What is the best way to approach a lady in a night club?

Question

i think ladies are very nice and i always want to talk to them when i am out in a pub and club but i nerver know what i should say to them can any one help ?

Answer 1

U dun hv to say anything just leave your branded wallet on the table n make sure they can see all yr credit card n cash + leave yr sport car key on the table too....they will approach u jus wait n see!

Answer 2

very carefully. Wait until you've established eye contact & you're

invited to join them.

Answer 3

Be honest. Don't try to be overly amusing to impress her, or stretch the truth in *any* way. Trust me, she'll know, and she won't appreciate being lied to.

Go up to a woman and tell her something like: "I couldn't help myself- I had to come over just to tell you how beautiful (graceful is a good word, too) you are." If small talk ensues, go with it. If not, don't press your luck at that moment. Go back to your own spot and have someone take her a drink and tell her that it's from you.

It's not worth it to try to hurt a girl if she doesn't want to dance or talk with you. Women talk amongst each other. Any stupidity or pushiness will spread through conversation. ;)

Answer 4

the best thing to do is to ask them to dine out

Answer 5

On all fours

Answer 6

just ask the bar tender to send her a drink.

she will do the rest

Answer 7

There's a few.  You could beckon one with your little finger and if she comes over you say "If I can make you come with my little finger think what I can do with the rest of my body!"

or......

say to a girl "You must be knacked love!"

She replies, "Why's that?"

You say, "Because you've been running through my mind all day!"

Answer 8

walk up to them usually does it

Answer 9

There are two simple steps that work every time!

1. Make eye contact with the woman you want.

2. Wave a hundred dollar bill in the air.

Answer 10

There are no ladies in night clubs

Answer 11

BUY HER A DRINK

Answer 12

Every time I go to a bar, I see the same pathetic types of guys trying to pick-up women:

You have the Player. For the Player, it’s all about playing the odds. He just hits on as many women as possible and hopes to get lucky and pick-up a woman once in a while. But he is not successful on a predictable and consistent basis every single time. Contrary to popular belief, picking-up women should not be a number’s game! If you don’t have skills, it may be a number’s game. But if you have skills, it should not be difficult to pick-up women every single time…

Mr. Nice Guy has the courage to make a move and initiate a conversation. He may even have the skills the keep a conversation going, and makes a good impression…initially. But then bores the h**l out of the woman he’s talking to.

Then there’s the Lurker. The majority of guys in bars and clubs are lurkers. They just lurk around with their friends downing one beer after another. They just check out women and never have the courage to make a move. They wait and hope a girl will approach them. Only when the lurker is drunk enough will he try and…predictably, crash, burn and die.

What do these three have in common?

They let women be in control. These guys are trying too hard to get their attention. Picking-up women is not that difficult. But a lot of guys are desperate for a woman’s approval, and women can smell fear a mile away.

All three don’t have a “rap”. All of them ask the same old pathetic questions that everybody asks:

“Where are you from?” “What do you do for a living?” “How do you like this bar//club?” etc. I crack up laughing every time I stand next to a guy trying so hard to keep a conversation going with these lame questions. It’s truly pathetic…you just can’t pick-up a woman with the same old and boring conversation topics that every guy uses. You have to entertain and truly connect with a woman to pick her up successfully.

Enter the “Zen”.

There’s some good news and some bad news for you. Let’s start with the good news: Women go to bars to meet men. Women seek our approval and attention. Women want to be noticed and desired, so don’t be shy. In fact, women want you to be in control and expect you to initiate a conversation. After all, in our society women are raised that way. They want to be picked-up!

The bad news is that the key to success is to have “Zen”. To be successful on a predictable and consistent basis, you need to know exactly what you’re going to do. A lot of lame dating books say you just need to be cocky and funny. But they don’t tell you exactly how. How exactly do you go about being cocky without being arrogant? How do you build self-confidence in the first place? How do you go about being funny?

Let’s start with the basics first. There 4-stages to every pick-up:

Stage 1 – The initial approach: Before you even open your mouth and utter your first word, a woman will have sized you up. And I am not just referring to your overall looks, but your body language, posture, facial expression – the overall confidence and strength that you exude with your body language. You don’t have to be handsome or in Schwarzenegger shape. But you have to exude the kind of confidence and charisma that women find attractive.

