What is the Status of parents in Islam?

Question

Do we have to obey them always?

Answer 1

Yes, we HAVE TO obey them everytime and however they are, even if they are not following Islam!

Never say Ufff to your mother!(might have heard that Hadeeth)

I am going to post a question see that!

Answer 2

Yes you have to obey your parents always, not treating them right and not obeying them is the 2nd biggest sin in Islam whether it is a Hindu parent or a Christian parent..

Answer 3

Ok let me give you some verses and hadith:

In this directly after worshiping God ,God tells us to show kindness to the parents:

002.083 وَإِذْ أَخَذْنَا مِيثَاقَ بَنِي إِسْرَائِيلَ لا تَعْبُدُونَ إِلا اللَّهَ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا وَذِي الْقُرْبَى وَالْيَتَامَى وَالْمَسَاكِينِ وَقُولُوا لِلنَّاسِ حُسْنًا وَأَقِيمُوا الصَّلاةَ وَآتُوا الزَّكَاةَ ثُمَّ تَوَلَّيْتُمْ إِلا قَلِيلا مِنْكُمْ وَأَنْتُمْ مُعْرِضُونَ

002.083 And remember We took a covenant from the Children of Israel (to this effect): Worship none but Allah; treat with kindness your parents and kindred, and orphans and those in need; speak fair to the people; be steadfast in prayer; and practise regular charity. Then did ye turn back, except a few among you, and ye backslide (even now).

Al-Qur'an, 002.083 (Al-Baqara [The Cow])

Look at this hadith:

Narrated 'Abdullah: I asked the Prophet "Which deed is the dearest to Allah?" He replied, "To offer the prayers at their early stated fixed times." I asked, "What is the next (in goodness)?" He replied, "To be good and dutiful to your parents" I again asked, "What is the next (in goodness)?" He replied, 'To participate in Jihad (religious fighting) in Allah's cause." 'Abdullah added, "I asked only that much and if I had asked more, the Prophet would have told me more."  (Book #10, Hadith #505)

Narrated Anas: The Prophet was asked about the great sins He said, "They are:-- (1 ) To join others in worship with Allah, (2) To be undutiful to one's parents. (3) To kill a person (which Allah has forbidden to kill) (i.e. to commit the crime of murdering). (4) And to give a false witness."  (Book #48, Hadith #821)

Look taking care of parents is Jihad:

Narrated 'Abdullah bin 'Amr: A man came to the Prophet asking his permission to take part in Jihad. The Prophet asked him, "Are your parents alive?" He replied in the affirmative. The Prophet said to him, "Then exert yourself in their service."  (Book #52, Hadith #248)

About showing annoyed by parents :

046.017 وَالَّذِي قَالَ لِوَالِدَيْهِ أُفٍّ لَكُمَا أَتَعِدَانِنِي أَنْ أُخْرَجَ وَقَدْ خَلَتِ الْقُرُونُ مِنْ قَبْلِي وَهُمَا يَسْتَغِيثَانِ اللَّهَ وَيْلَكَ آمِنْ إِنَّ وَعْدَ اللَّهِ حَقٌّ فَيَقُولُ مَا هَذَا إِلا أَسَاطِيرُ الأوَّلِينَ

046.017 But (there is one) who says to his parents, "Fie on you! Do ye hold out the promise to me that I shall be raised up, even though generations have passed before me (without rising again)?" And they two seek Allah's aid, (and rebuke the son): "Woe to thee! Have faith! for the promise of Allah is true." But he says, "This is nothing but tales of the ancients!"

Al-Qur'an, 046.017 (Al-Ahqaf [The Wind-curved Sandhills, The Dunes])

Please show thanks to your parents after God

031.014 وَوَصَّيْنَا الإنْسَانَ بِوَالِدَيْهِ حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُ وَهْنًا عَلَى وَهْنٍ وَفِصَالُهُ فِي عَامَيْنِ أَنِ اشْكُرْ لِي وَلِوَالِدَيْكَ إِلَيَّ الْمَصِيرُ

031.014 And We have enjoined on man (to be good) to his parents: in travail upon travail did his mother bear him, and in years twain was his weaning: (hear the command), "Show gratitude to Me and to thy parents: to Me is (thy final) Goal.

Al-Qur'an, 031.014 (Luqman [Luqman])

Answer 4

RAsulah salaho alaihe wa aleh: God's pleasure is in parents's pleasure.

Answer 5

As Muslims we are instructed by Allah swt to maintain good behaviour towards our parents throughout their lives.

"And your Sustainer has decreed that you will serve none but Him,and that you be good (Ihsan) towards parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them (even) ’fie' nor rebuke them but address them with terms of honor." (17:23)

"And out of kindness lower to them the wing of humility and say: ’O My Sustainer, Bestow on them your mercy even as they cherished me in childhood." (17:24)

Some of the traditions of Prophet Muhammad ( SAW ) and of the learned members of his family, about our responsibilities toward our parents are quoted here:

"Paradise lies under the feet of the mother.

