What is the age difference between you and your bf/gf/fiance/hubby/wife? ?

Question

I know I asked this before but I am hoping to get more answers in this section.

Also include your ages when you first got together. And how long have you been together?

My boyfriend is 26 and I am 17 (8 1/2 years apart). We have been together for almost 6 months. But everyone thinks its a big deal even though I'll be 18 in less then 3 months.

Answer 1

My husband is 7 years older.  I was 18 and a senior in high school he was 25, a year out of the coast guard, and in college.  

Answer 2

I am 43, he is 39.  To tell you the truth, I like older men better.   I seem to have more in common with them.  I had my reasons for choosing a younger man to marry but those reasons kinda backfired....  

Answer 3

I am 24, he is 31.   So 7 years difference.  

And in your situation....it isn't really about the "amount of years" it is more about the fact that you two are at different points in your lives.  You are either still in high school or just getting out of high school, and he *SHOULD* be done with college or have his career started.  He has already went through the "just turned 21 and I am going to party" phase.  He should be looking more into settling down and starting a life on his own or getting married/having kids while you still are a child.  (even if you are "Almost 18" you are still a child.  No one above 21 says "but I am almost another year older!"  After 21 you tend to not really have any more birthdays to look forward to until you turn 25 and then it is for the car insurance reduction.)   Them making a big deal out of it is because it is.  You two are at completely different points in your life.  You don't know who you really are and don't really even know what you want yet (no offense) and he should.  If he doesn't, he is probably quite immature.  

Answer 4

My current husband is 23 days older than me. We were 40 when we got together. My first husband ( of 20 years) was 12 years older than me, I was 19 when we met and he was 31. We had a lot of problems because of the age difference. Good Luck to you.

Answer 5

my husband and i are 1 month apart. when i was 17 i dated a 24 year old and everyone freaked out saying that it was too big of an age difference. Now that im 24 the thought of somone my age dating a 17 year old is disgusting. I hate that man for what he did to me. I know that no matter what anyone says you will still think your boyfreind is great. When your his age you will understand that it's not okay.

Answer 6

She's older 2 years, 2 months.  

Answer 7

its a big deal for everyone because your still young but as you guys get older it becomes better because your older ...i dunno why that is  ...my boyfriends is 6 months older than me (but im the one that acts older in our relationship ).......PLUS older guys are so much better because they are mature ;)

Answer 8

3 years

Answer 9

He is 49, I am 36. Best relationship I have ever been in. Together almost a year. Good luck, your age difference isnt so bad :)

Answer 10

i'm 32 and my husband is 30. we first started dating when we were 20 and 18. we split up and got back together ten years later!

Answer 11

16.5 years, he was 37 and I was 20 when we met, ve've been together for 7 years

Answer 12

I am 20 and my bf is 24.  We have been dating only 3 months and I was 19 when we started and he was 23.

The reason your age difference is a big deal is because it is illegal for him to be dating you. He could go to jail for it if anyone decides to report the two of you.

I'm not saying that there is anything wrong with that though. When I was 15 I was dating a 19 year old.

Just be careful

Answer 13

when we met he was 14 and i was 17 we have been together 6years a three year difference we are now 20 and 23 we have a 2 and half year old and one on the way in oct and married a year

Answer 14

My bf of 3 and a half years is 2 months younger than me, we were 19 when we got together.

I think 17 and 26 is a huge difference. You're still in high school (or at least are high-school aged) and he presumably finished his undergraduate education 4 or so years ago! If you are at similar emotional levels, then HE has a serious developmental problem.  

Answer 15

He's 11 years older than me. Seems to be a big deal to everyone else, but we are perfectly fine with it and that's how it should be. He's 36 & I'm 25.

We've been together for a little over a year now & are talking about getting married in the near future.

Good luck to you two.

Answer 16

I was 20 when I met my husband and he was 26. We lived together for 3 years before we were married. We've been married almost 11 years. But there is a big difference between 17 and 26. Your life has hardly begun...and if you are 17, then a 26 year old man is too old for you.

Answer 17

26 and 17 is a big deal...I'd KILL my daughter.

Anyway, my husband and I are 2 months apart; we started dating when we were 26 and have been together for 7 years.

Answer 18

I am 27 (two days ago) and he is 24.

Answer 19

I was 30 ad he was 24 I am now 35 he is 28 LOL Why is it ok when HE is older but SOOO wrong when SHE is older

Answer 20

I am 53, he is 49 - been together 15 years, married 14 years.

There are times the difference in our ages is obvious - like when we talk about our high school years or when watching movies or listening to music.  Our "experience" levels are very different on quite a few levels.  

Answer 21

He is 17 months older than I am.  We started dating when he was 25 and I was 24.  

Father and stepmother are 6 years apart and have been married for 25 years.

Answer 22

I met my wife when I was 21 and she was 19.  We have been married for 22 years now.  I am two and a half years older than she is.

I am the father of a 15 year old daughter, by the way, and if two years from now she got a 26 year old boyfriend, I would not be a happy daddy!

Answer 23

My husband is 37 and I'm 22 - 15 years difference.

I met him when I was 17 (2 months before I turned 18) and he just turned 33.

The age difference is not a big deal, but it all depends on your and his maturity level. My husband is a very respectful man.  

Answer 24

He is 33 now. He was 31 when we started dating.

I am 27. I was 25 when we started dating.

6 1/2 years apart and we are engaged and getting married in October 2009.

I don't think there is anything wrong with your age difference.

Answer 25

37 and 27 been together over 2 yrs

Answer 26

Yikes, that is a big deal.  What a 26 year old wants with a 17 year old is beyond me, aside from the obvious.  

Answer 27

He's 1 year & 15 days older than me. Met him on my 18th birthday, got married 15 months later and will have been together 17 years at the end of this month (married 16 years in November).

I dated a 27 year old when I was 17. What any 25+ year old sees in a 17 year old (besides easy s*x) is beyond me. What a loser (guy).

Answer 28

9 months, but my parents are nine years apart

Answer 29

Generally, the older you get, the less of a difference it makes.

You, at 17, may be too young for a 26 year old.

Answer 30

with my first husband I we met when I was 16, married at 17, and divorced at 18. He was 27 when we met, 29 when we divorced.

My husband now is 25, I'm almost 23. We've been married for over 4 years now.

Age doesn't really matter...I've been there, done that. But I wouldn't have changed a thing. I take everything as a learning experience...and I definitely learned from my first marriage. But I didn't let his age or anything else stop me from doing what I knew was right for me at the time. You just have to be smart enough about it to make the best decision for you, but wise enough about it to prepare for disappointment, and still not regret it.  

Good Luck!!

Answer 31

I'm 27 (just turned) and my wife is 21. We have been together 2 years 9 months and married for almost 4 months.