What is the best thing for someone like me whos VERY afraid of rejection?

Question

I am never able to tell someone how I feel until theyve told me they are head over heels for me... I am so afraid of rejection.

Maybe I just need to get rejected a few times? Maybe that way I wont be as afraid of it anymore and I'll accept that its a part of life?

What will help me?? because I'm tired of being so afraid of getting rejected. I havent been rejected too many times but the times that I have I keep replaying over and over again in my head.

Answer 1

Your self confidence is pretty low. ALL OF US get rejected at some point in our lives and we all survive. Rejection is a part of life. And you are right..get rejected a few times and you will learn that GEE...I can live through this. Rejection is only as bad as YOU TELL YOURSELF it is. May I recommend a book for you. Please read A Guide to Rational Living by Albert Ellis. I had to read so many of those kind of books in college and I still remember what he said so many years later. You are also right about reliving it over and over...YOU are doing that to you. When you start thinking about it again you literally, out loud, tell yourself to STOP. You are your own worst enemy in times like that. We all are. We hurt ourselves more by telling ourselves how terrible something is or was....when objectively it really was not. Please do read that book. Good luck.

Answer 2

You reject yourself. Start accepting yourself by noticing the things you say about yourself in your mind. Then start talking lovingly to yourself. When you get to point there you love yourself you will be fine.

Answer 3

You need to accept that the world won't always be kind to you, and that some people may not like you.  Rejection is a normal part of life, and fearing it is normal, but asking for help on yahoo is not.  See a doctor.

Answer 4

There is no magical thing you can say to fix this. I have the same issue as you from time to time, and I do the same thing everytime to fix out.

I go out. Go to a social event and try to open up and hit on every good looking girl there. Odds are you will be shot down by most of them, but it will help. Worst case scenario is you make a few new girl friends