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What is the best thing to do in this situation?

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I'm married for three years now. I met my husband back when I was working in a call center back in my home country. To make it short he went over there to visit me and we both decided to get married. As soon as my visa got approved he went over to my country again to get me and while in the plane he told me and promised me for a descent house and a better lifestyle. So, I was pacified from my worries! We arrived at dawn around 2:00AM and to my surprise he showed me his so called house that looks like a dump! All his stuff are cluttered with no descent bedrooms, bathroom, kitchen, and other essential rooms in a house! At that time I really believed that he lied to me. Well, for three years nothing much had happen to improve the situation except that we live in one of his summer cottages. Two months ago I quit from my job because he said I have no time for him anymore and he can support me anyway. My immigration status is still on a conditional permanent residence but we have already applied for unconditional status. Now, I have reached to the point like I'm tired of being lied and not getting what I deserved. By the way my husband is way older than me and honestly I love him and care for him despite of being rude and boastful sometimes telling me that I am just a S_ _ _ and he saved my life. Thus, I should thank HIM and should not complain. I really want to move on and get my life back without him but there are lot of reasons that makes me back off: 1) I don't have a driver's license yet 'coz he doesn't want to help me; 2) I am still on my immigration papers; 3) I have no job at this time; 4) My savings is not enough for me to get a place for myself and to have a car; 5) I'm not sure what are the legal steps to do to pursue the divorce process. Please help me!

Thank you in advance!

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  1. Material things aren't everything. Your whole argument on leaving him seems to be based on your living conditions. Does he miss-treat you in any other way? If you truly love him then you have to let him know how you are feeling before you go to the next step.


  2. He's abusing you,Mentally. and keeping you a prisoner.

    There are support houses out there for you. Help is in the Yellow pages of your local phone book.  

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