What is the best way to reward kids for doing something good ?

Question

What is the best way to reward kids for doing something good ?

Answer 1

Give them a hug and let them know you're proud of them. Parents are quick to let kids know when they are doing something wrong and usually don't recognize when they actually do the right thing. So I think it's important to acknowledge that and encourage the good behavior.

Answer 2

You don't.  I don't believe in rewarding my children for something they should be doing to begin with.  In real life you don't get rewarded for always doing the right thing because the right thing is something that is expected.

When my toddler does right I tell him thanks for being good and tell him he's acting like such a big boy and I'm proud of him.  That's about all he needs.  Rewards and bribes aren't effective for behavior modification.  All your child expects is a reward fore being good.

Answer 3

Kids respond differently to different things.  My son responds to a reward system and my daughter doesn't really care.  We set up a sticker chart for them and they can earn stickers based on doing different regular routines (brushing teeth, getting dressed by themselves, staying in bed).  Based on how many stickers they earn, they could get a few extra minutes of TV, get to go to Baskin-Robbins, pick where we go out for dinner on the weekends.

People can claim they don't give rewards, but soon enough when they're a little older, they'll be asking for allowances, etc.  Are you going to tell them no?  It's similar to work -- you go to work and get rewarded with a paycheck.  It's how the world works.

People can claim that they don't believe in a reward system, but when you really think about it, everyone does something for a specific reason/reward.  Kind of like Pavlov's law.

Answer 4

My son doesn't really get rewarded for doing something good, it encourages him to only behave well when there's a reward involved. When he does something good, I'll thank him for being good and tell him that he is a big boy - like someone else said they do. I'll also give him praise using words, he is only three and still learning. I will tell him 'well done' and 'good boy' when he does things right, it just reassures him of what he's doing.

When he's been really good for a while, I'll maybe take him out for an ice cream or take him to the play area. I make sure he knows that he only gets this for being a really good boy for so long, and he knows that he can't just expect it. I wouldn't give him rewards constantly though, but think it's good while he's still young to reward him every now and again.

Answer 5

Take them out for a treat such as ice cream or get them candy. Let your kid stay up late or take them to a hotel. get a movie with popcorn candy and pop!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

Our boys get special and in expensive outings... like yesterday i had a appointment and they were really good and then we went grocery shopping and they were good so they got a 2 hour trip to the library where they could play on computers and video games... and if they are exceptionally good they get to go to area 51 which is a video game station and play there for a couple of hours that only cost us 4.00 per child per hour...

Answer 7

with praise, hugs and affection, not material things. I don't see a problem with reward charts where they build up stickers and when they reach an amount they get a reward but I wouldn't give a reward for every little thing they do good. Praise is the best reward you can give a child. It builds their confidence and it also builds in them, the desire to please you.