What is the best age to have a baby??

Question

I'm hoping people with more than one kid will answer this question!! Moms or dads, I'd like to hear from either side.

I never - ever - thought I would want children. I finally met someone I want to spend the rest of my life with. My attitude has changed since then. I think I MAY want one someday. At present, we're 28 and 25. I'm on Depo-Provera and I don't think it's in our immediate future.

My mother had me at 26 and had my baby sister at 37. It seems to me that she struggled a whole lot less with my sister....behaviorally, anyway. She had more time, more money/resources, etc. She was older and wiser, blah blah. BUT the downside is that my sister won't be out of the house until mom is in her late 50s.

Is it better to have one while you're younger?? I've heard that the body handles it better then. But there seem to be a lot of upsides to being older when having one, too.

Opinions?? Just curious. :)

Answer 1

quickest answer is when you are young and stupid. But that doesn't quite cut it for your question.

Each child is different and is treated differently. Thank all the Gods in the Universe for that one. It would be horrid if all children were as hard headed as my oldest! and life would be so totally boring with my "easy" second one.

There is really no "best" time other than having "time" to spend with them and on them. It is the quality of time not the quantity as well.

It is much easier on the mother to be young and stupid. But not necessarily on the lifestyle.

I am a grandma of 4, mother of 3, and looking forward to my first great grand!! That will be the most fun.

Answer 2

Even medically there is no right age because women develop at different ages. There isn't really a correct age to have children, you have them when you're ready. Whether that's money wise or whatever :)

Only you and you're partner will know when. Good luck <3

Answer 3

Sorry to say, but there is no right answer for this.  People are ready at all different ages.  It depends on everything from money, age, career stability, home stability, marriage, school, etc.

One women could be ready at 22 and another might not feel she's ready until she's 43!!!

Everyone is going to have struggles and if you wait til the "right time" you will never have a child.

Answer 4

I think it is best to have it when YOU are ready. My husband and I had the luxury of being together for like 12 years before we had our kid, so we got to enjoy some together time. Once you have a kid, the together time is VERY LITTLE. So, make sure you have a strong foundation to build upon.

Certainly, it is easier on the body when you are young. BUT having $$$ to raise a kid makes it soo much easier. Having a night nurse for the first month makes life MUCH less stressful. Having a nanny. Paying for childcare, etc.  so saving up $$$ for all that is good.

like many have said, it's different for each person.  

Answer 5

you must consider that by age 60 ,you will retire at that point of time your kid should't be dependent on you .All your sons should settled down and your daughter should be married off. that means 60-the age of your son/daughter to be settled down.Assume 28 is the age where they will settle down so you should have babies before you reaches 32,

Answer 6

ya i would say earlier is better your just younger ... you get tired faster as you get older and chasing after 2 or 3 or 4 year old is very tiring even at a young age but it can be done at any age like i am 31 and on my 3rd because i didn't' find the man i wanted to spend my life with until i was like 27 ...

Answer 7

Paula Christine gave a very good answer.  I'd like to add though, that regardless of age, you have to be willing to take on the responsibility.  It's a big commitment of your time and energy. I was 32 when I became a dad.  Looking  back, I'm glad I didn't do it earlier, because I had a selfish streak in me that I didn't really mature out of until I was 30 or so.  

Answer 8

I just think that you are at the right age right now.  Old enough to have lived on your own, but young enough that you can still have lots of energy for all the fun stuff.  But that's just me.  I'm 27 now and I have a 9 month old.  I think it was the right age for me, although we do want another in 2 or 3 years.  Whatever feels right for you!

Answer 9

My kids are 15, 10, and 6.  I am 41.  I got married when I was 23 had my first child at 26.  Then next when I was 30, and then 36.  Physically, my best pregnancy was at 26, but I was so nieve.  I wasn't worried about a thing.  Just get pregnant and have a baby is what I thought.  At 30 I was a little scared, but more prepared.  I was on bed rest for a month.  At 36, I felt old!!!  I had a great pregnancy though.  But running around after a 5 year old when you are 40 is a lot harder than when you are 35. When my youngest started kindergarten I was so afraid I was going to be the "oldest" mother.  I was younger than a lot of the other mothers in his class. I would say the absolute best age is 30ish.  Still young, but mature enough to handle the responsabilities.  Also, make sure you and your husband are happy before.  As far as knowing more now than I did then, it's true for my little one, but I'm still raising a teenager for the first time regardless. A baby brings a lot of happiness, but also a lot of stress.  Good Luck.