When not to OBEY parents

We are required to always maintain good behaviour towards our parents even if they are non-Muslims, however we are told not to obey in certain situations:

"And We have enjoined on Man concerning his parents: In travail upon travail did his mother bear him and his weaning is in two-years: Show gratitude to Me and to your parents: To Me is your goal." (31:14)

"But if they strive with you to associate with Me that which you have no knowledge, then obey them not; Yet bear them company in this life in a recognized manner. And follow the way of those who turn to Me. In the end the return of you all is to Me, and I will tell you the truth of all you did." (31:15)

We are not to obey our parents if they suggest ’Shirk' i.e. association with Allah, yet bear them company in a just manner.

Answer 6

i think ur askin dis question cuz u dnt alwayz obey or do what they say. same here.  

Answer 7

Narrated by Abu Bakr (ra) Allah's messenger (saw) said:

"Shall I inform you of the greatest sins and in another variation he repeated this three times. We the companions said, "Certainly, O messenger of Allah! He (saw) said: "Associating anyone with Allah, disobedience to parents".

The prophet sat up straight after he had reclined and added, "And I warn you against false utterance and false witness, "And I warn you against false utterance and false witness".

The messenger of Allah (saw) kept saying that warning until we thought that he would not stop".

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Answer 8

1st ALLAH

2nd The Prophet Muhammad

3rd Yur Parents!!!!!!!!!

it is said yu are to obey them until they tell yu to commit shirk!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

Islam teaches us that respect for parents come immediately after praying to Allah and before Jihad (struggle and striving in the way of Allah). In this respect, the Prophet (PBUH) said the following when asked: Abi Abder Rahman Abdullah bin Massoud asked the Prophet (PBUH), "Which deed is more liked by Allah?" He replied, "Prayers on time." Then I asked, "Which one is next?" He said, "Goodness to parents." Then I asked, "Then which one is next?" He said, "Jihad in the way of Allah."(Narrated by Abi Abder Rahman Abdullah bin Massoud, Agreed) In Islam, respect for parents is so great that the child and his wealth are considered to be the property of the parents. In this regard, the Prophet (PBUH) said: Aisha narrated that a person came to the Prophet (PBUH) to resolve his dispute with his father regarding a loan given to the father. The Prophet (PBUH) said to the person, "You and your wealth are to your father. !!!

Answer 10

Since they raised you, fed you, looked after you through out your life, well then the answer is yes. They did everything for you, and c'mon, without them, your nothing.

Your mother has paradise under her feet.

The only time you may disobey, with the highest respect, is:

1) Your parents say that you should convert to another religion

2) Where you don't want to be married/ you don't want the bride they chose for you.

Answer 11

After Allah is our Parents, so we have to give them respect and obey them..

Answer 12

The status of parents in Islam is described in Verses 23 and 24 of Chapter 17 of Holy Quran.  The translation of the verses is as follows:- And your Lord has decreed.  Do not worship any but Him, and be good to parents.  If one or both of them grow old in your company, say not them 'Ugh', neither chide them, but say gentle words to them, and lower to them the wing of humbleness out of kindness and say, "My Lord! Have mercy upon them as they nourised me when I was small."

The metaphor used here is that of a bird which so lovingly spreads wings over its young one in the nest.  Not better way to express kindly treatment to parents can be thought of.

It is the right of the parents that their children obey and treat them well.  Because, while Allah is the real cause of man's coming into world, his parents are the outward and immediate cause.  The Qur'an stresses a kindly treatment to parents, especially when they grow old.  It comes in a Hadith that disobedience to parents is one of the major sins.  The Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) is reported to have said, "Shall I not inform you about the three major sins?"  Those who were present replied, "Yes, Oh Messenger of Allah".  He said "Associating anything with Allah, disobedience to parents,".  And sitting forward from the reclining position, he continued, "and telling lies and bearing false witness".

We should obey them in matters which are not against Deen.

Answer 13

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oi wot bout dadi's!!!

ladoo kid if u want ur parents to buy u more ladoos then they are VERY important in Islam!

=D

yes

it is said that heaven can be found beneath the feet of ur mother

and the father has alot of value because without him u wouldn't exist.  

Answer 14

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“And your Lord has commanded that you shall not serve (any) but Him, and that you shall show goodness to your parents.  If either or both of them reach old age with you, say not to them (so much as) “Ugh” nor chide them, and speak to them a generous word.”

Noble Qur’an, Surat Bani Isra’il (17) Verse 23

The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him and his family) said: “Every righteous child who casts a look of mercy and affection upon his parents shall be granted, for every look of his, rewards equivalent to that of an accepted Hajj.”  Those around the Prophet questioned: “O’ Prophet of Allah!  Even if he were to look at them a hundred times a day?”  The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him and his family) replied: “Indeed!  Allah is the Greatest and Most Kind.”

“There are three things which Allah, the Mighty and the Glorious has not permitted anyone to forsake: returning a trust to its owner, irrespective of whether he is a good person or an evil one; fulfilling one’s promises and covenants, irrespective of whether it has been made to a good person or an evil one; being good and kind towards one’s parents, irrespective of whether they are good or evil.”

Imam as-Sadiq (as) has said: “Allah shall not accept the prayers of a person who looks at his parents with hatred, even if they have been unfair to him!”