What is the best way to avoid bullies if ignoring them is not effective?

Question

I get teased because I have acne and I know I am not pretty like other people but it hurts when people call me ugly.I am using proactive so I am finding solutions for my skin.My acne has caused me to have low self esteem and I know it shouldn't matter to me what people think of me but for some reason I care a lot about what people think of me.So how can I not let their words bother me because their words are so painful to me that I end up crying like the whole afternoon when I come home and I want to feel good about myself I don't want to waste my tears on stuff that shouldn't bother me.I want to be carefree and I don't want to care about what people think about me.So how can I do that?

Answer 1

Hun, those people that makes fun of you are those with low self-esteem.  They only do that to make them feel better about their selves.  They are not worth your time to cry over about because in the end of the day, it will only be your lost.  We all live in this cruel world where everyone cares about looks.  It doesn't matter if you are not very good-looking!  I'm sure you're a great person and have positive qualities within you.  Acne may be something to cry over about (it's curable!), but think about all the other stuff that you're good at!  Have confidence in yourself and don't let others' words affect you!  Just remember, no one is perfect in this world.

Answer 2

You are already starting the right way by wanting to feel better and by realizing they are the problem, not you.

It's okay to care what other people think, until you begin to believe them when they are negative.  We all want to be liked.  The problem is when we let mean people start to influence us.

Try to focus your energy on positive things.

Get a journal and write down what is good about you.  Start with no less than 5 things.  Read them every morning when you wake up and every night before you go to sleep.  Add more as you are ready to. (This really works on a subconscious level!)

Hang out with the people who don't care that you have a temporary skin problem.  Your skin will eventually clear up, but bullies don't often change for the better.

Get a great haircut that complements your face shape.  Wear clean and neat clothing, even if it isn't expensive, so you look like you care about yourself.  Bullies can smell our weaknesses, so sometimes we have to pretend to be braver than we are.

When bullies start to pick on you, try to leave the area and go somewhere else with nice people.  Don't go hide in your room because that won't help you get it off your mind.

Cry sometimes when it gets to you, but be proud of yourself when you handle it well.

If you actually make a conscious effort to shape your thinking, you can become stronger.

Do some volunteer work where you know you make a difference in this world with your actions and not your appearance.

Good luck to you!

Answer 3

Here, listen to me. You are NOT ugly. No-one is.

I can understand why you would sit and cry, but it is them who should be crying. One day you'll meet someone who will love you for your personality not looks!! Unfortunately in school people are a bit immature and they take the pee outta lame things. It is ALWAYS the girl/boy who wears glasses, has braces, is obese, has ginger hair etc. You will not be the only one who is getting teased.

They are very sad, small-minded people who are doing this to you.

I really hope things improve for you, if not why not tell someone you know well and trust?

Doesn't always acheive anything, but it is definately worth a try =]

xx

Answer 4

Hey don't worry about it and don't waste your tears over ignorant people because believe me their the one with low self-esteem.They only pick on you and and others to make them selfs feel better.ignore them and walk away,if it guess any worse,you need to tell your parents,because thats not tattle tale.If someone don't do something about it it could get worse.So don't worry only care about yourself and what you think about yourself.

Answer 5

Other people do care about other people no matter what. Acne is only a temporary problems. Friendships will last forever. It is hard to avoid bullies. Just remember that the bullies are really afraid of themselves. The best of luck.

Answer 6

If there is a way that you could stay inside during the process of the proactiv takes to work, could be beneficial. Many people who undergo plastic surgery have to stay inside over a short period of time. I would! I hear proactive works, just follow the regime and in a couple of weeks you should be good to go. And these bullies, ignore them, it is still good advice, and when your face clears and the beautiful you shines through, still ignore them. If people can't except you as you are and for who you are, they are not worth your time and thought.

Answer 7

the way to stop all of this is to make yourself prettier. see your doctor and she/he will give you acne cream. get a cute stle for your hair. get contacts. as for clothes, dont follow fashion trends. you want to be in induvisoul. if it gets really bad, try changing schools. but dont worry, everything'll be okay!!!!!

Answer 8

the best thing to do is stand up for your self and just remember that nobody is perfect