunition" when someone demands that you foot the bill for something. If you have a list and the something isn't on that list then you can rightfully refuse to even consider taking on yet more.)

Whether you accept the MOH position or not, be kind and patient with your friend during this time. Especially be a good listener as she tells you more about her plans than any sane human being wants to hear. If you can, be a peacemaker when there are problems between the various people planning the event. Good luck!