I am a single mum of 9yo and a 5yo girls. They have had very little contact with their father.I had previously dated a guy for almost a year but this ended as my oldest daughter tension and discomfort at the time made it difficult to continue the relationship. It has been about 2 years and he and i have reconnected. Unfortunately my 9 yo's feeling have not changed,worse still possibly intensified. I don't want to lose this guy again as we have a very strong connection,but would greatly appreciate advice on how to help my daughter accept him. She says she feel sick when he's around and that she hates him.
My 5 yo always liked this man previously, even calling him Dad the first time round. She doesn't have any problem with him being around. My 9 yo has outbursts ranging from anger ,withdrawal,and even crying for long periods.
What is the best way to help my 9 yo accept my new man? How can i help her feel safe and secure without having to stay single forever?
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