What is the best things to teach your child so they dont turn out to be a rude brat?

Question

i dont want my kid to turn out rude, what are your ideas on how to raise your child to have manners and be polite. i plan on teaching the simple please and thank you along with other common things like that.i just dont like to see kids who throw fits like a baby when they are 10 or who act out alot,another question, i heard children act out because they are neglected,is that true?

Answer 1

Lead by example, give them choices, and treat them like little people and not property. Respect, patience, and determination are important. Be sure you teach your children appreciation, and don't give them an entitlement complex.

In my experience acting out comes from many places. Neglect can be a factor, but neglected children seem to be more withdrawn in my experience. The ones that really act out, and have the screaming fits in the store because they want that candy bar are often over indulged in their daily life. Often, but not always. Undiagnosed learning disabilities, personality disorders, and just being tired and cranky can also contribute.

Kids are strange. They do things we don't want them to at exactly the time it will cause the most embarrassment to you. The goal is to have them behave the way you want them to more often than not.

Answer 2

Read the book the baby whisperer and FOLLOW IT, you will have a great kid!

Kids learn what they see, if you have manners, they will have manners, even before they can talk, even before you think they notice, use your manners around them.

Answer 3

Definitely teach the please and thank yous.  Almost every child will pitch a fit at one point in their life.  They key is how you handle it when they do it when they are little.  Just be very consistent and address the behavior so they know its not acceptable.  For example, if you're shopping and your child asks you to buy them a toy, and you say no and they pitch a fit..... stick to your guns!  No means no, if you give in and get it just to placate the child, they will pitch a fit every time you say no.  If they know you mean it, they won't bother.  That kind of thing.  Make sure any bad behavior has a consequence (however you choose to discipline) and make sure you recognize good behavior as well - it doesn't have to be a reward, but I always make sure I praise my kids when I feel they are especially well behaved.  And before you go anywhere, outline your expectations to your kids so they know what they are (for example, if I'm going shopping, I tell my kids they have to behave, stay near me, no running around, etc.).

Hope this helps a bit!

Answer 4

I just have to say it's nice to hear someone ask how to teach kids these things where as most people want to know how to punish them when they don't do them.

So many people focus on punishment and it drives me nuts. You can't punish a child into a well behaved child, you have to teach them how to be one so they can choose to be one for the right reasons.

I think many children act out because their parents focus on punishment. They wait for the child to do the wrong thing then they think puishment will correct the behavior. The don't realize that the key is to teach them ahead of time how to behave and use other techniques to sintill self discipline in them.

I think you are a step ahead just by knowing that these are things you need to teach children. You sound like you'll be a great mom.  

Answer 5

Encourage them to be easygoing and humerous, thats what I did, my kids are all happy-go-lucky and friendly, and polite, and content most of all

Answer 6

teach them to treat others the way they want to be treated and when they fail to do this say im sorry  and try again...

also never say anything negative about any one if you cant say something nice dont say anything at all.

Answer 7

smak um

Answer 8

if you want them to treat others with respect, treat them how you want them to treat others.

dont be one of those overbearing mean punishing moms who are only being that mean because they dont want their child to be spoiled.

Love them, and teach them how to show respect. That is the only way.  

Answer 9

my mother gave us these guide lines when my sister and i were little. she said before you say anything to anybody, ask yourself...is it kind? is it true? is it necessary?

  many adults could benefit from this saying too!