What is the best way to overcome any jealous situation?

Question

whether it be with ur boyfriend...(and other girls) or anything...what do u do to defeat jealousy? and become confident?

Answer 1

First you have to be confident in yourself, some things you cant control, so if your boyfriend decides to cheat you cant control what he decided to do, but you have to be confident that you are a good catch, and its his loss. At the time it may hurt but if you didn't do anything wrong, you will bounce back, be confident in that. Secondly if you have a good man and you know it you have to be confident that he wont go any where because he has something good at home.  

Answer 2

If you understand the complex biology behind "cheating" and "jealousy" that may help you understand your feelings (or rather fears) and overcome them easier.  

Biologically, males are programmed to 'distribute' their genetic material to as many "receivers" (female carriers of their offspring) as possible.  Since females have to invest considerably (in physical and mental energy) to raise and establish the survival of their offspring, they look out for different things, such as a stable, constant, provider kind of 'partners'.  

So the motivation of males and females to stay 'monogamous' or not are quite different.  However, today's cultures have been mixing things up lately (because it doesn't really make any sense for males to be jeleous of females with whom they're not planning on having any long term relationship or children anyway and vice versa).  

Jelousy is the fear and insecurity of a female who has to raise a child by herself, or for a male to have to raise the child of another man.  Most jealous dramas that police officers and EMS and other public safety officials get to witness are so out of touch with the real issues of these feelings that it seems absurd.  It's more of a learned behaviour (a.k.a. Jerry Springer syndrome), than a real thing based on actual facts.  

So, if you have insecurities, depend on that other person financially, or emotionally (which would be sad, and should be addressed therapeutically), or in any other way, try to work on becoming a wholesome, content, and independent person.  Good luck!