What is the best way to act toward my boyfriends Baby momma?

Question

My boyfriend, (25) has a son that is a year and a half. I am 22 and we dated when i was 16 and recently got back together after never loosing contact nor feelings. I accept and embrace the fact that he has a kid and obvisously has contact with his ex (the childs mother). She absolutley hates me, more on a jealousy/possessive level, and wants me to have nothing to do with her son. Threatens my boyfriend about taking his son away, yet calls him frequenly with her problems and delimas, mind you she has her own boyfriend. Some of the calls pertain to his son, others just to complain and threaten. How do i respond/act towards her and him? By the way i have ignored all threats and emails sent my way. I have said NOTHING to her. Please respond

Answer 1

friendly

Answer 2

Be friendly and courteous. Why cause drama by being rude to her? Just ignore her. You're the one that scored her man in the end and that's all that matters.

Answer 3

Always be friendly and always keep your cool.  Be mature even if she isn't.  That way if she ever does try to take her son away from your boyfriend she will never have a bad thing to say about you and you will know you kept your nose clean.  I think you've done the right thing in ignoring threats and emails.  Hopefully she'll tire of it soon and give up!

Answer 4

just be the bigger person. dont go to her level which is jealous. just be nice.  

Answer 5

You are doing the right thing. Continue to NOT respond to her immature emails and threats. never babysit the child alone because god forbid something bad happens everyone will blame you and you will never hear the end of it from her. Never transport the child by car anywhere alone, basically never ever allow your BF to leave you alone with the child even for a minute. Because you are not his wife so you arent a step mom, just a GF.

Consider how much you love your current BF. Is this relationship worth the stress? Talk to him. Tell him you are sick of her threats and emails. Change your email address.  Always act as polite as possible to the ex GF even if she is being horrible towards you. Tell her you understand this is her child and you would never do anything that she wouldnt approve of with regards to her child. That you know that her having a pleasant relationship with your BF is important for the child.

She considers you a threat. You are getting in the way of her using her ex BF. This is why I would never date a man with a kid (unless the kids mom was dead or wanted nothing to do with the child) because of all this baby momma drama. Just be above all the drama. and get out of this relationship if you feel scared of his ex or this is too stressful for u.

good luck

Answer 6

just ask her to politly stop doing those things! But be nice about it, like be the bigger person and make her look like a jerk!