What is the best open or closed adoption? What kind of family is best a rich family or middle income?

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What is the best open or closed adoption? What kind of family is best a rich family or middle income?

Answer 1

If adoption has to happen, I prefer rich & open, since I had closed & poor, and that sucked.

No, money doesn't replace blood--no adoption is better.  But if it HAS to happen, it sure can 'cushion the blow'.

Answer 2

It doesn't matter how much money some has to determine if they should have (deserve) a closed or open adoption. Our son has an open but limited relationship (not by our choice) with his first family. It think for us it's best. Every adoption is different, but for us it works. I hope we can al be closer someday.

Answer 3

Open or closed adoption just depends on the adoption circumstances. While open is obviously in the best interest of the child it takes both sets of parents(adoptive and bio) to honor that.

As far as income. Adopted or not a child adapts to his/her environment. As long as it's a loving, nurturing, safe home for the child it doesn't matter.

Answer 4

Please disregard what others say about the best adoption being one that doesn't happen.  In a perfect world, that would be true.  But in our society, things aren't always perfect.

I do believe that the best adoption is one that focuses on the child and the child's needs.  Open adoption is obviously the better choice in cases where the child has not been in an abusive or neglectful relationship with his bio family.  In those cases, closed adoptions are in the best interest of the child.

As for income - love is what makes a family - not the amount of money in one's wallet.

Answer 5

I think finical status does not matter as long as the adoptive parents can provide  the basics (cloths, shelter, food), be there for the child emotionally,  give the child love unconditional  no matter what. That’s really all that is important imo.

As far as a closed or open adoption I think that really depends on the situation as each situation is different.

Answer 6

The best adoption is the one that never occuars and the child remains with his/her family.

The best kind of an adoptive family is one who is educated about the issues of loss the adoptee will face throughout various life stages.

Money can never replace people and toys do not ease an emptiness in one's heart.

Answer 7

is this a real question??? i mean, come on.  

let me try:

open adoptions are usually nothing more than a propaganda ploy (in some situations) to get pregnant women to place their kids.  

closed adoptions hurt adult adoptees who want access to their records or first parents who were forced to relinquish.

rich familes can be wonderful or be as$holes.  middle class families can be wonderful or be as$holes.

i really don't see what this question is attempting to address.

Answer 8

imo, I believe experience has taught us as a society that closed adoptions don't work out very well.  (I'm sure there are exceptions here.)  Both of our daughters have open adoptions.  Everything is out on the table and our older daughter actually emails her birthmother.  We teach our children to think of their birth families as extended family.  I want my children to have all of their questions answered about who they are and where they come from so that there isn't this overwhelming mess when they become young adults.  There are no secrets and it is understood that their adoptions were made out of love.  We show our children how much we love, admire and respect their birthparents for choosing adoption. I would feel bad if i didn't keep our birthparents informed about how well our children are doing to give them peace about the decisions they made.

Money can't buy love or happiness.

Answer 9

If it was my choice, I would choose open because you can have contact with the child. My cousin's wife gave a baby up when she was younger and got an open adoption, she gets a few pictures ever year, and now that the little one is in school she gets a letter or a picture that she drew. She would visit her, but the adoptive family lives on the west coast and my cousin and his wife live on the east coast. I don't think money is a big issue really, as long as the family can adequately provide for the child, and both middle class families and rich families are able to do that.

Answer 10

I gave my daughter up for adoption and i chose to have the adoption closed, i knew that if the option was there to see her then i would want to all the time, which may have hindered her ability to become stable in her new home.

The best family in any adoption isn't one with money at all its a family that can provide a loving home and even those with money can't provide a loving home for their own children look at Britney Spears she has loads of money yet she hasn't got the first clue on how to raise a child.

Answer 11

Because each situation is different, there isn't a generic yes or no answer as to an open or closed adoption being best. What has to be considered in that decision is what is in the best interest of the child first, and best for ALL of the parents second. Extended family should be included in the child's life too if at all possible.

As far as a family's financial status, if the adoptive family is able to provide all the necessary tools for personal growth,  basic needs, education, etc., then it shouldn't really matter if they have a vacation house, yacht, or any other luxuries.  Wouldn't we all like to have been born into a family who could have afforded us the very best?!

There are bigger issues that need to be addressed as well.

Answer 12

First of all, money doesn't make a person or family better individuals or more able to raise a child better than the other. If you think money makes a family more fit or better parents as a result then you are sorrily mistaken and misled.

As far as open or closed adoption goes there is no "best" way, it is what is in the best interest of the child and the situation surrounding the adoption.  In cases where it could be dangerous for a child's biological family to know where they are or to have contact with the child then I would say go closed, but in other cases, it may be best for the child to know their biological parents or siblings after an adoption is completed so then, open is the way to go.

Answer 13

*A*I think that the best family for any child is one that can give him/her the best chances in life. One that will love them for what they can do and for the things that they struggle with.

*B*As far as open or closed thats totally up to you.

*C*Open, gives the child the opportunity to find out about you and meet you when there older if they choose to. The adopted parents and the birth parent(s)have an understanding that you will be part of the childs life. And also an understanding that the birth mother is the birth mother, and the adoptive parents are Mom and Dad.

*D*Closed means that the biological parents will have nothing to do with the child. The child can still find you but it is almost impossible to do. You don't want to deal with the confrontational question of "why did you give me away". Most cases there where other reasons why the adoption was needed.

Answer 14

Being a person who's adoptive parents divorced as a child, I would also say that the most important factor should not be money but how loving and dedicated the couple are to each other.

Divorce is a horrible thing to go through as a child.

Answer 15

I would choose stability of the marriage and stability of their jobs before money.  Are the parents in risky careers where they could loose all tomorrow?  If possible, I'd want to know their debt level.  Are they barely making ends meet and could go into bankruptcy five years from now.  I would also factor in religion and extended family contact.

Answer 16

Open is the lesser of two evils.

And rich adopters might better afford the therapy bills.

Answer 17

The best adoption is no adoption.

The best family is the n-family, rich, poor, or anywhere in between.

Answer 18

Here is a link to some adoption information.  It is all totally free for the birth mom AND dad.  It lets you choose the amount of contact, if any between you and the adoptive parents.  They can answer any questions you may have.

http://www.providentliving.org/ses/birth...

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Best of luck to you.