What is the best way to handle a breakup?

Question

(a) what's your first reaction when someone breaks-up with you?

(b) how do you handle it?

Answer 1

Since I just went through a break up I can give you recent account of how I handled it.

My first reaction is to be shocked. Even if we've been having problems it still takes me back a little when I heard the words.

But after the in ital shock of the situation, I would say good bye, wish them well (if they broke up with me kindly) and leave.

Then I will think about what went wrong, focusing on how compatible we really were and the things that mad me mad, so I can see how we really weren't meant to be together.

Answer 2

there is no ready made solution but yes... ask yourself .. don't you like a girl that lives three blocks away...go for the kill dude...

Answer 3

Move on.

Answer 4

Turn the music on really loud and dance.

Answer 5

Walk briskly away, not looking back. If you keep looking back, you miss who's coming your way.  

Answer 6

i first question if i am ugly or what. but then i realized we were just two different people. i just keep myself busy

Answer 7

my first reaction-if it was a serious relationship is sadness, disbelief and instant sickness.  I don't know how many days I would take off work or lay around and not eat or get sick after eating b/c my stomache was in knots after my last breakup.  To handle it, you just have to give it time.  Its good to talk w/ a close friend about it but not go over board and obsessed.  Get your feelings out there and let it be ok to be sad for a while but then know you have to get on with it.

and thoughts to make it seem like things will be ok are just the classic "I can find better"...no one is perfect and its not good to think they are...it's helped me to focus on things about that person that I really didnt like and drove me crazy and then said the next guy wouldn't be like that :)  I never get the same flaws twice!  But all in all, it just takes time.

Answer 8

well this hasn't happened to me in a long while, actually the last time i broke up with someone, it was years ago, and it was my decision, either way, if something like that happens, u have to know in yourself that the b/up was something that was needed to be done, now if its a b/up done w/out you wanting it, then u have to accept it and move on., know in your heart that it wasn't meant to be, b/c if it was then u and that person will still be together.SO yet again acceptance is required, and u need to move on with that decision, with or without your approval.

Answer 9

A) Get really upset :-(

B) Handle it reminding myself about everything that was wrong with the relationship.  Keep myself busy so i don't have much time to be sad. Then move on (a new toy always makes you forget the old ones!)

Answer 10

I freak out and I scream, then I cry for days.... dont know what comes after than. Ive done most of the breaking up.  

Answer 11

if im really hurt i cry a lot and when the crying is done thats the end of it all i never look back and not even talk to the person again but if im not hurt that much i just move on and wont even mind being friends becoz no part of mine will have broken over that person

Answer 12

it really don't think there is a real way i think it depends on how much u like the person an sum times thing just burnout  

Answer 13

I take it like a woman and just wish them well, say it's okay.  Then of course I cry on my couch for at least an entire weekend.  Depends on the relationship and how interested I was in a future with him.

Answer 14

take one day at a time.  Focus on you and what you want from this day forward.  If it's still a loving relationship, hold on to that,  just redirect to yourself and do what you want to her to yourself...loving you, caring aobut you, treating you good, do things that make you happy.  DO NO CALL, TXT, EMAIL, IM, GO BY, and ANY contact with her whatsoever.  I mean cut it off. TOTALLY.  Each day will get easier, next thing you know, you will look back and say..THANK GOD I'm out of that mess :-)

Answer 15

Depends on if it's a marriage, kids involved ect.  Just realize it takes time, keep busy.  Time does heal all.

Answer 16

my one reltionship was for awhile then he just broke up with me. i cried and slept the whole weekend. i ate one of those huge hershey bars. i just thought i was too good for him and i'll find someone better (i haven't yet.)