Stage 2 – The Introduction: If you try an obvious pick-up routine, her defenses will be high. We simply, categorically, and unequivocally don’t recommend it. Women want to meet the “right guy” through a random, “natural” encounter. Born and raised on romance novels, Cosmo, Elle, and Vogue, they want to tell their girlfriends about their “romantic” their first meeting with their boyfriend/fiancé/husband. In general, women don’t want to be “picked-up”. It’s our job to repackage “fate” and make your approach look like a random encounter.

More importantly, the introduction should not be a lame “Hi! I’m Jack. What’s your name?” Instead, right from the start, you would want to provide her with some conversational fodder to engage her in a conversation.

Stage 3 – The Conversation: The ability to hold a great conversation is absolutely critical to your dating success. But like any other skill, your conversation skills need to be developed and then continuously refined. Even if you think you’re a great conversationalist, think again. Some of us may have that innate ability to keep any conversation going for hours. Some of us may even have advanced college degrees and are well versed on such a plethora of arcane subjects including foreign policy, nanotechnology and Plato. Knowledge and intelligence are wonderful assets to have at your fingertips. But there’s a huge difference between having a casual conversation with friends and having a conversation with a perfect stranger. Moreover, there’s a huge difference between exchanging information and seducing a woman. Sometimes advanced degrees and tons of information at your fingertips can hurt you more than help you. If you are not careful women might view you as a boring “wind bag” (= Mr. Nice Guy). Even if your conversation goes well, if you fail to seize the opportunity to create chemistry or that “special” connection, you might wind up in the dreaded “friend zone.”

Stage 4 – Closing: Don’t forget your ABC = Always be closing. You’ve made a great first impression and had a really enjoyable and easy-going 30-minute conversation with her. It’s time to leave while you are on top, while she has a great impression of you, and when you can comfortably ask her for her phone number. How do you ask for it without coming across as desperate or pushy?

Answer 13

My friend, you are in need of some help, let me advise.

1. Read this book, "The Game" by Neil Strauss

2. Surf over to http://http://www.fastseduction.com/

I was having a few problems myself, of a very different sort (loss of interest etc), and these two sources sorted me out.

I'm now back to my former, 'sarging' self.

Seriously, check them out, the forum on that website is essentially an online community of friendly blokes, swapping ideas and theories.

Answer 14

Straight forward - Just go right up and ask her if  she is "into it.". she will either start laughing & the ice is broken or chip her Bacardi Breezer over you - she will be half-cut and it will be dark and noisy - so dont be embarrassed about getting a knock back ...Fire in Darren Boy..!  but Dont ask her if she wants a drink..yet! - as you will have to walk away from her to get it - meanwhile the next chancer is having a go..

Answer 15

Be yourself & give them a sincere compliment with a nice smile.  Meeting a woman is all about attitude, self confidence, how you are groomed & the way you carry yourself.

If no conversation develops move on to another woman & do the same thing.  Women love to be noticed for their hair, sweater, whatever makes them stand out.

Answer 16

throw nickels at her from across the room......

then later ,,,, walk up and just start telling her how some a*****e next to you earlier was throwing stuff across the club,,, and you finally had to escort him out of the place,,,,,, and ask her why she thinks there are so many azzholes in the world...

approach complete.....  yer on yer own.

Answer 17

Be a gentleman. Don't act like a horny pig.

Go up to her with a big smile and look her in the eyes. Hold your hand out for a handshake and say, "Hi. My name is (your name). May I ask yours?"

Then start up small talk. Pretend like she is the only one in the room and whatever she is talking about is really interesting.

Girls like to feel special. Not like they're a cut of meat on the meat market.

Answer 18

Hi, wanna dance?  

Ask 100 ladies this and you will get some hits.

Answer 19

Be honest and sincere! And smile! Just walk up to a lady you like. Smile and tell her that you feel you would like to meet her. Make her feel comfertable, look her in the eye, don´t be pushy, buy her a drink. Don´t ask to many direct questions (where do you live work etc as she´ll be worried you may stalk her ) but ask about her interests. And smile :-)

Answer 20

Okay ... this only works if she's blond ... or really, really, drunk.

You walk up behind her ,,, tap her o the shoulder ... look at your watch and say ... OK time to go.

Answer 21

hey, you seem to like colorful clothes/dancing etc. i actually kinda like bright clothes/waltz etc. (your response if she says anything) Hi my name's.... what's yours.  

and soon you will start a friendly conversation

Answer 22

from behind, you cad!

i told my mate to do that tho, and he got a slap lol ooops.